AMWF Believers?

[joy4JESUS]

I am a white female who loves Asian males.
(This is not a slight to anyone else- just my preference.)
But it has been SO hard finding any that have a personal relationship with Christ.
I live in a rural area with no Asians, unfortunately.

Any other Caucasian ladies who love these beautiful men and their culture?
Any Asian men attracted to white women?

Would love your thoughts...

 

[Basil the Great]

I am not surprised that it is hard to find Asian Americans who are Christians. As I recall, Vietnam used to be 10% Christian, mostly Roman Catholic, and 90% Buddhist. The Philippines is the most Christian Asian country at somewhere near 90%, and again most of these are Catholic. Historically Christianity has had little success in Japan or China. My guess is that Hawaii would be your best bet in the U.S. to find Asian Americans who are Christians. Other than Hawaii, then California would probably come next. Sadly, both Hawaii and California rank high on the cost of living charts. You might have to travel to some medium sized or larger cities to find a decent number of Asian Americans. I wish you well in your search.

 

[Toro]

. @timewerx !!!!!! ......at least I think I remember him talking about being Asian.....
*Shining a big lighted tank symbol in the night sky*

 

[( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)]

Hmm. Who in the world makes a thread likes this in the first one or two posts of registering with a message board? I smell catfish.

 

[timewerx]

Hmm. Who in the world makes a thread likes this in the first one or two posts of registering with a message board? I smell catfish.

Also given the fact that Western Caucasian women don't usually fall for Asian guys for many valid reasons.

So I can't help but feel a little suspicious about this thread as well.

Yea we need more to trust, given the highly unusual circumstances. Otherwise, ironically, I would love to live and work in a rural place and I don't really care what race of the lady I wish to be with.

 

[Gnarwhal]

I'm neither a white woman nor an Asian man, but my sister is a white woman married to an Asian-American man (Korean-born, adopted by Japanese-American parents and raised in Los Angeles). They met in college through InterVarsity.

They have a great relationship, a great marriage, and it's been really fun to observe. I'm sure you'll find someone out there.

 

[joy4JESUS]

I am not surprised that it is hard to find Asian Americans who are Christians. As I recall, Vietnam used to be 10% Christian, mostly Roman Catholic, and 90% Buddhist. The Philippines is the most Christian Asian country at somewhere near 90%, and again most of these are Catholic. Historically Christianity has had little success in Japan or China. My guess is that Hawaii would be your best bet in the U.S. to find Asian Americans who are Christians. Other than Hawaii, then California would probably come next. Sadly, both Hawaii and California rank high on the cost of living charts. You might have to travel to some medium sized or larger cities to find a decent number of Asian Americans. I wish you well in your search.

Hi, and thank you for your input and info. I appreciate you taking the time to share.
God bless you!

 

[joy4JESUS]

Hmm. Who in the world makes a thread likes this in the first one or two posts of registering with a message board? I smell catfish.

Apparently I do! Who in the world JUDGES someone that they know nothing about, after they simply ask others input?
Guess we can both play the question game.

I would love to share my experiences and reasoning for looking for like-minded people. But I do not need to defend myself, nor would you care to hear anyways.
I just think it’s sad to be judged in such a way. I don’t know you personally, but I HAVE personally been hurt by people who were not what they claimed to be. As in, yeah, serious life-changing hurt- so I don’t appreciate being grouped with them.
I’m one of the 2% of society that does not project myself differently online, than how I am in real life. It has been that very naivety and trust that has caused me to be an overly-easy target.

I posted so early, because I thought I would be posting among my brothers and sisters in Christ- a SAFE place, withOUT judgement. Where I live, no white woman dates Asain men, even if we had some here. I’m just different. I didn’t ask to be attracted to one group over another. It’s just the way it is.
And being that I have yet to find someone near me who can relate- I thought I would ask other like-minded people.

I’m sorry for whatever you’ve gone through that’s caused you to judge someone you know, but maybe next time you might want to remember you don’t know the road that person has had to walk.
Give them a chance before you judge based on your assumptions.
That’s why Christians are leaving the Church. Because we can’t even be vulnerable around our, supposed, own kind.
That’s sad.

 

[Elliewaves]

There are several cities that have high concentration of Asian Christians and communities, and lots of Asian churches. Hope is not lost for you.

 

[joy4JESUS]

Also given the fact that Western Caucasian women don't usually fall for Asian guys for many valid reasons.

So I can't help but feel a little suspicious about this thread as well.

Yea we need more to trust, given the highly unusual circumstances. Otherwise, ironically, I would love to live and work in a rural place and I don't really care what race of the lady I wish to be with.

Everyone talks about Asian men like they are one of the least desirable among men.
I don’t personally understand this?!
WHY shouldn’t white women be interested? They are, in my opinion, superior in appearance. They are intelligent, have an extremely emotional, caring side, they are not afraid of diligence and hard work.
Correct me if I’m wrong... but aren’t those GOOD things?!
I’ve dated white men and other races.
I’m sorry, maybe I’m weird or crazy.. but to me, they just have something other men don’t.

Not to mention, aren’t you aware of the whole Kpop craze that’s been going on?? White women are going for Asian men like never before.
I personally have been attracted to them since I was a teenager

 

[joy4JESUS]

Thank you to those of you who have been kind enough to respond with respect and graciousness!

 

[joy4JESUS]

There are several cities that have high concentration of Asian Christians and communities, and lots of Asian churches. Hope is not lost for you.

Yes, but the sad thing is I am a total non-city girl. And most Asian guys wants nothing but the city life.

Thank you though, for your kind reply! I guess if it’s God’s will, He will make a way.

God bless you!

 

[joy4JESUS]

I'm neither a white woman nor an Asian man, but my sister is a white woman married to an Asian-American man (Korean-born, adopted by Japanese-American parents and raised in Los Angeles). They met in college through InterVarsity.

They have a great relationship, a great marriage, and it's been really fun to observe. I'm sure you'll find someone out there.

You are so sweet, thank you!
I personally think the two cultures really can work well together if both people are willing to work through the differences maturely and lovingly.

God bless!

 

[JAM2b]

I'm not trying to make you feel unwelcome, but that's not the best way to start out as a brand new member. You can scan through and see that most of us are Christians and have fellowship with each other, but we cannot see that about you because you haven't been around yet. You have us at a disadvantage, but want us to trust you like you felt you could trust us.

Because of the reasons you mentioned in one of your replies, people typically feel more trusting if they can become a little familiar with you before you open up with a potentially controversial question. We get people who come on here to troll or be creepy sometimes. Occasionally a new person will make a post that sounds like a dating profile, fishing around to see who might bite (that's not what this forum is for).

In an effort to not be naive or waste our time, many of us have come to question the genuineness of brand new posters when they start out too open or with questions that are probing.

You can be yourself and genuine without busting on here asking people questions. It probably would have been more appropriate to introduce yourself and mention that you are attracted to Asian men and have had difficulty finding someone, and left it at that. Or if you had asked, "How can find Asian Christians?" instead of making it about what we like or want.

I'm curious though. You mention how hard it is to find an Asian man to date and other people who are like-minded, and then you said in another post that "white women are going for Asian men like never before."

 

[timewerx]

Everyone talks about Asian men like they are one of the least desirable among men.
I don’t personally understand this?!

First time I saw White women when I went to USA (I'm not from USA), I had fairly mixed experience.

Either I got received very warmly or treated like a criminal. There's seems to be nothing in between!

Anyway, I never held a grudge, because some of the White women were very warm and quite hospitable towards me. Some have been one of the closest friends I had.

WHY shouldn’t white women be interested? They are, in my opinion, superior in appearance. They are intelligent, have an extremely emotional, caring side, they are not afraid of diligence and hard work.

Thank you, if you think of us Asian in that way! But we are still a mixed crowd. You might think those who ends up settling in USA are good because it's actually very tough to make it past US immigration. They only keep the good ones (usually those with highly demanded skills and potentially contribute to the economy) while keeping everyone else out!

Not to mention, aren’t you aware of the whole Kpop craze that’s been going on?? White women are going for Asian men like never before.
I personally have been attracted to them since I was a teenager

Yes, I'm aware of the Kpop craze but didn't know about White women caught by the craze too.

the sad thing is I am a total non-city girl. And most Asian guys wants nothing but the city life.

There's actually many Asian guys who wants rural life (and American country music, believe it or not). It just so often that USA mostly takes in Asians in the tech field which is obviously a city job.

While Asians with Forestry or Agricultural skills usually ends up elsewhere like New Zealand or Canada. There's very little demand for rural jobs in USA (that would need extra help from foreign workers), this is why it's very rare to find Asians in your place.

 

[Saucy]

I ate at a Chinese restaurant once if that helps.

 

[Gnarwhal]

I ate at a Chinese restaurant once if that helps.

Boom. Insta-marriage.

 

[blackribbon]

How is picking your potential husband primarily based on his race or culture Christian? I would think that you would first start with like-minded Christians and see who turns out to be "the one"?

 

[timewerx]

I’m sorry for whatever you’ve gone through that’s caused you to judge someone you know, but maybe next time you might want to remember you don’t know the road that person has had to walk.
Give them a chance before you judge based on your assumptions.
That’s why Christians are leaving the Church. Because we can’t even be vulnerable around our, supposed, own kind.
That’s sad.

I'm sorry if you got offended by some of the replies which may include my reply as well.

But I think this is no one's fault here.

There are online scammers everywhere including here in Christian Forums. I personally have been messaged (from other websites/email) by scammers, many of them were white females wanting a relationship upfront and they made it clear in their first message.

I had a friend who fell victim to one of these and lost a lot of money.

So we can't help but be cautious in dealing with anyone new online especially if they're looking for something that requires a "big step".

Under different circumstances, we could have been a lot nicer. I hope you can understand our perspective. How about we all start over again and welcome to singles section!

 

[timewerx]

How is picking your potential husband primarily based on his race or culture Christian? I would think that you would first start with like-minded Christians and see who turns out to be "the one"?

Although very rarely discussed, but if it comes to such point, most people I personally know have racial preferences when choosing partners.

The #1 reason for racial preference is cultural bias. A close #2 choice is looks.

And often, this personal preference is not individually unique nor objective in nature but heavily influenced by popular preferences and the mass media.