How have Christians reacted to disappointment?

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In this case, I am referring to disappointment with church or church leadership.
I have seen a number of cases where Christians, having been heavily involved in a team ministry, have become isolated and part of what has been described as an unchurched diaspora. One guy I know well went to live in France and died recently, without any real allegiance to a local fellowship, even though he kept his piety. He never fell out with God.
However, another ex-work colleague, has had a volte-face it seems from any collective expression of the church and sadly even Christianity. Apparently he spent a year away from paid employment to attend bible college and get a qualification and when he returned the leadership no longer were prepared to offer him a leadership role with preaching responsibilities. I heard that he unchurched himself.
But I met up with him a year ago at an anniversary and he had a group of willing listeners around as he was castigating all capitalism and urging a vigorous socialism. I engaged with him afterwards and he seemed angry and intolerant of Christians and especially of those who still thought that the gospel and church could make any change to the misery of many people's lives.
And quite disturbingly, he now has a serious fatal wasting disease. I texted to find how he was, thinking that maybe he had reconnected in his need with the personal and the supernatural. And he was possibly even more dismissive of church. There was no personal God in his conversation, nor even reference to any liberation theology or political God.
I suppose the question I am asking is how often do people, in their disappointment with church or leadership, actually throw out their faith as well. Are even the cleverest of us usually blinded by our emotions and frustrations in deciding what we believe? How honest and objective is our faith?
 

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In this case, I am referring to disappointment with church or church leadership.
I have seen a number of cases where Christians, having been heavily involved in a team ministry, have become isolated and part of what has been described as an unchurched diaspora. One guy I know well went to live in France and died recently, without any real allegiance to a local fellowship, even though he kept his piety. He never fell out with God.
However, another ex-work colleague, has had a volte-face it seems from any collective expression of the church and sadly even Christianity. Apparently he spent a year away from paid employment to attend bible college and get a qualification and when he returned the leadership no longer were prepared to offer him a leadership role with preaching responsibilities. I heard that he unchurched himself.
But I met up with him a year ago at an anniversary and he had a group of willing listeners around as he was castigating all capitalism and urging a vigorous socialism. I engaged with him afterwards and he seemed angry and intolerant of Christians and especially of those who still thought that the gospel and church could make any change to the misery of many people's lives.
And quite disturbingly, he now has a serious fatal wasting disease. I texted to find how he was, thinking that maybe he had reconnected in his need with the personal and the supernatural. And he was possibly even more dismissive of church. There was no personal God in his conversation, nor even reference to any liberation theology or political God.
I suppose the question I am asking is how often do people, in their disappointment with church or leadership, actually throw out their faith as well. Are even the cleverest of us usually blinded by our emotions and frustrations in deciding what we believe? How honest and objective is our faith?

It might be that the person wanted to be Pastor but God doesn't call people to that role when people want it but when God wants it.
He closes and opens doors , if he wanted that guy to be in this position he would arrange things to turn that way.
It might be that he learned something which wasnt true and would somehow affect somebody's life in not the way God wanted or he actually learned alot and would do the same but God didn't want that at this time or for it to happen to people around it.

Basically God arranges many things and it is not for you or me to know.

Your friend's reaction should be just accepting that he wanted to do good but its not the job he will do now , maybe in future God will use him maybe not. Your friend is basically angry because he does not understand this.
 
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I have struggled with disappointment in church and things that are changing and programs that are becoming smaller or being cut out altogether at my church that I dislike or are unnecessary. The preaching is still good and Biblical, but the fellowship isn't as strong as it used to be among members. I currently do not have any friends there anymore like I used to back when I was younger (been attending the same church since I was a teenager), but am still going just for the sermons on Sunday.

Perhaps this will turn around since God wants us to have good connections with other Christians and I believe it's his will for me to stay here for now since I still live at home and my family will not agree to go anywhere else, but right now I could say that it is beyond disappointing and lonely most of the time.
 
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