What do you mean "lay hold?" How do you believe that works?
The Holy Spirit quickens the spiritually dead, so that they now have the mind to believe, assent, and trust in the accomplishment of Christ on our behalf. Christ is the object of our faith, hence, once regenerated, we now are able to have true faith (belief, assent, trust) in that object.
are you saying that the reason someone should get baptized is to say that they want to be a disciple? Well, yes, maybe. If that were the reason to be baptized, then I could see why parents should have their infants baptized. They have responsibility over their children who are too young to choose for themselves to be disciples, thus the parents choose for them. Yes, that would make sense.
The wanting is not the driver here, for infants certainly don't "want" in the sense you state. The issue is that baptism is a sign and seal of the covenant of grace. As Shaw states (did you read his exposition, for you are asking questions answered therein?), "
Baptism is a dedicating ordinance, in which the party baptised is solemnly given up to God to be his and for him, now, wholly, and for ever.". Shaw lists 5 reasons why infants should be baptized. I won't repeat them here due to their length.
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As stated, Baptism is a sign and a seal of God’s gracious covenant with man. Baptism is something done
to us. We are passive in baptism.
Isn't Baptism when we actively obey Jesus by giving a public profession of our faith? What exactly do you think it is that's being done to you??
Again Shaw answers you: "
It is a solemn admission of the party baptised into the visible Church, and to all its privileges."
Yes, I could not agree more and this is why I believe Baptism is best done after someone has forgiveness of sins, newness of life in Christ, participation in Christ, and membership in the New Covenant, not before.
Friend, you continue to assert this despite the numerous references I have provided you that clearly differ. These references also provide Scriptural arguments for the same that you either have not read or refuse to interact with. Please study them carefully and post your responses in accord with these expositions. For me to explain everything is to violate a principle I try to live by:
I fear explanations of things explained.
Sometimes it seems the God-Spirit does not give the benefits at all. Would you not agree that are many adults baptized as infants who have yet to receive said benefits? Do you believe that everyone baptized as an infant will go on to get saved?
Once more, Shaw answers you:
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...baptism is not regeneration, nor are all who are baptised undoubtedly regenerated."
AMR