Age

[eh7]

Would you mind if your gf is older than you? How old is acceptable to you? Why?

Would you mind if your bf is younger than you? How young is acceptable to you? Why?

 

[bumblebee62331]

My boyfriend is six months (almost exactly) younger than me.

I swore I would never date a younger guy and he swore he would never date an older girl.

Weird huh

 

[KristianJ]

If one minded, in a way you'd guess they wouldn't be in a relationship with a younger/older SO. But in my personal case, I would have no issue with it.

As for what an acceptable gap is, I don't really know.

 

[MN John]

It depends on your own age somewhat. A five year gap is a bigger deal at 20 than at 50.

My significant relationships in my life have been with wommen who are:
2 years older
3 years younger
4 years older

None of these age gaps has been an issue.

 

[KellyLeigh]

He would have to be a very mature person. All of the guys I know that are younger than me act like they are younger than me

 

[ChildOfGod20]

my boyfriend is a year younger than me.

i don't really think age matters. just as long as it's not like 16 and 25 or something.

 

[AnaSnow]

I dated a guy 1 year younger than me. I personally prefer older guys (not too old, of course). My bf is a year older than me. It is a proven fact that most guys mature at a slower rate than females.

 

[Briseis]

i don't really think age matters. just as long as it's not like 16 and 25 or something.

It depends on your own age somewhat. A five year gap is a bigger deal at 20 than at 50.

Exactly.

When I was 17 I dated a guy that was 14. Yeah gross, I know. Well, I think so now anyway. He was mature for his age, but I still think it was too big of a gap, and that 14 yr olds shouldnt be dating in the first place.

Actually, I have never dated a guy that was older than me. I also dated a guy that was a year and a half younger than me, and my current bf is 2 months younger. In his case, it is not a significant differece.

So for me, age doesnt matter, as long as we are somewhere in the same range, and mind level.

BUT.....no one can compare to my bf, kehe .

 

[Leanna]

I dated a guy 3 years younger than me once

 

[ahmunmun]

As long as there's no confusion that he's taking care of me, then I don't have a problem with it. However, if he's more than a year younger than me, then no way. There would be too much difference in maturity.

 

[beautifully_chaotic]

im 4 months older than my SO, but thats nothing, i don't personally think that i could date someone any younger than 2 years, but then again it depends on the person

 

[The Julikenz]

I don't think it's wrong for two people who aren't born the same day to date. Inevitably, someone is going to be younger!

I figure it's best to start legal. If you're 21, and she's 15, that's probably not very reasonable. Is she legal? In terms of age, maturity, responsibility and independence are good indicators as to how she would handle a relationship as the younger partner. Is she still in school? Does she rely on her parents income? Does she work part time or support herself? Does she do any volunteer work or is she involved with any ministries?

The question is not "how young is too youg?", but rather, "How ready is she for another commitment, with where she is in her life?"

 

[Maeyken]

I've never dated anyone except my fiance, and he's 8 years older than I am... but I don't think I'd have had a problem dating someone younger... it completely depends on the person, and what stage they're at in life... age doesn't have much to do with that, especially once you're out of school.

 

[Tinger]

I'm the same, my current boyfriend is my first. He is 6 years younger than me, and the only downside to that is we don't remember the same things when we were young! Plus, he teases me about being old hehe

 

[willcoach]

Age does not matter but remember communication and matters of the heart are of the utmost importance.

 

[TheReasoner]

Age does not matter but remember communication and matters of the heart are of the utmost importance.

Age does matter. You are 28. If your girlfriend was 15, that would most certainly matter.

 

[Hope_0004]

I agree with the statement that the age gap matters less as you get older... it depends on the ages of the people involved. Five years matters a lot if you are 15 and 20, but not so much if you are 35 and 40... that's so true.

I've never dated younger. I did like a guy who was two years younger than me once, but after I had spent time with him and his friends, well, it was obvious that we were not meant to be together at all. It was a disaster. But that was because he was immature, not necessarily because I was 20 and he was 18.

I've dated older guys... that tends to be a better fit for me. They know what they are doing, usually have jobs and plans and whatnot... that's what I like.

My current boyfriend is only one year older than me... it's working out okay, but even with that one year jump on me, I'm much more forward-thinking and responsible than he is...

I would have to say that this question can only be answered on a personal basis... i.e., is this 18 year old someone I would be compatible with?

 

[Tegger]

I think under most circumstances age really doesn't matter assuming they're over the age of 18. I have been dating a guy who is 12 yrs older than me for 8.5 months and it has definately changed my opinion on the whole "age gap" thing. I personally wouldn't date anyone that I know who is my age or younger just because of differences in maturity. It really just depends on the 2 people involved. Although, I think if they're easily old enough to be your parents that's kind of weird.

 

[MrsSeptemberPenguin]

Well, my bf is almost a exactly a year younger than me...like 2 weeks off. I don't mind that he's younger, I'd say 5 years on either side could be appropriate depending on the situation.

 

[TheReasoner]

Well, my bf is almost a exactly a year younger than me...like 2 weeks off. I don't mind that he's younger, I'd say 5 years on either side could be appropriate depending on the situation.

My fiancee is about two years older than I am. Which is not a lot. Five could be. Had I been 20, it would have been a lot. Had I been 15 it would have been immense.