inappropriate content topic:
My female friend found her husband had been watching and downloading inappropriate content for years and feels like he's been cheating on her for doing it. He has never physically been unfaithful and in fact, they have only ever had sex with each other (been together for over 30 years). He believes it's purely for entertainment and that he loves sex and looking at women.
They came to a compromise that he wouldn't download or search for inappropriate content (the obvious XXX inappropriate content websites etc) but he thinks anything else that may have or be about nudity is ok. My friend thinks he shouldn't even be searching or looking for things with explicit nudity in them or are of a sexual nature. For the husband, he thinks any nudity is ok to look at but is happy to draw the line at actual inappropriate contentographic websites but still wants to be part of social media groups or watch TV shows or movies that have nudity in them, as he says he enjoys it. He thinks a person should be allowed to see anything and it not affect their marriage and he has no issues with what she sees or does, as long as they are faithful physically and emotionally. He believes she is just a jealous, insecure and a conservative woman who wants to control everything he sees. He thinks it's ok to be turned on visually, as long as you don't cheat or neglect your wife sexually. He tells her he loves her and only her.
Sex quantity doesn't seem a problem as she says they have sex regularly 4- 5 times a week. They even separated over this whole issue but are still seeing a counselor to see if it can be saved. She is a Christian, whereas he is not. They are both reasonable people and respect each others beliefs but have a mismatched moral compass. With 4 kids and 30 years of marriage, is there any way to come to a compromise for these two?
I would love to hear from others opinions about this?
My female friend found her husband had been watching and downloading inappropriate content for years and feels like he's been cheating on her for doing it. He has never physically been unfaithful and in fact, they have only ever had sex with each other (been together for over 30 years). He believes it's purely for entertainment and that he loves sex and looking at women.
They came to a compromise that he wouldn't download or search for inappropriate content (the obvious XXX inappropriate content websites etc) but he thinks anything else that may have or be about nudity is ok. My friend thinks he shouldn't even be searching or looking for things with explicit nudity in them or are of a sexual nature. For the husband, he thinks any nudity is ok to look at but is happy to draw the line at actual inappropriate contentographic websites but still wants to be part of social media groups or watch TV shows or movies that have nudity in them, as he says he enjoys it. He thinks a person should be allowed to see anything and it not affect their marriage and he has no issues with what she sees or does, as long as they are faithful physically and emotionally. He believes she is just a jealous, insecure and a conservative woman who wants to control everything he sees. He thinks it's ok to be turned on visually, as long as you don't cheat or neglect your wife sexually. He tells her he loves her and only her.
Sex quantity doesn't seem a problem as she says they have sex regularly 4- 5 times a week. They even separated over this whole issue but are still seeing a counselor to see if it can be saved. She is a Christian, whereas he is not. They are both reasonable people and respect each others beliefs but have a mismatched moral compass. With 4 kids and 30 years of marriage, is there any way to come to a compromise for these two?
I would love to hear from others opinions about this?
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