am i too young to get married!

[ebula1128]

The Question you need to be asking is,am i mature enough to be getting married? I am in the same situation as you, except for my fiance is in the marines. We are getting married in August.. by that time we will both be 20. I have been dating him since high school. I am in college and I have many scholarships that will pay for my school wherever I may go. There is a lot of thinking to do, but you can only truley be the one that knows the answer to your question. It seems to me that you have a pretty close walk to god, make sure that you are on god's time, and you are not just doing this to please each other. With God nothing can be broken apart, no matter what the percentage is. Yes 50 % of marriages end up in a divorce, because most of those marriages have nothing to do with the church, as in old days when religion was a thing you were raised up to do every sunday, and that is why the divorce rate in the 1940's, 1950's and so on is extremley lower. Don't let people scare you into a decision. If god is with you then there will be a way.
--Yvonne

 

[barefeetonholyground]

Wait until you know you're ready. I'm with a lot of people in here. Don't go for it if you have to question it.

 

[Gardener101]

Wait until you are 21.

 

[Tuffguy]

I would say yes, you are too young.

You can move with him and still not get married. Just get different places to live.

 

[JourneyRain]

The OP started this in 2003. I wonder what they ended up doing. They are probably close to 21 now!!

 

[miss_klara]

Lol, way to drag up an old thread!!!!!!!
I always think it's cool reading old threads like this, seeing who used to be a regular, who you still see around... good stuff.
It would be interesting to know how it panned out. Poor girl, we're reading this for the first time now, but she had to stick out those two years and chew on it all that time!!! Still, I'm finding time moves quicker than I give it credit for, often.
I hope she and her boyfriend found a happy marriage (or if they decided to wait, I hope they're looking forward to it!!!)

 

[Angeldove97]

Sean and I are both 21... I know we're both old enough to get married. But we're waiting until we both graduate college and get into our profession (both doing education) before getting engaged and married. We already know we're each other's soul mates though

 

[ChristianGirl1286]

If you think you're too young, then you're obviously too young.

 

[Gods4me]

well my plan was to get married to the father of my child and mov in together at like 18/19 but we broke up. i move out to live alone and have met a new guy and i honestly think its much better just knowing that i cn live with out my parents and in turn will be able to live with your husband.

if you think you to young then you possibly could be.

many ppl get married young and it right for them and others it isnt. it basically down to you altho god has the last say on the matter so id put a bit of prayer in to it.

 

[snowflake04]

well i am married, i got married at 18, i was in my 2nd year of pre-med when we married. I will tell you the things that became a problem with us and that is my schooling, because sometimes he feels neglected since it is incredibly demanding. I still am in school and he has learned to support me but that was obviously a big adjustment for him. For me it has been a desire to be with other people. Because my hubby was my first real boyfriend and we were together three years before marriage i didnt really date a whole lot of guys, and not that ive had an affair or anything like that, but there definately is curiousity there. Our marriage has required a huge amount of effort and committment. Marriage has improved our Christian walks since it has required us to become more patient, more loving, and it has just been an all around humbling experience. I love my husband and i don't regret marrying him, but that's not to say at times i dont wish i would have waited. i think schooling poses a big stress on marriage, but our faith has become much stronger through it all, and because we both relied on God to help us with meeting each others needs, we are doing just fine and love each other very much.