I can't speak for anyone other than myself, I see all of humanity as Gods children and God is our Father, as Jesus taught. All humanity are my brothers and sisters in Christ, most just do not see it at this time but God is not bound by time. Why is infernalists inflammatory ? Do you not believe that God is going to burn most of his creation for all eternity, if infernalists makes someone uncomfortable, did not Jesus himself call out those with wrong thinking about God, with words like vipers, whith washes tombs with dead men's bones in them and other words that made the Pharisees uncomfortable?
Yes the idea that God is going to burn most of his creation has been the tradition of most of the church since Augustine but does a majority of people believing something make them correct? Were the Jews who killed Jesus correct because the held the majority view that the messiah was going to overthrow the Romans and set up an earthly kingdom, with the Jews at the top, that was the majority thinking at that time but they were wrong. I as a UR believer believe that the same thing is happening today, when scripture says, Jesus did not come to judge the world but to save it, I believe that is true, when scripture calls Jesus the savior of the world I believe it, not a potentiel savior. When scripture says its Gods will/ desire that none perish but that all will come to the knowledge of the truth, I believe it , when scripture says God was in Christ reconciling the world to himself, not counting men's sins against them, I believe it.
Yes God will avenge, no one " gets away with anything" but to eternally torture people, for not getting him correctly while in a temporary, mortal sin fallen body and world that is beneath God, God, as scripture teaches is love, life and light and in him is no darkness, punishment for correction is Gods way, punishment for the sake of punishment is not Gods way, that's what the pagan gods of old were like.
We are to persuade out of love, that is the teaching of Jesus, unfortunately some use scripture to excuse the way they act. Titus 1:13 " This testimony is true. For this reason, rebuke them cuttingly, so that they might be sound of faith" I think this is why some are not as loving as they should be, but on the other hand, I have been called a heretic that is going to hell for following the teachings of early church fathers.
I try to always honor Jesus and try to put forth the truth in love.