30 something singles

[Blessed Introvert]

I am willing to live for the gospel of Jesus Christ even if I am celibate in His name.

 

[ChicanaRose]

Everyone seems so nice in the beginning. There was a guy I used to be interested in. But he chose another girl. And down the road, he showed his true colors and there was DV involved. I was relieved I didn't end up with him. And I'm glad she got out of the relationship too. Grass is greener on the other side. Who knows, a person in a drama-fueled relationship may be jealous of a single person's peaceful living space.

 

[Michael972]

How do you cope? I'm currently attending a training which I'll have to do for the next 3 months (my choice). I'm the only single person my age. Everyone else is hooked

I don't think that I have really coped. I really do miss being in a relationship with someone.

 

[Stranger36147]

I cope just fine with it.


I'm single and I enjoy being by myself.

 

[OceanPoet87]

Enjoy this season of your life. There are many things that are so much easier to do if you are not married. Missions, God calling you to certain places, having more platonic friends of the opposite sex, and even just more time to meet with friends to serve each other. I'm happily married, but I do look back on my single days when I had more time to serve Him by serving my church and my friends.

 

[BonnieL322]

I am 34, widowed, and raising our children solo. I don’t feel like I fit in with marrieds, and find myself relating a lot more to singles, even never married singles. I’m told the same things they are when I make any statement like I’m lonely etc.

I think there are some issues in the younger Christian dating world. But alas, yeah I’m in my 30s and single. Abundantly blessed and have God to lean on through many trials, including major losses aside from the loss of the man God gave to me. Yet, despite what well-meaning brothers and sisters in Christ may say, I feel called to being a wife and I once was, and I miss it and want it again. I don’t base all of my happiness or worth on it, but it is definitely a desire and I feel like being a wife and mother is my calling. But it seems like the dating world nowadays is legitimately a scary place? Or is it just my perception? Lol

 

[Jamdoc]

It would really help if we weren't treated as second class citizens even in church. A lot of churches look at anyone over 25 who is single at church as some sort of abomination. But God will NOT treat us as second class citizens after the resurrection. I pray people remember that.

 

[samylakes]

How do you cope? I'm currently attending a training which I'll have to do for the next 3 months (my choice). I'm the only single person my age. Everyone else is hooked

I recently got out of a relationship. Unfortunately, I messed up due to having too having too many lustful feelings and acted on them. I am repenting from that now. I'm turning to God and facing these demons. I believe I didn't take care of these demons before the relationship. I should have taken care of these demons when I was single.

Also, when the relationship ended, I noticed how much I wanted that relationship. It was like I loved her more than I loved Jesus due to the hurt I felt. Another reason why I believe I haven't reached full singleness yet.

I just turned 30 this year, so I'm not a long time into the 30's. But I am going to take my chance as a single guy to actually focus on my relationship with God. When the relationship with the Father is good, the relationship with my future spouse will also be good.

So basically I cope with it by shifting my focus to God. Trusting that this season He has me in is intentional and I should do my part in this season.

Many people don’t surrender to God until adulthood. I’m glad I didn’t marry. I would prefer to commit to a godly companion than walk out an unwise union for the rest of my days.

When I surrendered to Him I relinquished my former self and the mental and emotional baggage that came with my sins. I didn’t carry them with me into the present. If any lingering effects remain they should be addressed in prayer and with spiritual assistance if needed.

My future spouse will have a new creation. Not some quasi holy Oreo. Our physical intimacy will be blessed as will the union. And I’m not a virgin.

It is our responsibility to walk in the fullness of Christ’s sacrifice. We’ve been washed in His blood. And that includes sexual sins. Our redemption is complete. I’m yoked to Him and no other. The past is no more.

This lady is wise!