Because she has children the reality is that she will continue to have to deal with this man's abuse whether or not she is married to him.
Very true. But at least he will be distracted with the other women he chooses to spend time with.
There are about ten more years of visitation exchanges, and a possible few years of legal battles.
Read the scripture yourself. Does he ever say anything about abuse? I think not.
That means it's a gray area. It's relative.
I see that you've chosen to ignore the multiple scriptures posted throughout this thread.
God is not vague about abuse!
Deut 27:14, 25
Cursed is he who distorts the justice due an alien, orphan, and widow.' And all the people shall say, `Amen.'
'Cursed is he who strikes his neighbor in secret.' And all the people shall say, `Amen.'
(NEIGHBOR
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friend, companion, fellow, another person
- friend, intimate
- fellow, fellow-citizen, another person (weaker sense)
- other, another (reciprocal phrase))
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Deut 21:1 (anyone physically harmed)
"If a slain person is found lying in the open country in the landwhich the Lord your God gives you to possess, and
it is not known who has struck Him and to him...then your elders and your judges shall go out...Then the priests, the sons of Levi, shall come near, for the Lord your God has chosen them to serve and bless in the name of the Lord; and
every dispute and every assault shall be settled by them.
Exodus 21:18If men have a
quarrel and one strikes the other with a stone or with his fist, [both acting in violence] and he does not die but remains[SIZE=-1][/SIZE] in bed, if he gets up and walks around outside on his staff, then he who struck him shall go unpunished; he shall only
pay for his loss [SIZE=-1][/SIZE]of time, and shall[SIZE=-1][/SIZE] take care of him until he is completely healed.
21:14 [Of marrying a captive woman after she mourns her dead relatives]It shall be, if you are not pleased with her, then you shall let her go wherever she wishes; but you shall certainly not sell her for money, y
ou shall not mistreat her, because you have humbled her. 22:22 (adultery)
If a man is found lying with a married woman, then
both of them shall die, the man who lay with the woman, and the woman; thus you shall purge the evil from Israel.
(Allow the law of the land to handle the situation)
I am deeply saddened that we so quickly jump to sever a tie that God says is a lifetime committment RATHER than join in prayer for this family and believe that God can heal.
I'm sure we are all praying, no matter what opinions we may have. The scriptures I have given are not in resistance to prayer and healing.They are offering a well-rounded vision of God's will for our lives.
Myreedeemer
has already spent decades of effort and prayer in trying to repair her marriage:
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i have been to christian councelling many many many times so has he over the years but still no love and abuse. he is diagnosed as a Narcissist(no empathy at all)he became a christian 15 years ago but no "fruits" of the Holy Spirit.he controls everything, i cannot even have some of my family over to my home. i am tired. He wont even leave i must get a lawyer if i decide to make him go. We have somes profitable businesses together PTL, but he will likely TRY to take it all and "punish" me as usual etc. i give this situation to Jesus...Thankyou for any prayers or further advice. Be abundantly blessed for sharing my burden.amen"
http://www.christianforums.com/showpost.php?p=25791739&postcount=10
I do agree that additional romances and people involved will complicate everything, and should not be the motivation for breaking up a marriage.
Ex 20:17, Deut 5:21 (about both adultery and desire)You shall not covet your neighbor's house; you shall not covet your neighbor's wife or his male servant or his female servant or his ox or his donkey or anything that belongs to your neighbor.