When I was 21, I told a wonderful Christian girl my age I had feelings for her. I should have just asked her out, but I was very naive at the time. She told me she wasn't interested in me romantically. We have not been in touch in nearly 10 years, but I know she is still single and as far as I know she has not been in a serious relationship during that time.
Now, soon I'll be moving to the city she lives in, and I would like to ask her out. The problem is, I don't know whether it would be a morally good or bad thing to do. On the one hand, I feel like I would be disrespecting her clear rejection if I tried again. On the other hand, it was so long ago, and people change. For example, there are girls I would be interested in now who I wouldn't have been 10 years ago. Also, even if she's still not interested, I feel like it might at least encourage her to know that a guy is interested in her, given that she's been single for so long and is in her 30s. I'm not afraid of rejection, and realistically don't expect her feelings to have changed, but I am afraid of the possibility she will get frustrated or feel awkward/uncomfortable about me perusing her again after her clear rejection 10 years ago.
I'm very inexperienced when it comes to relationships and would like to know what might be an appropriate way to handle the situation. I do not want to ask her out if it would be immoral to do so.
Now, soon I'll be moving to the city she lives in, and I would like to ask her out. The problem is, I don't know whether it would be a morally good or bad thing to do. On the one hand, I feel like I would be disrespecting her clear rejection if I tried again. On the other hand, it was so long ago, and people change. For example, there are girls I would be interested in now who I wouldn't have been 10 years ago. Also, even if she's still not interested, I feel like it might at least encourage her to know that a guy is interested in her, given that she's been single for so long and is in her 30s. I'm not afraid of rejection, and realistically don't expect her feelings to have changed, but I am afraid of the possibility she will get frustrated or feel awkward/uncomfortable about me perusing her again after her clear rejection 10 years ago.
I'm very inexperienced when it comes to relationships and would like to know what might be an appropriate way to handle the situation. I do not want to ask her out if it would be immoral to do so.