Singleness is underrated. My time and attention are filled with plenty of things, like my career, dinner out with friends, ballgames, floating down the river with peeps, going to movies, etc etc.
Fill your life with meaningful experiences and friendships and then you won't obsess over marriage. If marriage is going to be worth anything, the relationship has to start off in the right place - and it won't if you're fixated on "getting married" right out of the gate.
TL;DR - Get a life. The rest will sort itself out.
Source: been married.
Word, friend.
It's taken me years to reach the level of contentment I'm at now. I've chased down many goals and achieved some awesome things. I've travelled the world multiple times, experienced amazing moments and met people that changed my life instantly.*
*Note, that I'm not trying to big myself up. None of what I've done is
really out of the ordinary (it's not at all actually). It's out there for ALL of us, and it's ready, right now.
Sit down and set goals. Set the bar high - REALLY high, higher than you ever dreamed or ever thought possible to reach. Because if you even so much as budge an inch higher than you initially planned, you would have still made radical changes to your life - significantly more than you would have otherwise done with the original plan. Who knows? You may even make it... So bug God constantly, and keep asking - I try my best to maintain a constant connection. I see Him as both a friend and a business partner. If an idea pops up in my head, I shall just ask for his blessing there and then. But only IF it's what's right - the BIG caveat.
View the human race as a level playing field. I've connected with multi-millionaires, just like I've connected with the homeless; and the way in which I conduct myself with both is the exact same: which is as real and as down to earth as I can be. Your ego is NOT your amigo. If you start ranking people you'll lose confidence very quickly - I guarantee it. That person who appears to "have it all" is as clueless as you or me.
Your goals should contribute (ultimately) to the greater good. They are bigger than you and ordered by God; you fulfilling them is His plan (whatever they are.) Staying on task and taking little nibbles at them consistently, each and every day, is ONLY going to lead you to infinite abundance - a lousy term, I know, but it's essentially what you'll receive in return for the consistency and effort you put in.
In short, craft your path and be as much YOU as you possibly can be. Don't worry too much about saving for a pension or 'that house' - because the chances are, you'll be off your trolley and sat in a nursing home when the time comes to cash in anyway! (I know I will, and no doubt sat in drenched kecks too!) So invest in the here and now and enjoy living. That proverbial rainy day may never come.
Give it a year, you'll see what I mean. I don't care if I ever marry or meet someone. Not that I wouldn't be happy if the stars eventually align that way, I just don't care so long as I'm fulfilling the mandate. I don't see the point to living otherwise.
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