Do YOU have a crush on anyone? (59)

.Mikha'el. said:

I hope it all works out for you.

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Thanks! I’m just going to enjoy the crush and not act on it. Then it’s guaranteed to work out because there are zero expectations

peaceful-forest said:

It was a little awkward when I developed a crush on a guy I worked with years ago. I don't think he knew I liked him, but sometimes when I'd try to talk to him, I would stutter out of nervousness.

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That’s always simultaneously the worst and best feeling! I love the rush of feeling so nervous because you are so enamored with someone. But the inevitable feeling like you make yourself look silly around them is not the best… haha

TheRealAriel said:

Just enough that my mind wanders there sometimes and I get a little buzz when he

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I used to have these but they faded within the past year. I feel at least I'm able to make better decisions. It's a nice feeling though. I pray things head in a positive direction, wether that person or a door opens for another Christian man.

peaceful-forest said:

No.

There was a guy I liked. He was funny, he was politically incorrect; he appeared to be pro free speech. I had been hoping to be at least friends with him but that never happened. I got turned off by things he had done and I have been suspicious for quite some time that he's decided to compromise that attractive pro free speech he had just so he can make more money.

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I'm glad you were able to see through it and get turned off. We learn things about ourselves in that process of what's important to us. I haven't dated anyone from work, except after they left. It's hard when we see them on a daily basis. College I can think of a time with an AI for broadcasting. We went to the same grad outings too.

TheRealAriel said:

Nothing serious, but crushes really aren’t.

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No, they're not. They're hassle free to be honest, because the feelings are pure dopamine. There's nothing binding those feelings to anything that's actually real.

You notice the difference when you've achieved things with someone - and against all the odds, you've helped each other, you've grown together, you've morphed into the best collaboration that's ever happened, and then WHAM! You're in trouble. Because you've slept walked into a situation you hadn't planned for - and a situation neither one of you could afford to be in.

You realise you've essentially met your twin flame (I have my reasons for believing in this theory) and you know it's heavy, because what you're experiencing is inexplicable with words. And when the heart finally stops ruling the head, the melancholy hits hard when you know it's something you'll truly never find again.

My advice, stick to the crushes. They're easy. The twin flame thing I talk about is terrifying beyond comprehension.

The latest is an 'interest', at this point. We are both members of the same congregation. I haven't approached her yet, because. Even though I have been attending church there for more than a year, I only became a member of the congregation on 12-17-2023. I am just frustrated with being 'unequally yoked', in my 1st marriage and subsequent relationships.

Christopher Range said:

The latest is an 'interest', at this point. We are both members of the same congregation. I haven't approached her yet, because. Even though I have been attending church there for more than a year, I only became a member of the congregation on 12-17-2023. I am just frustrated with being 'unequally yoked', in my 1st marriage and subsequent relationships.

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I think it's a positive direction as far as focus, being equally yolked. Praying as you as you seek a future relationship.

sampa said:

I think it's a positive direction as far as focus, being equally yolked. Praying as you as you seek a future relationship.

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Thankyou

There's a woman from work I mentioned in here before who I was convinced liked me. Overtime, things seemed to relax and we weren't as close. Then, all of a sudden, it's like we are super close again.

She comes to my desk frequently and touches me a lot. Shakes my hand every morning for some reason. Punches me on the arm. Then, last week, she sends me this emoji of a kissing bear with hearts saying "These are for you! Hope you have a great day!" And I'm like....she has to like me. I can't imagine how this is just friendly.

Then I overhear her talking about the guy she's dating . I am now 100% certain that I will NEVER know when someone is really interested in me.

Saucy said:

There's a woman from work I mentioned in here before who I was convinced liked me. Overtime, things seemed to relax and we weren't as close. Then, all of a sudden, it's like we are super close again.

She comes to my desk frequently and touches me a lot. Shakes my hand every morning for some reason. Punches me on the arm. Then, last week, she sends me this emoji of a kissing bear with hearts saying "These are for you! Hope you have a great day!" And I'm like....she has to like me. I can't imagine how this is just friendly.

Then I overhear her talking about the guy she's dating . I am now 100% certain that I will NEVER know when someone is really interested in me.

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That's terrible!!!!!! I've had the same numerous times. Worse, I'll find out they are married. Praise the Lord you could see what she's like with someone before she became available to you. I wonder if these are self esteem issues. Like when the guy/gal is with someone they are confident and flirtatious (secure that there is someone they have). But when they don't they become insecure and it's some kind of cycle.

One guy that I knew that did this to me some years ago got really strange. He worked in a different department. Somehow he started texting..cant remember 11 yrs ago, he got upset at a work bowling event because I wasn't teamed with him. Maybe jealous and possessive. Later I learned about his girlfriend and someone said he had "Mama issues". He had a kid/baby with someone . He started becoming spiteful towards me rather than a flirteous hello. I guess he was lashing out at quite a few of his coworkers. One day while doing a quiet time while house sitting at my aunt's in the country, I heard a quiet whisper that he would be leaving. Thee next week he was fired. Talk about a holy Spirit moment. Anyways, pray for revelation and I'm sure the Holy Spirit will guide you as you navigate these situations.

Although that door closed, another one opened in a dramatic way. When you seek out the Lord, be prepared, God answers in ways we couldn't have imagined.

It's been a very long time since I had genuine interest in anyone, but it turns out, so I'm a little out of practice being around girls I like. But it turns out, I'm even more rusty than I thought, and am still pound for pound, the same awkward and shy weirdo that I always was xD

When I first joined this forum, I thought it was strange that some people weren't interested in crushes. It was a very different viewpoint from mine because I've had crushes for so many years of my life.

But I understand better now. When you like someone and you can't do anything with them, it's very unfulfilling.

I always thought a crush was that initial interest in someone, but people tell me it's not the same. I don't think crushes are pointless, even online (unless they're married or aren't serious about their faith). I've seen too many couples meet here, fall in love, and get married.

Maybe I'm just the romantic optimist but I never rule anything out. God can (and does) use any means to bring two people together.

I used to like getting crushes but I haven't really been able to meet single women in person since graduating 10 years ago (it's just the way God has set it up) so it's been a long time since I've had one.

peaceful-forest said:

When I first joined this forum, I thought it was strange that some people weren't interested in crushes. It was a very different viewpoint from mine because I've had crushes for so many years of my life.

But I understand better now. When you like someone and you can't do anything with them, it's very unfulfilling.

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It seems a lot of people say they don't like getting them, but I suspect they do, they just say they don't b/c they've had their heart broken too many times.

Nothing like your work buddy's wife sleeping with her cousin's husband, and going psycho possessive to make you thankful you're single. Haha

sampa said:

I think it's a positive direction as far as focus, being equally yolked. Praying as you as you seek a future relationship.

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I found out more about her. While she is a beautiful woman. The congregations Pastor, happens to be the husband of the woman. I never made the connection between, her name when she was mentioned among the list of members to pray for, and what she physically looked like. Am I crestfallen, no. Thankfully, I did not go down 'an emotional rabbit hole'. They have been married 28yrs.(1995) and have four adult kids. An execution that was carried out a couple of days ago, here in the USA. Was a guy who was involved in a murder-for-hire scheme. Orchestrated by a minister who was cheating on his wife. I don't want to cause a situation like that.

Christopher Range said:

I found out more about her. While she is a beautiful woman. The congregations Pastor, happens to be the husband of the woman. I never made the connection between, her name when she was mentioned among the list of members to pray for, and what she physically looked like. Am I crestfallen, no. Thankfully, I did not go down 'an emotional rabbit hole'. They have been married 28yrs.(1995) and have four adult kids.

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O boy, yikes. Sorry. Hopefully you'll have a better chance at making a connection in conversation before developing an interest. It's pretty hard. But I have found over time there are a lot more single people in churches than there used to be. Stop. Never married, divorced or children outside of marriage. Not sure if it's nationally a thing or it's just my area.

I would love for a beautiful Lady Knight to grace my life again, that I may go all out crushing on her. It has been well over two years since I ended my last crush, so I like to think sufficient time has passed for another to come into my heart. ^-^

What can i say? I am a man who adores the ladies.

sampa said:

O boy, yikes. Sorry. Hopefully you'll have a better chance at making a connection in conversation before developing an interest. It's pretty hard. But I have found over time there are a lot more single people in churches than there used to be. Stop. Never married, divorced or children outside of marriage. Not sure if it's nationally a thing or it's just my area.

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Well, I am the other way around. Because I have (physical)health issues in/around, my brain. That have existed since before I was 1yr.-old. I find out about their relationship status, first. Before I discuss, the extent of my health.

Not now I don't, which is a good thing.

I have an impossible, unrequited infatuation with being fully staffed at work. . .