Asking out a complete Stranger

[yodaguy96]

Hello,
This is my first post here. I am a christian man, and I intend to marry a godly christian woman. That being said the church I currently attend has no available girls. At my local supermarket there is this girlnI have talked to a little, I would like to ask her for her number but I don't know about her faith. Would it be ok to ask her for her number? And then ask her about her faith later? Or should I bring that up first? Also, would this be considered too creepy asking a girl for her number? I don't want to frighten her either.

Thanks in advance and God Bless#

 

[Radrook]

I would say it's best to meet a girl in your church, get to know her gradually, and after both of you feel comfortable with each other and trust has been established then things can proceed from there in a Christian way. Also, always keep the following in mind:

Proverbs 31:30 ►
New International Version
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

 

[yodaguy96]

I would say it's best to meet a girl in your church, get to know her gradually, and after both of you feel comfortable with each other and trust has been established then things can proceed from there in a Christian way. Also, always keep the following in mind:

Thank you Radrook, I was hoping I would find someone who had been in a similar situation. I have been praying for the Lord to help me find a good advisor. I will follow your advice. I really appreciate it brother. Please pray for me.

God Bless!

 

[-Luca]

The likelihood of her being a Christian is very unlikely but I am sure it won't hurt to ask. When It comes to relationships and finding a partner we should really let God worry about that and not us, we need to put all of our faith in him. Because if we don't we are usually always on the wrong path - we make our own decisions. If we did follow our own hearts and desires, perhaps it will put a strain on your relationship with God amomgst other examples.

 

[yodaguy96]

The likelihood of her being a Christian is very unlikely but I am sure it won't hurt to ask. When It comes to relationships and finding a partner we should really let God worry about that and not us, we need to put all of our faith in him. Because if we don't we are usually always on the wrong path - we make our own decisions. If we did follow our own hearts and desires, perhaps it will put a strain on your relationship with God amomgst other examples.

Ok, thanks for your advice brother, I will try and bring up faith next time I am there, I guess after her answer I will go from there. Thank you brother and God Bless!

 

[Roseonathorn]

I really do not think asking for her number is the best way. That would be like ignoring her as a person. Like first She probably have noticed that You feel something for her so I think bringing up faith would be ok. However it would be safer to give Your own number to her if You want an answer and want to get to know her. You could also offer to do some mans work for her, like changing tires or repairing things or cutting grass, good computerfixing skills or if You are good with any instrumenst playing on birthdays and parties or give lessons. Ask if She needs Your service and give Your name and phone nr. Tell her You are a christian and no creepy guy. You rather choose Your customers with care and she seems like a neat girl. As for payment, do not ask for much but ask for a little or otherwise You would come out as a bit strange. I as probably many other girls before usually do not respond to strangers asking for my number and no way that I would start a relationship with a stranger. You have to use Your brains a bit. In my youth so many nice boys and men wanted me and some of my friends as girlfriends but We were travelling and not open for a romance no matter how nice they were, sometimes there is simply nothing wrong with You except timing.

 

[yodaguy96]

I really do not think asking for her number is the best way. That would be like ignoring her as a person. Like first She probably have noticed that You feel something for her so I think bringing up faith would be ok. However it would be safer to give Your own number to her if You want an answer and want to get to know her. You could also offer to do some mans work for her, like changing tires or repairing things or cutting grass, good computerfixing skills or if You are good with any instrumenst playing on birthdays and parties or give lessons. Ask if She needs Your service and give Your name and phone nr. Tell her You are a christian and no creepy guy. You rather choose Your customers with care and she seems like a neat girl. As for payment, do not ask for much but ask for a little or otherwise You would come out as a bit strange. I as probably many other girls before usually do not respond to strangers asking for my number and no way that I would start a relationship with a stranger. You have to use Your brains a bit. In my youth so many nice boys and men wanted me and some of my friends as girlfriends but We were travelling and not open for a romance no matter how nice they were, sometimes there is simply nothing wrong with You except timing.

Thank you RoseanThorn,

I will certainly take your advice and put it to good use. I am pretty good at mowing, I can change oil, tires and a few things like that. I hadn't thought of what you had suggested. That sounds like a good idea, thank you for your advice, it is possible I may see her today, I will see if I can work something out. Would you please pray for me as well?

God Bless you sister,

It warms my heart for all of your awesome replies brothers and sisters, and I know that one day we will all meet in heaven. Thank you all and God Bless ya'll!

 

[Radrook]

Thank you Radrook, I was hoping I would find someone who had been in a similar situation. I have been praying for the Lord to help me find a good advisor. I will follow your advice. I really appreciate it brother. Please pray for me.

God Bless!

I know that the as loneliness and isolation increases the more tempting to delve into the availability offered by the world's seemingly numberless options.

But what one fails to realize in the desperation of such moments is that the quantity's quality is questionable. The woman I took a chance on had been an atheist and only revealed it after I had spent my money and wasted my time and was subjected to a barrage of insults. She had known that was a Christian and probably despised me for it and felt a need to inflict humiliation.

So restricting our choices within the boundaries of Christianity will reduce that particularly nasty fanatical possibility as well as nastiness in relation to devil worshippers, amoral females with absolutely no respect for biblical restrictions, and worldly women who might consider worldly personality traits, such as being loud, a tendency to violence, arrogant swaggering, prideful boasting, and even being promiscuous womanizing as attractive and conversely view our Christian reluctance to behave in those devilish ways as unmanly and wimpish.


Prayer:
May God bless and be with you always and may he guide you in all your choices and present you with the companion in the faith.

Amen!

Proverbs 3: 6 … Trust in the LORD with all your heart And do not lean on your own understanding. 6In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight.

 

[yodaguy96]

I know that the as loneliness and isolation increases the more tempting to delve into the availability offered by the world's seemingly numberless options.

But what one fails to realize in the desperation of such moments is that the quantity's quality is questionable. The woman I took a chance on had been an atheist and only revealed it after I had spent my money and wasted my time and was subjected to a barrage of insults. She had known that was a Christian and probably despised me for it and felt a need to inflict humiliation.

So restricting our choices within the boundaries of Christianity will reduce that particularly nasty fanatical possibility as well as nastiness in relation to devil worshippers, amoral females with absolutely no respect for biblical restrictions, and worldly women who might consider worldly personality traits, such as being loud, a tendency to violence, arrogant swaggering, prideful boasting, and even being promiscuous womanizing as attractive and conversely view our Christian reluctance to behave in those devilish ways as unmanly and wimpish.


Prayer:
May God bless and be with you always and may he guide you in all your choices and present you with the companion in the faith.

Amen!

Thank you brother, after a lot of prayer I have decided that I will not pursue this girl, I believe my best option will be to wait on the Lord, in the meantime I can work on letting God make me a better man, and to save money for my future family. Thank you all for your advice, and God Bless you all.

 

[Roseonathorn]

You know, by some reasons there are christians that do not go to church so often.

 

[Tsquared]

As one of my former Pastors always used to tell us young people in the youth group, "flirt to convert never works!" I must say, it has a ring to it. Relationship with God is so important that it should be a given in our intimate relationships, not to say that there's not the odd case where people have been converted by dating a Christian, but often times it works the other way around. I can guarantee you that if you pray for a partner, God will give you the perfect match Keep on keeping on, God bless you.

 

[Jamminontha1]

Hello,
This is my first post here. I am a christian man, and I intend to marry a godly christian woman. That being said the church I currently attend has no available girls. At my local supermarket there is this girlnI have talked to a little, I would like to ask her for her number but I don't know about her faith. Would it be ok to ask her for her number? And then ask her about her faith later? Or should I bring that up first? Also, would this be considered too creepy asking a girl for her number? I don't want to frighten her either.

Thanks in advance and God Bless#

I would say it's always ok to make new friends, but to never compromise your faith. If you guys do happen to see each other outside of work, it's always good to say something the first day. I went on a blind date once back when I was a "seeker" and was pleasantly surprised to find out that the guy I was on a date with was a faithful Christian. You never know.

As far as finding Godly women, here are a few place you can look if there's not enough women in your church:
Local Meetups- Meetups.com is a great place to find other christians in your area. You can even start your own meetup group.
Christian concerts- Here's where you can find some enthusiastic women who love to worship
Church outreaches- Some churches have outreaches that are open to the public
Christian conferences
Other churches- I personally have a "home church" where I go every sunday, and another church I go to when I visit my mom. It's a great way to network and branch out.
Online dating- There are faith-based sites and sites that match you with others of the same faith
Missions
Christian trips, tours, or cruises