Any One Here Lost a Parent?

[IowaPastor]

My mom died on May 14, 2009. Almost a month ago, and I am still in shock and falling apart. She was 82 and had diabetes, and had had a few deep brain strokes. But she was actually doing better. But she went to bed on May 13th and passed away in her sleep.

And people around me act surprised that I'm having such a struggle. Grief for me is incredibly lonely. I can hardly go out in public. I can't sleep, but when I DO sleep, I dream about her and it startles me awake. Or I hear her voice. It makes my joints hurt. I've had nausea almost every evening since she died. As a follower of Jesus, I've had people 'shame' me for my sorrow. Where's the 'joy of the Lord?' they ask. And I wonder whatever happened to 'Weep with those who weep?'

Gracemama, I'm so sorry to read about your loss. Be gentle on yourself; your grief is still very fresh, in fact, you're probably still numb and that's a ok.

Take your time grieving your loss and do it in your own way. I believe that God grieves with us when we lose people near and dear to us.

I lost my mom on March 1, 2008, and at times I still feel the loss accutely. It does get better. But be sure to give yourself time to mourn your loss.

Sending another big, warm hug your way

God Bless....

 

[Kims]

I lost my precious Mom on the 2nd April 2009. She had a massive stroke on the 26th March 2009 and spent 7 days in a coma before she died. She was only 62 years old. My pain is still extreme and every day is a challenge. I miss her so much.

 

[Sophrosyne]

I lost my mom in 2001 and my father in 2006
mom died in her sleep unexpected and dad died 7 weeks after diagnosed with cancer.

 

[gracemama]

Thank you, Ciada. God bless you.

 

[gracemama]

Thank you, IowaPastor. I appreciate all the kindness here. Maybe I should check into grief counseling. God bless and comfort you all.

 

[harper97]

I lost my dad May 30, 2009. The funeral was just 2 weeks ago. The week leading up to the funeral was quite busy, and once it was over and extended family had gone home I knew it would be time to get down to the business of grieving. I figured I'd be out of commission for a week, but now it's 2 weeks and I'm only semi-functional. My sleep schedule is always problematic for me, but lately I'm seldom in bed before it gets light.

He was 82 and had cancer for at least 2 years. We knew he was going, but didn't expect him to suddenly die in his bed. He had just been feeling a bit better. I'm really glad I talked to him quite a bit in the last year, researched our family tree and picked his brain for memories. I made a family tree web site on the night my aunt died in Dec. '08. I found an old song with our family name in it that he loved from childhood and often tried to sing but didn't know all the words. I surprised him with it -- my mom helped me sneak it into their DVD player and when he heard it he walked in, singing, with a surprised look on his face. I've also been digitizing his old slides and negatives, and had a lot of fun reviewing them with him. It was like I was doing my preliminary grieving, but it's still a big blow.

I know he was a believer. I expect to see him in Heaven. But the doubts nag me, and all I can think is that I'm just going to keep losing people until it kills me. I don't feel that my faith is strong. I just want to sleep for a week or two, but know I have to get back to taking care of myself.

Thanks for listening (sniff).

Sharon

 

[NostalgicGranny]

My prayers are with you all.

 

[fairygailie]

i'm sorry for everyone's losses. my mom died a year and a half ago on new years eve, and the hardest part is the void that she left. even though i didn't see her every day, we talked every day - even for a little bit. i always knew she was there.

now i feel so empty and alone. the loss of her love sure has left a huge void.

God did bless me tremendously because after suffering along with her that last month in hospice house, i wrote her a beautiful poem 5 mins before she died, and i was with her when the Lord came for her. that meant alot to me, because i was all she had.

 

[thriftyEvie]

my mom died May,1st,2009 and am not dealing w/ it well yet, at all

 

[fairygailie]

is there any aspect you'd want to talk about? maybe i can help.

 

[mistygirl]

my father went to heaven on june 14.it still seen like yesterday.i miss him so much.

 

[BlessEwe]

Yes, I lost both of my parents at a young age. Any age you loose a parent is very painful. Are you talking to someone, or going to a support group? I hope so, it really helps to get out what your feeling.

 

[power2theweak]

I just lost my mom a week ago to cancer. She battled an aggressive form of Non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma for two years. This is the hardest thing that I've ever gone through.

 

[pgp_protector]

So sorry for your loss. It takes awhile to get past the loss.

I lost my mom, well, in some ways, a few years ago, and in others, about 13 years ago. She had Alzheimer's.

My wife's mom is going through that right now, her dad has already passed.
Me, I lost both a while ago.
One to cancer (smoking), one to a heart attack and died in the hospital

 

[sad.sad]

My father died in 2001, it still hurts sooooo much. My father had also had a stroke years before and he had become a different man. I feel like I lost my dad twice. I grieved for my dad when he had the stroke and now he is gone again. I miss him so much. I still think about him everyday and wish he was here with me. I have so much guilt, I wanted my dad to have a operation that they said may have saved him, but my family didn't want it, and he said no too. I just don't believe he was able to make that decision. I know he loved the Lord, and I do beleive he is with him, but It still hurts very much!

 

[Chaplain David]

my father went to heaven on june 14.it still seen like yesterday.i miss him so much.

I sure do understand. My father died last December 23rd. I miss him too. I pray that we are all blessed in our grief and stay close to the Lord our God, Savior and Comforter.

 

[power2theweak]

I pray that we are all blessed in our grief and stay close to the Lord our God, Savior and Comforter.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

 

[I_love_the_rain]

My mom passed away on June 8th. I was just wondering how many of us has gone through this.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my mum recently. Life sometimes goes like this: One Thursday in January we knew mum was a little unwell and we cancelled a shopping trip. We sat by her bed and watched a funny video instead and we had a laugh. The following Monday she was rushed to hospital semi consious. The next morning she died. Pneumonia - if only we knew she had it! Our whole family was crushed.

 

[RuthD]

My condolences to all of you. I lost my mother to cancer in 2003-it was just horrible. I lost my dad to artheroslerosis in 2006. I miss them a lot.

 

[servant of Merciful Love]

My Mom died suddenly on November 14; she was 82.
Ironically she was a 5 year cancer survivor!
It was pneumonia that caused her death; brought on by acid refluxe/ aspiration of the stomach acid into her lungs :o
You never know how/when your time will come.

My Dad died at age 38 from Hodgekins Lymphosarcoma.
I was 13 and cared for him at home with my Mom; He died at home.
That experience led me to become a nurse...later specializing in Hospice Care

Praying for all who have lost loved ones