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I myself am not seeking anyone because the older I get the more problems and baggage I have in my life.
It is not that in 35 she cannot have a child. It just gets harder and harder and the pregnancy becomes more and more complicated and dangerous.It's considered creepy to date 'for fertility.' If 35 is the cut-off for women, then my cut-off is probably 10 years above that, so 45. So I still have 15 years. Could always date after that, but after that no natural kids.
Here's the thing, it says God does things in his own time and using his own way, but the time of a year turns into decades which turn into centuries and things change in man's world, but God still says to be patient. What kind of God is he? Does a firefighter "wait" until saving a burning building from fire?The world is a different place now and there's no better way. Don't be disheartened though. Jesus is with you suffering alongside. He doesn't want it this way either. It's hurting Him more than it is hurting you. Things are going to change for the better. Until then, keep trusting and find comfort in His presence.
Why are you so afraid of a single life, in the first place?
Most women today are not a marriage material so you would just pierce yourself with many problems and much stress. Single life is much better than that. Studies confirm that single men who have never been married are happier than other men.
Stats are clear - 50% of marriages do not last. And 75% of people in a marriage cheated on their partners.
That means that many people from the other 50% who stayed in a marriage either cheated or were cheated on. So not a fairy tale "living happily ever after", at all.
Not only is finding another person hopeless, but this implies Christians as a group failed badly at it's own mission.Many Christians who went through divorce, whose children were taken away from them or who were cheated on, disagree.
We make mistakes and bad decisions in our life. Its worth only in the meaning of a learned lesson, but not in the meaning of "it made us happier" or in the meaning of "we should go for it".
Do you believe that God actually originally intended for what people desire deep down to be harmful?Wrong. We are obligated to warn people when they want a harmful thing so much that the lack of it makes them desperate, while they should actually rejoice.
Then why did God create animals then? Why did he even design our brains the way they are?Wrong. Its a flesh-given desire. Every animal looks for a sexual mate. It has its place in our lowest, oldest parts of brain we share even with lobsters. The marriage thing is a human expression of "this one is mine and this one is yours".
Christianity prefers and recommends being single.
Here's the thing, it says God does things in his own time and using his own way, but the time of a year turns into decades which turn into centuries and things change in man's world, but God still says to be patient. What kind of God is he? Does a firefighter "wait" until saving a burning building from fire?
Why can't man just get to do his own thing or live in a society that matches or approximates his own expectations. Why must it universally be choice of either what God ought it to be or to suffer?
Man has created different countries on earth. If you don't like the rules of one country you can move to or just visit another one (or at least it's supposed to work like that on paper, NWO or global government notwithstanding).
We are from the earth/animals but we were also given spirituality and rationality to be the image of God.Do you believe that God actually originally intended for what people desire deep down to be harmful?
Animals need to multiply to save their species from extinction, no matter if they know it, want it, like it or not.Then why did God create animals then? Why did he even design our brains the way they are?
It sounds like you describe a God and/or Christianity that is basically totalitarian.
I think we should be allowed to enjoy all of God's gifts, including relationships and sexuality.We are from the earth/animals but we were also given spirituality and rationality to be the image of God.
These two natures fight with each other. Half of the Bible is about this issue.
Animals need to multiply to save their species from extinction, no matter if they know it, want it, like it or not.
Thats why these things are hardcoded into our oldest, basic brain parts - mating, sexuality, desire of children, self-preservation, aggresivity, fears, selfishness, "fight or run" reflexes, eating, drinking etc.
If we live by the spirit, we can learn to supress them as "old-fashioned" and "earth-minded". The aspostle Paul talked about this often in his letters.
If I can't "get" a girl in her 20s when I'm in my 20s, why should I expect to get one like that when I'm pushing 50?It is not that in 35 she cannot have a child. It just gets harder and harder and the pregnancy becomes more and more complicated and dangerous.
Or, you can simply date 25 year old girl in your 45. Thats not so rare and many men in 45 look very good. Men are getting older in a much slower rate than women, so its still possible (and some girls even prefer older men for this reason).
But I admit that to find a good Christian wife in younger generations is even harder than in your own.
Girls in 20's do not want men in 20's, frequently.If I can't "get" a girl in her 20s when I'm in my 20s, why should I expect to get one like that when I'm pushing 50?
Nobody says you are not allowed.I think we should be allowed to enjoy all of God's gifts, including relationships and sexuality.
I know girls generally prefer older men, but I tend to try to follow the "plus or minus 10 years" rule.Girls in 20's do not want men in 20's, frequently.
Again, women are getting older much quicker than men (both mentally and physically), therefore 20 years old girl and 20 years old boy are mentally very different beings.
In any case, its difficult to find somebody you can be with for the whole life. Its a rare thing, regardless the age difference or beliefs.I know girls generally prefer older men, but I tend to try to follow the "plus or minus 10 years" rule.
Also there's many pros to dating girls in their 20s when I'm 30 or 40, but there'd also be many cons too.
It is not that in 35 she cannot have a child. It just gets harder and harder and the pregnancy becomes more and more complicated and dangerous.
Or, you can simply date 25 year old girl in your 45. Thats not so rare and many men in 45 look very good. Men are getting older in a much slower rate than women, so its still possible (and some girls even prefer older men for this reason).
But I admit that to find a good Christian wife in younger generations is even harder than in your own.
While I don't agree with the quote "women age like milk and men age like fine wine".. I do think on average if a man takes care of himself he will age much better than the average woman.
Not if you keep making pudding at four in the morning.
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