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anyone engaged here?
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congratulations!
as for me, i'm not engaged. i've been with my bf for two years, and we want to get married very badly. we have so much love for each other, and we feel that God meant for us to be together. what's stopping us? money..
as for me, i'm not engaged. i've been with my bf for two years, and we want to get married very badly. we have so much love for each other, and we feel that God meant for us to be together. what's stopping us? money..
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IslandBreeze
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Don't let money stop you from getting married. If you guys consider it a problem now, it's only going to get worse after you get married. If you let it stop you from being married, it's going to totally consume and ruin your marriage. GET MARRIED! Don't worry about the money; GOD will take care of you!
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DaveKerwin
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I agree.
You are better off being married and living off of rice, than not being married and having premarital sex. Let's be honest, long-term dating relationships are VERY tough in this respect.
When I get engaged, its gonna be for maybe six months.
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i know you guys are right, and i want to get married so badly. i even showed my bf this thread, and he said "they're wrong, do you know how much a wedding is going to cost?" he puts money before everything. i wouldn't think twice about giving up some things to get married to him. but he doesn't want to give up anything, being comfortable is his foremost priority. i guess i'm not enough :*( i really feel resentful that he thinks this way, and thinks that i'm going to wait around forever. i could really use some prayer, and some people to chat with about this.
thanks!
thanks!
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Girlscout,
Don't get in a hurry. A smart man is a man who admits he isn't ready for marriage. I got married at 26. I'm glad I waited because I wasn't ready for it any time earlier.
Don't get in a hurry. A smart man is a man who admits he isn't ready for marriage. I got married at 26. I'm glad I waited because I wasn't ready for it any time earlier.
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DaveKerwin
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let me clarify my position. if its possible, and you know you want to be together forever, then as soon as possible make the committment to avoid provision to the flesh. if resources are not available right at the moment, then pick a date and go for it. A wedding is not about the high production, you can keep it low key if you want. to him, it may not be that you are not enough, rather that he just wants to be better prepared. If you are not burning with desire, then holding off is ok. But if you are human like me, and there are big struggles, then it would be best if it was not long. I would take his lead if I was you, and pray for God's will to be done. Peace.
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I bought my girlfriend a ring; I just have to give it to her. Any ideas about creative proposals?
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jayebrownlee
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I am getting married on the 16th of August 2003, I can't wait, by the time we get married we will have been engaged for about 14 months, we wanted it sooner but lots of things meant that that was the first available date.
Your sister in Christ
Jay
Your sister in Christ
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IslandBreeze
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Creative proposals.....lol...how bold are you?????.....
Dave is absolutely right. Six months engagement is way long enough. My husband and I waited a year after we got engaged, and to be honest, that was the most horrible year of my life. We just wanted to be together,and we did wait until our wedding night to have sex. But we wanted to go home to the same house together at night after work, we wanted to wake up and talk to each other in the morning before work...when we DID buy our house, my husband moved in, and I stayed at my parents. Even though I was at the house every day, I had to leave every night, and go back to my parents' house. It was horrible counting down the days...maybe other people see it differently, but I did NOT like the engagement period.
If your fiance is THAT hung up about money, you might want to rethink marrying him. Like I said, if things are problems NOW, they're only going to get worse after you get married.
*It's not the wedding that's important, it's the marriage...*
BTW--30 is WAY too old to get married...by then people are so set in their ways, they have a hard time adjusting to someone else in their space...younger is BETTER!
Dave is absolutely right. Six months engagement is way long enough. My husband and I waited a year after we got engaged, and to be honest, that was the most horrible year of my life. We just wanted to be together,and we did wait until our wedding night to have sex. But we wanted to go home to the same house together at night after work, we wanted to wake up and talk to each other in the morning before work...when we DID buy our house, my husband moved in, and I stayed at my parents. Even though I was at the house every day, I had to leave every night, and go back to my parents' house. It was horrible counting down the days...maybe other people see it differently, but I did NOT like the engagement period.
If your fiance is THAT hung up about money, you might want to rethink marrying him. Like I said, if things are problems NOW, they're only going to get worse after you get married.
*It's not the wedding that's important, it's the marriage...*
BTW--30 is WAY too old to get married...by then people are so set in their ways, they have a hard time adjusting to someone else in their space...younger is BETTER!
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I must amit that i am not much enjoying my engagement, I love my fiancé very much and will be very happy to be amrried to him, but we are finding it very hard to be apart even though we are going to be together all the time soon, we wanted a short engagement but we hadn't been going out long and wanted to show our families that we were serious by taking things a little more slowly than some might.
Your sister in Christ
Jay
Your sister in Christ
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Jay!
Your wedding day is one day after ours! We got married on the 15 of August!
Rock on sister!
Your wedding day is one day after ours! We got married on the 15 of August!
Rock on sister!
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that is in deed very cool!!
When I was at school my best friends' (they were twins) parents had exactly the same wedding aniversary as my parents, they got married in the same year and everything!!
Your sister in Christ
Jay
When I was at school my best friends' (they were twins) parents had exactly the same wedding aniversary as my parents, they got married in the same year and everything!!
Your sister in Christ
Jay
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DaveKerwin
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Whatever you do, make sure you ask her Dad first, and go somewhere romantic and get down on one knee. Don't just get down on one knee and say "so will ya?" Say something that makes her feel special and ask her to be your wife. The rest of it you gotta figure out yourself.
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