Athletes Question on Modesty

[OllieA95]

Hi all, Thanks for reading. Hope you all have a great day. I'm 23 and on a university wrestling team, I have also been blessed with a fiancé and we plan to marry when we both graduate in two years. We have both kept ourselves pure for marriage.

My problem is that I am not comfortable in my wrestling singlet it shows a lot and to be honest I have always felt kind off exposed and naked in it. Now that my fiancé is coming to my matches etc, I feel that I am showing too much of myself to her.

In training I can wear shorts over my singlet but in a match I can't. I have tried various under layers etc. but still not comfortable.

My question is has anyone had a similar problem. Am I just being too sensitive or worrying about something that I shouldn't. Is there any guidance people can offer.

Thanks for reading

 

[OwainK]

Sadly, I don't think there is a solution. You could try bodyarmours and stuff, but that'd just make you feel hot and uncomfortable when competing and doing the sport.

Maybe ask her not to come? Only thing I can think of. It's a really tough one :/

 

[OllieA95]

Thanks for feedback everyone. I guess god wouldn't have given me the ability to wrestle if it was not part of his plan.

And of course I want my fiancé who I love at my matches. I guess with the singlet I feel that it's a temptation when we still have two years till marriage. My fiancé commented that she likes the way I look in it when she attends matches. Not sure how to approach it as a Christian. Ironically when ever I've had impure thoughts growing up I diverted my energy into prayer and sports/training.

 

[Dave-W]

You are already engaged? 2 years can be an eternity ...... Personally I do not like engagements longer than 9 months to a year.

But you will be married to her a LONG TIME, right?
So why not have a conversation with her about it. Express your concerns. You did well here. It may not bother her at all. OTOH, it may be a hint of coming attractions. (but you will never know if you do not talk)

Sexual conversations are often not easy, but the sooner you start, the easier they will be.

 

[Bluerose31]

Hi all, Thanks for reading. Hope you all have a great day. I'm 23 and on a university wrestling team, I have also been blessed with a fiancé and we plan to marry when we both graduate in two years. We have both kept ourselves pure for marriage.

My problem is that I am not comfortable in my wrestling singlet it shows a lot and to be honest I have always felt kind off exposed and naked in it. Now that my fiancé is coming to my matches etc, I feel that I am showing too much of myself to her.

In training I can wear shorts over my singlet but in a match I can't. I have tried various under layers etc. but still not comfortable.

My question is has anyone had a similar problem. Am I just being too sensitive or worrying about something that I shouldn't. Is there any guidance people can offer.

Thanks for reading

I think it is okay that she sees you in it. You both care about each other and I am sure she will respect your body and you can pray to God to help you abstain from intimacy with her until you are married.

 

[makeajoyfulnoise100]

Well, I feel you, but for me, it's more about wearing bathing suits. I like tankinis with shorts but even then sometimes I feel that's exposing a lot. Silly, because other than a diving suit there isn't really anything modest about swim suits.

 

[faroukfarouk]

Thanks for feedback everyone. I guess god wouldn't have given me the ability to wrestle if it was not part of his plan.

And of course I want my fiancé who I love at my matches. I guess with the singlet I feel that it's a temptation when we still have two years till marriage. My fiancé commented that she likes the way I look in it when she attends matches. Not sure how to approach it as a Christian. Ironically when ever I've had impure thoughts growing up I diverted my energy into prayer and sports/training.

Hi there; good to see you.

So do you guys go to the beach at all?

Maybe you both wear swimwear?

 

[4x4toy]

Hi all, Thanks for reading. Hope you all have a great day. I'm 23 and on a university wrestling team, I have also been blessed with a fiancé and we plan to marry when we both graduate in two years. We have both kept ourselves pure for marriage.

My problem is that I am not comfortable in my wrestling singlet it shows a lot and to be honest I have always felt kind off exposed and naked in it. Now that my fiancé is coming to my matches etc, I feel that I am showing too much of myself to her.

In training I can wear shorts over my singlet but in a match I can't. I have tried various under layers etc. but still not comfortable.

My question is has anyone had a similar problem. Am I just being too sensitive or worrying about something that I shouldn't. Is there any guidance people can offer.

Thanks for reading

I don't blame you, some of those things are stupid looking .. Can you wear shorts under the uniform like cut off sweat pants