Alcoholics and Addicts Discussion/Support Thread

[cajunlady]

Hello my fellow alcoholics/addicts...How are all of you doing? I hope that you all are doing great. I am not so great, I am going through some real tough times. Someone that I know really close to me has relapsed, he is in a detox at the moment but I don't know what he is going to do after that. On top of that I find out this weekend that my 11 year old son is stealing things from others...I know that this too shall pass but I hate going through these feelings. I am just going to put my faith in the Lord and know that it will get better...I am going to bring my son to the person he stole from and he is going to apologize and give the gameboy he stole back to this person and I hope that helps him to stop stealing..I hope that I am doing the right thing.
I also have a daughter that is 18 months older than my son and I haven't allowed her to go on the internet in a long time because last year I found some letters she wrote to a boy and they were talking about having sex. Well after a year, I thought that I could maybe trust her back just a little and wow she is doing the same thing. She is talking about having sex at 12...GOD HELP ME...I try hard to be a good parent. I have found that being a parent is a one day at a time process just like recovery....thank you all for allowing me to vent..God bless..

 

[MarkChristopher]

Hello my fellow alcoholics/addicts...How are all of you doing? I hope that you all are doing great. I am not so great, I am going through some real tough times. Someone that I know really close to me has relapsed, he is in a detox at the moment but I don't know what he is going to do after that. On top of that I find out this weekend that my 11 year old son is stealing things from others...I know that this too shall pass but I hate going through these feelings. I am just going to put my faith in the Lord and know that it will get better...I am going to bring my son to the person he stole from and he is going to apologize and give the gameboy he stole back to this person and I hope that helps him to stop stealing..I hope that I am doing the right thing.
I also have a daughter that is 18 months older than my son and I haven't allowed her to go on the internet in a long time because last year I found some letters she wrote to a boy and they were talking about having sex. Well after a year, I thought that I could maybe trust her back just a little and wow she is doing the same thing. She is talking about having sex at 12...GOD HELP ME...I try hard to be a good parent. I have found that being a parent is a one day at a time process just like recovery....thank you all for allowing me to vent..God bless..

Stay strong CajunLady. It must indeed be very tough for you. I'm praying for you during these difficult times.

God Bless!

 

[SOTK]

I fell on day seven and smoked some pot. I don't even understand why.

At the risk of sounding like a smart alec, the answer is because you wanted to. In order for me to completely stop drinking, I had to get to a place where I wanted to be free of alcohol more than anything else. This meant that quitting had to become more important than anything else in my life. It absolutely has to be this way, because if you don't have your sobriety, you don't have anything. You understand what I mean?

I had to completely give my life and alcoholism over to God. I had to completely surrender to Him. Once I did that, God healed me. It's been almost 10 years now since I last had a drink. That is nothing short of a miracle! Praise God!

I can't emphasize enough the importance of truly wanting to quit. If you don't want to truly quit, you aren't going to. Again, I got to a place where I wanted freedom from alcohol more than anything else. I was completely sick (physical, emotional, and spiritual) and not quitting meant eventual death or jail for me.

 

[SOTK]

Good Morning Everybody!

Its a beautiful God-given day here in Terxas! I'm headed out the door shortly with my wife to a local park here. We have started a weekly routine of getting out of the house and doing some sort of exercise. (No small feat for wither of us since we haven't done this on a regular basis for a long time).

Point of the post is....I'm finding it helpful to stay asd active as I can. It drives away boredom and all but eliminates that need to consider having a drink.

Makes me feel a lot better as well.

Have a great weekend wherever you are. You are all in my prayers.

God Bless!

Exercise is great! I am glad things are going well for you, my friend! God bless!

 

[SOTK]

Hello my fellow alcoholics/addicts...How are all of you doing? I hope that you all are doing great. I am not so great, I am going through some real tough times. Someone that I know really close to me has relapsed, he is in a detox at the moment but I don't know what he is going to do after that. On top of that I find out this weekend that my 11 year old son is stealing things from others...I know that this too shall pass but I hate going through these feelings. I am just going to put my faith in the Lord and know that it will get better...I am going to bring my son to the person he stole from and he is going to apologize and give the gameboy he stole back to this person and I hope that helps him to stop stealing..I hope that I am doing the right thing.
I also have a daughter that is 18 months older than my son and I haven't allowed her to go on the internet in a long time because last year I found some letters she wrote to a boy and they were talking about having sex. Well after a year, I thought that I could maybe trust her back just a little and wow she is doing the same thing. She is talking about having sex at 12...GOD HELP ME...I try hard to be a good parent. I have found that being a parent is a one day at a time process just like recovery....thank you all for allowing me to vent..God bless..

You said it, faith in the Lord is extremely important during these types of seasons of difficulty. It always seems like to me that when adversity arrives in our lives that it comes in the form of many different types!

Regarding your son, you may want to consider having him talk with your Pastor for a while. Also, you could try calling up your local Juvenile Court and see if you could bring him down there and have a Juvenile Detention Officer talk to him about what it's like to be in jail. I am a Juvenile Detention Officer myself and I do this often in my state. I will be praying that your son realizes that he is sinning and that he is wrong for behaving like this. I will pray that God will convict him of his errors and to act in a more Christianly manner.

Hmmm...regarding your daughter, is she in a youth group at your church? Actually, is your son in one as well? Do you read the Bible with them? Or do they read the Bible themselves? I am just wondering how much they are exposed to the Word and how much they are around other Christian children. In my family, my kids are heavily exposed to the Word and spend a great deal of time with my church family. The majority of their peers are fellow Christians. Bad or unhealthy peer relations is the root of bad choices/behavior with many kids. Also, if kids are in the Word a lot, they are having a relationship with Jesus Christ. In other words, they are putting on the armor of God and this protects them from temptation.

You and your kids will be in my prayers!

 

[LoG]

Hi Cajunlady, sorry to hear the challenges you are going through. I think your solution for your son is a good one. Making amends certainly made me think twice about repeating certain mistakes.
Your daughter's problem sounds like it could be a challenge. Perhaps her access to the internet isn't the problem but her desire is. Like us addicts and alcoholics not being able to hide from the booze and drugs, it is difficult to hide her from the boys whether on the net or in real life. Maybe pointing out to her the ramifications of unwed mothers, or that sex does not equal love or coolness or popularity might be an area to explore with her. What does she think sex will do for her? If you know that, you may have a basis for talking with her about it.
I pray you find the strength to respond to her instead of reaction.

 

[cajunlady]

Hello,
Well after being so upset yesterday, I made myself go to church because God knows I really didn't want to. Well while I was there I heard something that I really needed to hear (like always). After church my children went into their little bible study class and I sat in my car and called people and talked about what was going on with me. When we finally left their I brought my son return the gameboy that he stole and that went well, then I brought my daughter talk to some single parents (women). I pray that this is a good start for them.

SOTK: Thank you for your advice, I think that you are right. I really need to get my children involved in the word more and with the church..May God bless you...I feel better.

MarkChristopher: Thank you so much for your prayers. May God bless you..

LionofGod: Thanks for your response, I did bring my daughter talk to other women yesterday and we talked about all that can happen. She is very young and I know I wasn't a good Mom when I was using drugs but I am a different person today and I WILL raise my children with morals and values and she will learn to have more respect for herself than she does now...You know, I realized today just how much my addiction affected my whole family, but with the Lord on our side we can get through anything. May God bless you and thanks again...

HUGS TO ALL OF YOU:

 

[Harlan Norris]

Every now and then I run across a thread about pot use.I usually weigh in on it.During the debate I'll point out that pot is the drug of choice for the initiate.I use my own experience as an example.A pitched battle ensues.I often fight alone.It seems to me that those of us that have been given our freedom from drug dependence,may have a calling.We have the experience that makes us experts in this arena.Just a thought.

 

[JaneFW]

At the risk of sounding like a smart alec, the answer is because you wanted to. In order for me to completely stop drinking, I had to get to a place where I wanted to be free of alcohol more than anything else. This meant that quitting had to become more important than anything else in my life. It absolutely has to be this way, because if you don't have your sobriety, you don't have anything. You understand what I mean?

I had to completely give my life and alcoholism over to God. I had to completely surrender to Him. Once I did that, God healed me. It's been almost 10 years now since I last had a drink. That is nothing short of a miracle! Praise God!

I can't emphasize enough the importance of truly wanting to quit. If you don't want to truly quit, you aren't going to. Again, I got to a place where I wanted freedom from alcohol more than anything else. I was completely sick (physical, emotional, and spiritual) and not quitting meant eventual death or jail for me.

This is so true. I have been at this place, and then wavered from it, but the wavering was because I weakened, and not due to anything else. I am starting over now, and I am going to make sobriety my top priority!

 

[SOTK]

Hello,
Well after being so upset yesterday, I made myself go to church because God knows I really didn't want to. Well while I was there I heard something that I really needed to hear (like always). After church my children went into their little bible study class and I sat in my car and called people and talked about what was going on with me. When we finally left their I brought my son return the gameboy that he stole and that went well, then I brought my daughter talk to some single parents (women). I pray that this is a good start for them.

SOTK: Thank you for your advice, I think that you are right. I really need to get my children involved in the word more and with the church..May God bless you...I feel better.

MarkChristopher: Thank you so much for your prayers. May God bless you..

LionofGod: Thanks for your response, I did bring my daughter talk to other women yesterday and we talked about all that can happen. She is very young and I know I wasn't a good Mom when I was using drugs but I am a different person today and I WILL raise my children with morals and values and she will learn to have more respect for herself than she does now...You know, I realized today just how much my addiction affected my whole family, but with the Lord on our side we can get through anything. May God bless you and thanks again...


HUGS TO ALL OF YOU:

That's an excellent start, my friend!

I am so gald that you are feeling better, and I am glad to see you and your family back at church!

 

[SOTK]

This is so true. I have been at this place, and then wavered from it, but the wavering was because I weakened, and not due to anything else. I am starting over now, and I am going to make sobriety my top priority!

I am glad you see the truth of this! Personally, I feel this is the case with any type of sinful behavior in my life. If we enjoy sin and see ourselves as fallen people, we will be this type of person. If we hate sin and see ourselves as righteous new created beings in Christ, we will be the type of person Christ has already made us into!

Yes, make sobriety your top priority! In fact, wake up everyday and recognize that you are a Child of God!

You are in my prayers!

In Christ,

SOTK

 

[SOTK]

Every now and then I run across a thread about pot use.I usually weigh in on it.During the debate I'll point out that pot is the drug of choice for the initiate.I use my own experience as an example.A pitched battle ensues.I often fight alone.It seems to me that those of us that have been given our freedom from drug dependence,may have a calling.We have the experience that makes us experts in this arena.Just a thought.

I couldn't agree more!

 

[cajunlady]

God bless all my fellow alcoholics/addicts...God is good all the time...Hugs to all of you..

 

[stelow]

God bless all my fellow alcoholics/addicts...God is good all the time...Hugs to all of you..

Thanks for the hug and hello cajunlady. God bless you. (Big Hugs)

 

[SOTK]

Howdy everyone! Dropping in to see how everyone is doing!

 

[cajunlady]

Howdy everyone! Dropping in to see how everyone is doing!

Cajunlady reporting in, so far today is a good day..One moment at a time because I can't handle a whole 24 hours...God bless you all...

 

[MarkChristopher]

Anothe God-given day here in Texas. Sunny and in the upper 60's. Hope all of you are doing well.

God Bless!

 

[MarkChristopher]

Thanks for the hug and hello cajunlady. God bless you. (Big Hugs)

Stelow! How have you done this past week?

 

[SOTK]

Howdy, Mark!

 

[SOTK]

Just checking in! How is everyone?