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30 Days Of singles Encouragement

Discussion in 'Singles (Only*)' started by songz777, Feb 26, 2008.

  1. songz777

    songz777 Spouse first strengthens your marriage

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    Perhaps Joy os a strong word :) but there is a measure of happiness because Jesus fills me with a dependancy upon Him for happines rather than a woman. This means I am free to be my self with Christ's help and so hopefully more able to love someone and accept the times when I do not recieve it, with more ease than if I could only be happy with her shwing me love.
     
  2. silentpoet

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    I think joy is probably the right word for you. At least that is how I see you and what comes through in your posts.

    I guess in my case it is just that I cannot be satisfied when I know my current estate is wrong. I know a wife won't exactly make me happy, but knowing that God has heard my plea/complaint and answered me could. I know that things are not right, that the devil's hand has mucked about in things.

    This current estate is not ideal for me. It is not the abundance Jesus promised. I know God can bring better into my life. He has made promises to me that He will answer my needs. An analogy with our eternal destination can be made. This world is not our home, we should always feel a little out of place. There should be some holy dissatisfaction with the current state of affairs until we reach heaven. I am like that in my singleness, I know it is not my home, just a place I must visit before I go where I belong.

    I know what God has made me and the call He laid upon me. I am doing my best with all the faith I have to be ready when God fulfills His word upon my life. Saturday I am going to look at a couple of houses. Both would be good choices and be one more step in the process of being ready. So I am acting in faith and taking positive steps. This would be a big step in faith considering that what God has promised still remains out of the realm of what is possible with men.
     
  3. songz777

    songz777 Spouse first strengthens your marriage

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    "Great is the Lord and greatly to be praised" It is a good thing to give thanks to the Lord.

    When Joshua did so with his army the Lord won the battle for him.
    However we may fee, let us praise and worship God and then watch as He does such good things for us.
     
  4. songz777

    songz777 Spouse first strengthens your marriage

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    I have not done it without a reason.​


    What ever happens in our life has Gods kind loving hand upon it for OUR good. He cares and has good reasons for any pain we feel, the best thing we can do is worship Him and love Him and Trust Him.
     
  5. Evie1980

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    Amen John! :thumbsup:

    That is a wonderful quote to remember. All of this has a reason to it. All of life has something to teach us, to help us grow, to nurture us along the way. I must admit I am the most indecisive person there could be especially of late! I don't know whether I am coming or going, staying or leaving. It is really hard to deal with especially as my prayers for direction have amounted to nothing thus far. And yet, each day I am finding more and more peace. No, I have not found out what I am supposed to be doing or where I am supposed to be going but I have found out where I am not going to be going which in a sense is rather a comforting feeling. I know now that God is working in my life, in the midst of these things and soon I will be moving on again in seach of where He wants me to be. For now I am safe, happy and loved by my Maker. In the midst of all uncertainty I know that this is from Him to draw me closer.
     
  6. songz777

    songz777 Spouse first strengthens your marriage

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    Original Post should have been in this thread. Sorry.

    Faith is something that only comes as God gives us the power to believe in His word. It can be GREAT or SMALL it makes NO differene. Faith is Faith.

    Romans 10:17“So faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.” To receive a blessing in our lives we need to able to able to point to a promise. The promise’s of God are true and never fail. They remain steadfast even when we are attacked by doubts and whispers from the enemy. Faith turns to the enemy and says “God says it here and believe His word”. When the weeks become months and years in waiting for a blessing it is faith that pits it’s self against all odds to obtain what seems an impossible blessing. God is the God of the impossible.

    The blessing for you may a spouse or a precious new experience of Gods nearness. What ever it may be its is faith that will give you peace and assurance and cause you to get up from prayer saying “My God has heard me and I know I shall receive”. Hannah of old was in a most deepest sorrowful state, and it was faith via Eli the priest that lifted out gloom and misery and gave to her the desire of the heart, a child. There are many scriptures in the bible to be used and with them you can freed from many sorrows and burdens.

    All of these promises I have used to obtain blessing on this link.
    Faith comes after spending much time in prayer, and fellowship with God. The promises of God are blank cheques waiting to be actioned by your prayer to God.

    The Lord will often test you at times for many days to see how longing you are for a blessing. You may have to wait years for a blessing that you believe for, but don’t give up, the word says Hebrews 10:36 “For you have need of patience, that, having done the will of God, you may receive the promise.” I have had to wait many years for some promises and yet only 36 days for another.

    Faith is powerful, nothing can stand in its way, not even the might of Satan. Prayer then follows faith again, praying through the promise into tangible reality.
     
  7. songz777

    songz777 Spouse first strengthens your marriage

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    Prayer is the most powerful way to obtain the greatest blessing a man could ever dream for, and that is the indescribable blessing of the presence of Jesus in their lives.

    The presence of Jesus banishes the cutting pain of loneliness, emotional pain, sadness, worry, fear and longings for a spouse.
    Prayer is the easiest way to obtain a blessing and the most underused and appreciated. Prayer simply is chatting to God as your best Friend. It is sharing your life with Him as you would a dear longed for spouse.

    God promises many great things to those who prayer, and I mean really prayer. The more you spend in Gods presence away from the things around the more your inner most being will be satisfied. The way of blessing is through prayer. It is more than asking and receiving but an overflowing deep gushing flow of joy and happiness and inexpressible glory from within your heart. Such glory of Gods presence is overwhelming and perhaps could be likened to being in heaven it self.

    The bible cries out with Gods promises to the weary singles of this world who struggle to be happy while all their friends have a dear spouse or real friends to talk to.
    Wouldn’t you like to be so in heaven with Gods presence that you could say I am in heaven and nothing more can make me happier? That blessing is waiting for you, the one I call the “Fullness of the Spirit”.

    Are you hungry and weary for more in life? Happiness and content, freedom from weary emotionally hurt days and tearful hours alone by your self?
    You can have it! I was once like that, bitter tears and broken heart, but God met with me after I cried out to Him all night, and would not let go until He blest me.
    The promises I used are in the link below.

    Pray, seek, ask and refuse to give up, refuse to let God go until you know like Hannah of old and say “My God has heard me, I wait for His blessing”.
     
  8. silentpoet

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    When it will let me I will rep you for post 266. But it says I have to spread some around before I can rep you again. The post was just what I needed to hear.

    I don't know if I agree with all of the next post(most of it, but not all). Because even when I am very close to God and doing His will the pain is still there. The loneliness might not be as bad, but then again it might. It is like there is a contrast between the light and the darkness. On one hand I see the light and show it to others. But on the other I am made aware of the darkness in my life.

    Maybe it is the price I must pay for serving others, for we are supposed to take up our cross daily. And a cross is beneficial to others more than to the one on the cross. My suffering is how I access God's comfort for others. But perhaps one day I can access it through joy. It would be nice not to feel this pain and still be able to do much good for others. I would like to be able to share joy.

    You did an excellent job on both of those posts. Maybe it is just that joy seems like such a distant destination to me that I cannot comprehend it. There are things I have learned through my pain. I know why, on a deep level, Jesus chose the cross. I know something of His pain in knowing not all would choose Him even with going to the cross. I understand what Paul said about the Jews in Romans, that he would be cut off from God for their sake if it would save them. But the price is very high for this knowledge and I am not entirely sure it is worth it.

    I did need to hear what you said about God's promises. And for some reason the story of Hannah as well. It keeps popping up in my reading and listening to Christian radio programs. It is one of the stories that gives me some measure of hope and where I feel God has spoken to me. I just find it hard to hold onto those promises.
     
  9. songz777

    songz777 Spouse first strengthens your marriage

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    Hi brov well the happiness I feel is deep within and does not stay with me in that blest way all the time, its more than happiness but a deep sense of Hos love when I have my times alone with Him, of course when I am about my day that deep presence and bliss cannot always be there or else I would never be tried and that isnt Gods will for us.
     
  10. songz777

    songz777 Spouse first strengthens your marriage

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    The Power of Love:~
    The Love of God filling our hearts is more than enough to defend and dispel any emotional pain we may feel.
    The word says “In your presence is fullness of Joy” Psalm 16:11
    Its also says:~

    1Peter 1:8 “You love him, although you have not seen him, and you believe in him, although you do not now see him. So you rejoice with a great and glorious joy which words cannot express”

    You see the words Joy and Inexpressible. This is what God gives to us, that is the full overflowing love of God.
    BUT He does not give us it 24/7 NO only at set times so He may test us and then bless us.

    But His LOVE filling us annihilates any hurt we may feel, at least for a time.
    The good thing is it is a daily filling and renewal that NO one can take away from us!
    Such glory of Gods presence and His LOVE is overwhelming and perhaps could be likened to being in heaven it self.

    Wouldn’t you like to be so in heaven with Gods presence that you could say I am in heaven and nothing more can make me happier? That blessing is waiting for you, the one I call the “Fullness of the Spirit”.
    This is the Power of Gods Love, and it is for us if we seek Him.
     
  11. songz777

    songz777 Spouse first strengthens your marriage

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    God gives us seasons in our life some may be a year some may be in a short time. But all have the same effect as natures seasons.
    Song of Solomon 2:10-12. “ My Beloved spoke to me and said Rise up my fair one and come away; the WINTER is past, the RAIN is over; the FLOWERS appear, the time of SINGING has come”
    God is faithful and He promised that the season would always follow each other; Winter, Spring, Summer, Autumn.
    I firmly believe that we have Spiritual seasons:

    Season 1
    Winter~ Sorrow, trials, sadness and darkness. The things we long for, weep for, yearn and long for seem far away. Darkness clouds our way and weeping, depression, heart ache and trials surround us.
     
  12. Evie1980

    Evie1980 Learning to thrive

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    Oh then I am definately in winter as my life is a little :confused: at the moment.

    However, you are right- everything has a season and the thing about seasons that things happen in each one that can only happen when the season is right. Now where I come from there really saren't that many seasons - you have hot and cold. Thats it. It was only when I moved to an area that had 4 seasons that I really could understand the value in each. At first I didn't like having 4 seasons but soon I started to realise the spendor of it all. My winter here at the moment is actually drawing me closer to god in ways I never felt possible and I am learning more than if I hjad of stayed in the Summer. It is hard but the seasons will change soon and all that I have learnt here will enable me to achieve so much more than I could have ever possibly imagined.

    Thanks John!
     
  13. songz777

    songz777 Spouse first strengthens your marriage

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    So the winter must now end! Spring may delay, snow may fall, clouds be more than sun, BUT nothing can stop the warming and risen sun higher each day. Spring will give hope.

    Season 2
    Spring~ A time of hope and preparation for the blessings. Things seem to be getting nearer to what we want to see happening. God is nearer to us and more precious and we sense an imminent answer.
     
  14. silentpoet

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    I don't know much about spring or summer. It has been winter for so long, it is hard to think any other way. It is hard to really believe God will bring the warmth and light, even when I see some signs. I mean, I have good stuff happening, but it is really hard for me to believe it will actually lead to God fulfilling His word. I am stuck in the thought patterns of winter. I am working on changing that, but with mixed results.

    I mean in some areas I can trust God, but in others I still find that really, really hard to do because I have been hurt severely when I trusted God. I know in my head God will repay, but my heart remains unconvinced at most times. What I have to do is just do my best to plow ahead acting on the assumption God will come through. I wish I knew when, and that when is soon. Then I could really take heart. Be that as it may, I will do my best to serve God. I do need it to be soon though because the wait is wearing me thin.
     
  15. Evie1980

    Evie1980 Learning to thrive

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    I understand this. It is so hard to recognise and trust that things are going to get better. It is hard for me as I tend to have a lot of trust issues and am only now working throguh them. It is hard when we lack the faith to believe that god things will happen and do happen. It is sad to know that there is a part of me that expecting to have things fail. But then I remind myself that with God all things are possible and that winter always comes to an end. The only way I can change my thoughts is to remind myself of God, to talk with Him and walk with Him in all that I do. As I am writing this I am still trying to change my thouht process on some things that I have been holding dear to me. You have made me realise that sometimes I hold on to the winter because I am scared of what the spring might bring! I seems tat i would prefer to live the way that everything is at the moment then possible be disappointed - I keep wanting to hold on to my plans rather than live the life God wants me to. It is a constatnt battle... sorry, please forgive me, I seem to have gotten on to me rather than you. Forgive me. :hug:

    But yes, I understand your pain.
     
  16. songz777

    songz777 Spouse first strengthens your marriage

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    How we long for summer after the winter! we long for sunny days and longs warm evenings. We long for soft blue skies and rich blue fields.
    The does come nothing will stop the season of nature for God has promised and nothing will stop our spiritual season of blessing.

    Season 3
    Summer~ The longed for blessing finally happens and we rejoice with great rejoicing and so to our friends with us.
     
  17. silentpoet

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    I did not see anything to forgive. And actually it is good to know I am not alone in my struggles, thought not good to know you are struggling. One thing I have learned is that there are just down days. Maybe because of our thoughts, maybe because of spiritual attack I am not sure why. And you just have to ride them out and perhaps pray "Lord forgive my unbelief."

    One thought is that if your plans are pretty strong on your heart maybe they are from God. I am not saying this for sure, but it is possible. Jesus told of the widow who kept coming to the unjust judge. She kept persisting in her plans to get justice. So if it is possible, at least in some areas/aspects, maybe you should keep going according to your plans. I am sort of doing that myself. I am working on preparation for God fulfilling His word to me. I have a bid on a house, I will know monday if HUD accepts my bid. And in a way that would be a sign of God's favor and that He is also preparing the way for my long longed for blessing.
     
  18. songz777

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    Season 4
    Autumn~ The blessing we longed for matures and we grow in grace and knowledge and embrace fresh challenges for other things.

    Friends, there are some of you who know you are in the winter, you hurt and sigh, but REJOICE your spring will soon arrive.
    Some of you have been in the winter for many years and now you in the spring season, REJOICE your summer will soon arrive.

    Some of you are in the summer, you have your hearts desires. REJOICE in God and serve greater for all that He has done for you.
    I my self after many years I feel am in the Spring waiting for the summer to finally come.
     
  19. Evie1980

    Evie1980 Learning to thrive

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    yes, you are right. There are some things that God has placed in my heart to do. I am going to go out and achieve them soon. However, there are other things that I planned for that I have to let go of. It is all rather complicated but God is speaking to me in many areas of my life and at the moment I am letting His plans take over. There are things that I will do but I am letting Him guide my footsteps to see those dreams come true so that way I know they are of Him and not of me. So that I will know His glory is in it and I am not just seeking my own. If the desires of my heart be true then God will make it happen.
     
  20. songz777

    songz777 Spouse first strengthens your marriage

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    Psalm 147:11 ​
    The Lord takes pleasure in his worshippers and in those whose hope is in his mercy. ​


    Let us be those who even when we feel rejected by God still fall down and trust and worship the LOVE of all Loves. Tell Jesus with deeper affection Lord I love you! :) Thank you for dying for me.
     
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