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Your daughter is at the age of being an adult 'legally' according to society standards. She is at college away from normal family & friends influence. She is on her own.
The examples she gave are her justifications for choosing to have sex before marriage. She has no clue what will happen to her & most likely change her for the rest of her life.
I worked with adolescents for many years in teaching & counseling. I learned several things. Ultimately young adults want to do the right thing that will make their lives happy & productive.
Another thing is that they will accept a challenge, if for no other reason to prove you wrong.
A final thing is to put them in the REALITY of being an adult. If you want to act like an adult & make your own decisions, then the freedom to make your own decisions has on the flip side responsibilities that come with that freedom to do whatever you want to do.
I always said you can choose to do whatever you want, but you cannot always control the consequences of what you may receive by those choices.
Since she wants to be an adult going contrary to your wishes that are BASED upon love, protection & provision, then let her feel the full weight of adult responsibility.
If she is going to choose contrary to your desires on waiting until marriage, though you love her dearly, let her know that you are going to let her be an adult & live with her own choices.
Don't buy contraceptives for her. That is now her adult responsibility to buy her own if she chooses. Remind her of the failure rate of condoms, using old ones that many do & in the 'haste' of having sex condoms are often not used. One episode of unprotected lustful sex can result in pregnancy.
The possibility for getting an STD (sexually transmitted disease) & ruining your body, including sterility, is getting higher & higher. More than 30 different bacteria, viruses and parasites are known to be transmitted through sexual contact. More than 1 million sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are acquired EVERY DAY worldwide.
If she is going to make decisions that can put her life at risk or risk other's lives, then she needs to be an adult & seek to provide her own health insurance because of such risks.
She needs to know also that, if you are paying for her college education primarily, then if she chooses to do so, one of the requirements is that she will need to find employment while she is going to school, in order to help her recognize that it COSTS someone their blood, sweat & tears to pay for that.
If she makes her own decisions as an adult, then she will have to live with them. Most likely getting pregnant & raising a child will stop her college education. She will need to find her own housing if this happens & that costs money. She needs to have this 'adult' talk with you, that if she wants to have this freedom, which is contrary to God's declared will, then she will need to be prepared to take on the responsibilities of adulthood.
I have seen the difficulties of this in my own siblings, relatives & their children, of not waiting to have sex before marriage, of having to forgo or stop going to college, one working two jobs & unmarried with several children & ending up in jail for check fraud, because of not enough money to pay for her adult choices. Parents & others have to change their own lives to try & assist in the irresponsible behaviors. Who is going to babysit the children when the mother has to work & is unmarried?
These are all things that need to be talked about ahead of time. You love her as her mother & are praying for her but you will not take care of her or support her decisions to go contrary to the will of God & put her own life at risk. These come with natural consequences.
Is she does get pregnant, let her now know that she is the adult & needs to be responsible for her pregnancy. You will be a loving support & help as much as you can, but she will need to find medical insurance