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Jeremi, your method's a nice way of breaking the ice, I'm sure! I'm just concerned that more conservative/humourless/gullible people (like me) might take your words at face value and be put off. But maybe that's not the type of girl you want, anyway :)

Do some people really respond by hitting you?
 
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Jeremi, your method's a nice way of breaking the ice, I'm sure! I'm just concerned that more conservative/humourless/gullible people (like me) might take your words at face value and be put off. But maybe that's not the type of girl you want, anyway :)

Do some people really respond by hitting you?
Oh yeah. I've been hit quite a few times. LoL.

And yes, I need a girl with a sense of humor and a sense of joy. I love to laugh and be laughed at/with. Because of this, I need someone who understands my sense of humor as well as someone who can joke back.

I think the best response I have ever gotten to that line was, "Coffee, dinner AND casual sex... Hmmm... Ok but it will have to be on a day that I'm not volunteering at my church or having sex for crack."

That girl was spicy. I liked her. Too bad she was crazier than I thought. It might have worked out.
 
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Oh yeah. I've been hit quite a few times. LoL.

And yes, I need a girl with a sense of humor and a sense of joy. I love to laugh and be laughed at/with. Because of this, I need someone who understands my sense of humor as well as someone who can joke back.

I think the best response I have ever gotten to that line was, "Coffee, dinner AND casual sex... Hmmm... Ok but it will have to be on a day that I'm not volunteering at my church or having sex for crack."

That girl was spicy. I liked her. Too bad she was crazier than I thought. It might have worked out.
LOL, that is an awesome response :D I'm going to memorise that line for when a guy with an odd sense of humour attempts to ask me out. :D
 
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Would Jesus laugh at those sorts of jokes?

That's what I ask myself when it comes to possibly-controversial humor.
That's a good question. I have a long list of them that I will tell when I get there. Then I will let you know.

Either way, the point is to make someone smile. And you can't deny that it makes you smirk a bit when you think about it. Some random guy with an irresistable smile walks up and says something like that. Even if you are offended at first, you'll laugh about it with friends later.
 
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Well, Ink, I think Jesus might laugh at jokes about sex, if they're funny :) I don't actually find Jerimi's chat-up line very funny (no offense) but the girl's response was hilarious, and it's OK because it's obviously tongue-in-cheek. And if it was made up on the spot, she must be a smart girl.
 
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That's a good question. I have a long list of them that I will tell when I get there. Then I will let you know.

Either way, the point is to make someone smile. And you can't deny that it makes you smirk a bit when you think about it. Some random guy with an irresistable smile walks up and says something like that. Even if you are offended at first, you'll laugh about it with friends later.

I'm sorry that didn't make me smirk, and won't make me laugh later. If some guy - no matter how gorgeous - walked up to me and said that, I'd be completely turned off and I'd walk away as quickly as I could.

I'm not saying other women wouldn't find it funny.
 
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Well, Ink, I think Jesus might laugh at jokes about sex, if they're funny :) I don't actually find Jerimi's chat-up line very funny (no offense) but the girl's response was hilarious, and it's OK because it's obviously tongue-in-cheek. And if it was made up on the spot, she must be a smart girl.

Exactly what I'm looking for.

It's ok. My humor isn't for everyone. There a lot of people that don't like me for my humor, still more who think that I am arrogant for having the gall to say the things that I do. I'm not very good at being shy and even worse at keeping my mouth shut, especially when I should. So I need to find someone who understands this as well as someone who can keep me in line when I need to be. :D

Still, it is this personality which gets me just as many friends as enemies. I end up in the "friendzone" from time to time but, as it was mentioned earlier, the "friendzone" is just a construct of your mind. In reality, you just aren't what she is looking for but she still enjoys your company. If you can't be happy with that then you are far too involved with yourself to see what an honor it is to have others just enjoy your company. You should probably learn to enjoys theirs instead of looking for more.

Friendzone seems too much like a "my way or the highway" mentality.
 
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Well, Ink, I think Jesus might laugh at jokes about sex, if they're funny :) I don't actually find Jerimi's chat-up line very funny (no offense) but the girl's response was hilarious, and it's OK because it's obviously tongue-in-cheek. And if it was made up on the spot, she must be a smart girl.

To hint that Jesus laughs at jokes about sin is preposterous IMHO.

I agree that the girl's comeback was sharp, but I found it equally distasteful.

And I'm not puttin' anyone down here, I'm just saying what I think about it :)
 
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To hint that Jesus laughs at jokes about sin is preposterous IMHO.

I agree that the girl's comeback was sharp, but I found it equally distasteful.

And I'm not puttin' anyone down here, I'm just saying what I think about it :)
These are fair observations. I can also understand why you would not laugh.

Since all of my lines come from an agnostic point of view, I suppose I will have to learn new techniques for attracting Christian women now that I am a Christian man.

I am still working on it. I'll get there.
 
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I understand, Jerimi :) Thanks for allowing our differences without being offended.


I shall now do a jaunty Broadway-style exit from the thread...

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It's true. I get creeped out when a guy tries to 'befriend' me and it's just sheer overkill. And don't come off too needy or mushy. :sick:

Me too! It creeps me out when there are guys that clearly say they want to be my friend, but then hit on me or flirt with me...dude, you are my friend, and that is disrespectful. Then again, maybe if they were actually cute and I was actually interested I wouldn't get soo insulted!
 
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Oh yeah. I've been hit quite a few times. LoL.

And yes, I need a girl with a sense of humor and a sense of joy. I love to laugh and be laughed at/with. Because of this, I need someone who understands my sense of humor as well as someone who can joke back.

I think the best response I have ever gotten to that line was, "Coffee, dinner AND casual sex... Hmmm... Ok but it will have to be on a day that I'm not volunteering at my church or having sex for crack."

That girl was spicy. I liked her. Too bad she was crazier than I thought. It might have worked out.

That response right there should have been a red flag! Anyone who jokes about stuff like that lacks respect for themselves!

Sorry, I constantly read psychology books and read people too, that is what I see!
 
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Exactly what I'm looking for.

It's ok. My humor isn't for everyone. There a lot of people that don't like me for my humor, still more who think that I am arrogant for having the gall to say the things that I do. I'm not very good at being shy and even worse at keeping my mouth shut, especially when I should. So I need to find someone who understands this as well as someone who can keep me in line when I need to be. :D

Still, it is this personality which gets me just as many friends as enemies. I end up in the "friendzone" from time to time but, as it was mentioned earlier, the "friendzone" is just a construct of your mind. In reality, you just aren't what she is looking for but she still enjoys your company. If you can't be happy with that then you are far too involved with yourself to see what an honor it is to have others just enjoy your company. You should probably learn to enjoys theirs instead of looking for more.

Friendzone seems too much like a "my way or the highway" mentality.

It's called standards, and we all have them. You just said it yourself - you NEED a girl with similar sense of humor or understands you. Therefore, you also have standards and are faulting people for also having standards. Why the double standard dude???
 
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That response right there should have been a red flag! Anyone who jokes about stuff like that lacks respect for themselves!

Sorry, I constantly read psychology books and read people too, that is what I see!
I disagree.

Someone who can joke like that is comfortable with themselves. They have accepted themselves and have no fear of what others think of them.

I like that. No fear suits me as I am not afraid of much myself. When I say she was crazier than I thought... she wanted to get married. I didn't... so she tried everything. In the end, she wanted to get married so bad that she pushed me away. We parted on good terms but had to realize that we were just too different when it came to our future goals. Had I met her today, we would have gotten married the first time she asked. She was a wonderful woman... Just a bit crazy.
 
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It's called standards, and we all have them. You just said it yourself - you NEED a girl with similar sense of humor or understands you. Therefore, you also have standards and are faulting people for also having standards. Why the double standard dude???
What double standard... I am confused at this response. Please clarify?
 
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