Not every family functions the way God intended. Some people have mental illnesses and are not living in reality.
I'm 52, and if my mother had it her way, I'd still be living in her house, with her telling me what time to go to bed, calling me awake in the morning when she thinks I should get up, going only where she gives me permission to go, wearing clothing that she has inspected and approved, eating only the food she shops for and cooks, when she decides it's meal time. If I lived my life her way, I would still not be licensed to drive a car. I would definitely not be married to my husband, because I had to move thousands of miles away from my home state to be with him. I kid you not, she would still hold my hand crossing the street, as if I'm a small child who would dart into traffic if she didn't watch me every minute.
Her image of me is still as a small, dependent child. You tell me, is this a healthy way of life? Would God expect me to abide by it in the name of obeying my mother? And does "honor" and "obey" mean the same thing?