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Athletes Question on Modesty

Discussion in 'Struggles with Sexuality' started by OllieA95, Jun 5, 2017.

  1. OllieA95

    OllieA95 New Member

    United States
    Hi all, Thanks for reading. Hope you all have a great day. I'm 23 and on a university wrestling team, I have also been blessed with a fiancé and we plan to marry when we both graduate in two years. We have both kept ourselves pure for marriage.

    My problem is that I am not comfortable in my wrestling singlet it shows a lot and to be honest I have always felt kind off exposed and naked in it. Now that my fiancé is coming to my matches etc, I feel that I am showing too much of myself to her.

    In training I can wear shorts over my singlet but in a match I can't. I have tried various under layers etc. but still not comfortable.

    My question is has anyone had a similar problem. Am I just being too sensitive or worrying about something that I shouldn't. Is there any guidance people can offer.

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  2. OwainK

    OwainK Member

    United Kingdom
    Sadly, I don't think there is a solution. You could try bodyarmours and stuff, but that'd just make you feel hot and uncomfortable when competing and doing the sport.

    Maybe ask her not to come? Only thing I can think of. It's a really tough one :/
  3. OllieA95

    OllieA95 New Member

    United States
    Thanks for feedback everyone. I guess god wouldn't have given me the ability to wrestle if it was not part of his plan.

    And of course I want my fiancé who I love at my matches. I guess with the singlet I feel that it's a temptation when we still have two years till marriage. My fiancé commented that she likes the way I look in it when she attends matches. Not sure how to approach it as a Christian. Ironically when ever I've had impure thoughts growing up I diverted my energy into prayer and sports/training.
  4. Dave-W

    Dave-W Welcoming grandchild #7, Arturus Waggoner! Supporter

    United States
    You are already engaged? 2 years can be an eternity ...... Personally I do not like engagements longer than 9 months to a year.

    But you will be married to her a LONG TIME, right?
    So why not have a conversation with her about it. Express your concerns. You did well here. It may not bother her at all. OTOH, it may be a hint of coming attractions. (but you will never know if you do not talk)

    Sexual conversations are often not easy, but the sooner you start, the easier they will be.
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  5. Bluerose31

    Bluerose31 Christian Flower Supporter

    United States
    I think it is okay that she sees you in it. You both care about each other and I am sure she will respect your body and you can pray to God to help you abstain from intimacy with her until you are married.
  6. makeajoyfulnoise100

    makeajoyfulnoise100 Tea, books, and rainy days <3 Supporter

    United States
    Well, I feel you, but for me, it's more about wearing bathing suits. I like tankinis with shorts but even then sometimes I feel that's exposing a lot. Silly, because other than a diving suit there isn't really anything modest about swim suits.
  7. faroukfarouk

    faroukfarouk Fading curmudgeon

    Hi there; good to see you.

    So do you guys go to the beach at all?

    Maybe you both wear swimwear?
  8. 4x4toy

    4x4toy Newbie Supporter

    I don't blame you, some of those things are stupid looking .. Can you wear shorts under the uniform like cut off sweat pants