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Are You Brave Enough to Post A Picture of Yourself?
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Strider1002
For when I am weak, then I am strong.
I half-jokingly asked Leo for a picture in another thread (even though I've seen her before and I know she's very pretty)... well, I wouldn't ask someone to do something I'm not willing to do myself!
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ReesePiece23
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^ Yeah, for some reason I pictured you with a beard and a hat like that. I've obviously seen a snap of you before...
Female photos are few and far between these days. We've had a few too many altercations between the girls and some of our more 'socially challenged' members - if you know what I mean...
Female photos are few and far between these days. We've had a few too many altercations between the girls and some of our more 'socially challenged' members - if you know what I mean...
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Are you talking about me? Lol.
Sadly I'm more socially capable than many would like to think. Just some communities I don't care about trying to prove it.
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ReesePiece23
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No no, just men in their 50's who think it's acceptable to stalk young women.
You're cool.
By the way, I rated your post by accident. I KEEP doing that!
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ReesePiece23
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Well that's sad. Maybe we need some more White Knights to stand up for them!
I don't think we have any left. It's chic to be aloof now.
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Oh alright. Whenever something negative is said I think it's about me. I don't see any point in stalking women, especially ones on the Internet. Lol.
Stubby fingers? I do that when I'm on my phone sometimes.. lol. I never saw the rating anyways. Lol.
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I hate white knighting.. we should be treating women with the same respect and also harshness as we treat men. Don't baby them, but also be respectful and not stalk them either. Or act like a desperate freak around them. If they're doing that to other men, that's not ok either. Although for most women we men are below average in looks, so it's understandable if they have an easier time not falling into such mindsets. Lol.
Although I'll admit, I'm kind of aloof regarding a lot of that drama here.
Although I'll admit, I'm kind of aloof regarding a lot of that drama here.
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Strider1002
For when I am weak, then I am strong.
Well, some guys think they can get something from a woman if they treat them extra special. But that's insulting to them, I think. Women should be treated well regardless! Because they're beautiful, and smart, and talented, and their posts are always so insightful, and they make the world go 'round...
I'm trying to be ironic. Not sure if it's working.
I'm trying to be ironic. Not sure if it's working.
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They shouldn't be treated any more kindly than men. That's just going to foster sexism. Which is what annoys me about feminists.. they want the good and not the bad. To not be babied when it doesn't benefit them, and to be babied when it does.
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Sister and I gearing up for graduation. Me my BA, and she her MA... even though she's younger than me.
Look at you! Congratulations!!!!
That pose is pretty epic lol
Strider nice to see you againI half-jokingly asked Leo for a picture in another thread (even though I've seen her before and I know she's very pretty)... well, I wouldn't ask someone to do something I'm not willing to do myself!
I can't imagine you without the Indiana Jones hat.
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Oooh lala!I half-jokingly asked Leo for a picture in another thread (even though I've seen her before and I know she's very pretty)... well, I wouldn't ask someone to do something I'm not willing to do myself!
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Strider1002
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Now you can!Strider nice to see you again
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timewerx
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I though I saw her too but I can't remember like @RayofSun . Can't remember their faces anymore
I only remember @Cimorene because I used to have a neighbor who looked like her, very good person and seem to like me, greets and compliments me whenever we bump into each other and helped me out in some things but I never asked her out!
Now you see why I'm still single!
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ReesePiece23
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Moderation is the secret to happiness.
You're both absolutely right. The problem with white knighting is that you're straight away objectifying a woman and seeing her as a helpless maid who needs 'saving' - and even if you can't see that you're doing it, you ARE. It's borderline fetishism to be perfectly honest, and actually a massive indicator that the man has no faith in his ability to win a woman over without going white knight on them. It's a behaviour that needs to be discouraged as much as possible, because it's not authentic behaviour, and it's actually not fixing the man's low self-esteem.
I don't know how many women will agree with me here, but this is my take. If you see a girl you like (and I must place emphasis on actually liking them. Do NOT mess people around) then talk to them. But avoid pointless small talk like the plague. Do it a bit to break the ice fair enough, but get into a deeply involved conversation as quickly as possible.
Ask her what she's most passionate about, and when it's her turn to talk, actually LISTEN to the damn girl and make sure it all goes in. Don't just passively agree with everything she says in an attempt to get her to like you more. If your opinion differs from hers, speak out about it and challenge her. Stick to your guns and show faith in your own point of view. Don't grovel to her and suck up, it's pathetic.
If you like her, other guys will too. They'll hit on her, wolf whistle, drop the pick up lines and white knight her all day and all night. If you follow suit you're just another face in the crowd. Lots of men talk, but very few listen or even remember what she said, and even fewer take those things to heart and connect with her - and that there, is what'll do it for you. Now, I am NOT claiming to be a ladies man or a dating guru, I am simply applying logic and sense here. When you cut through the nitty gritty, it really is the most basic basics of human psychology. There's no 'trick'.
And I'm actually with you MehGuy, we should all be putting in the same amount of effort to forge friendships, camaraderie and deeper bonds with family members. I just think it's a different energy with romance - not more or less, just different. No one should be put on a pedestal and be made more important. Only Jesus Himself should qualify for that role (I know you'll disagree with me, but you know what I mean.)
Bottom line is this. Authenticity should be our north star. Don't ever change who or what you are for anybody. Ever.
*Steps off soap box*
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