Child Abuse: This is Just Me Venting

Stories like these are always distressing to read.
Unfortunately, when I was very young, my Dad died and then my mother got involved with another man who was a complete brute and monster. I got repeatedly punched and kicked like a football and then had jelly crammed into my mouth so the neighbours could never hear my cries. One day they eventually heard a commotion, I was rescued and taken to hospital. Later I spent a year and a half in a foster placement. Those two foster parents were the most mean, unkind, bullying, and uncaring people you could ever meet.
People often wonder how I managed to forgive these people for what they did, and my answer is always "because I had to". If we don't forgive, it is not others but ourselves who suffer for it. By the grace of God, I have been able to forgive, let go and move on. Today I enjoy total freedom and am not held back by the past. I have received so much love and healing in my life, that if I ever came face to face with these people, I would probably have a civil and friendly conversation with them since I no longer feel any hatred or contempt for them.

Introverted1293 said:

I posted this in the wrong section, and they have not moved it. So, there are two threads. Oops

This happened 3 years ago, but I recently came across it.

I don't know if this is the right place to vent.

My heart is hardening after hearing this boy's tragic story. I just can't believe how cruel people can be. I know that we are all sinners. But we are not all cruel. I would get angry at Christians because they seem to judge so harshly. And yet, here I am doing the same thing. I am wishing that the parents of that little boy deals with the most severe pain ever. Well, the boy had one mother and one sort of step-dad (the mother's boyfriend).

We live among monsters. And after hearing this tragic story, I started reading on other boys who got tortured. I haven't read about any girls yet. I am sure girls have to deal with being sexually assaulted and all of that. But I joined this page on Facebook, which tells you stories after stories, and they give you the news, about kids getting hurt by their parents. So, far, from what I am reading, they are all boys the same age or a little younger. They were starved, beaten, put in cages, and tied up. Some of them were even shot with pellet guns.

Growing up, I had an older brother who bullied me. I still can't forgive him. All he did was hit me a couple of times, and swung me around while I scream because I was scared of heights. My parents did not protect me from my brother and I am still mad at them. But I can't imagine what these kids are going through. The pain they are enduring, except it is killing them. And the social workers were notified of the abuse, according to these articles, and they did nothing. The parents had told them about the scars that some of these kids have, and of course they were made up stories, after the complaints were filed by the school, and the social workers believed the parents of the kids that are being tortured. When my friend's little girl was found to have bruises, they investigated, and took her away immediately (the little girl was living with her dad and my friend did not have custody over her), and rightfully so. But why did they not protect these boys? Why did the social workers believe in the parent's stories on how they got their bruises?

I am so incredibly emotional that I am losing control. If someone was to speak to me, I may tell them to f off. Things in life don't seem important right now, not even this Covid-19. The more and more I read these tragic stories, the more anger I feel towards humanity. But it is not all humanities fault. But my heart is getting bitter. Parents are supposed to protect their children regardless of gender, race, or what they struggle with.

How do I deal with this emotional agony? And how can I help to prevent these things and raise awareness?

Also, how do I control my emotions when reading these things?

I take these stories personally. I have a niece and two nephews.

And when I read these stories, I sometimes cry and get very angry that I want to break something. I start shaking and I get very dizzy. I imagine my nephews and niece going through that. It is something that I can't help. What if this was my kid (except I don't have kids, so it's hard to imagine)?

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When you are born again, then that all goes away.


Psalm 9:10
And those who know your name put their trust in you, for you, O Lord, have not forsaken those who seek you.

Romans 15:13
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.

Psalm 31:14-15
But I trust in you, O Lord; I say, “You are my God.” My times are in your hand; rescue me from the hand of my enemies and from my persecutors!

Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.

Mark 5:36
But overhearing what they said, Jesus said to the ruler of the synagogue, “Do not fear, only believe.”

Malachi 3:6
“For I the Lord do not change; therefore you, O children of Jacob, are not consumed.

Ephesians 1:3
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places,

Deuteronomy 28:1-68
“And if you faithfully obey the voice of the Lord your God, being careful to do all his commandments that I command you today, the Lord your God will set you high above all the nations of the earth. And all these blessings shall come upon you and overtake you, if you obey the voice of the Lord your God. Blessed shall you be in the city, and blessed shall you be in the field. Blessed shall be the fruit of your womb and the fruit of your ground and the fruit of your cattle, the increase of your herds and the young of your flock. Blessed shall be your basket and your kneading bowl. ...

James 4:7
Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

1 John 4:16
So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.

Hebrews 13:8
Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.

Romans 8:28
And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.

Psalm 112:7
He is not afraid of bad news; his heart is firm, trusting in the Lord.

Psalm 28:7
The Lord is my strength and my shield; in him my heart trusts, and I am helped; my heart exults, and with my song I give thanks to him.

John 14:26
But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, he will teach you all things and bring to your remembrance all that I have said to you.

Psalm 46:1
To the choirmaster. Of the Sons of Korah. According to Alamoth. A Song. God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.

Psalm 144:1
Of David. Blessed be the Lord, my rock, who trains my hands for war, and my fingers for battle;

Psalm 1:1-6
Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers. The wicked are not so, but are like chaff that the wind drives away. Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous; ...

Leviticus 26:1-46
“You shall not make idols for yourselves or erect an image or pillar, and you shall not set up a figured stone in your land to bow down to it, for I am the Lord your God. You shall keep my Sabbaths and reverence my sanctuary: I am the Lord. “If you walk in my statutes and observe my commandments and do them, then I will give you your rains in their season, and the land shall yield its increase, and the trees of the field shall yield their fruit. Your threshing shall last to the time of the grape harvest, and the grape harvest shall last to the time for sowing. And you shall eat your bread to the full and dwell in your land securely. ...

Hebrews 11:1-40
Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen. For by it the people of old received their commendation. By faith we understand that the universe was created by the word of God, so that what is seen was not made out of things that are visible. By faith Abel offered to God a more acceptable sacrifice than Cain, through which he was commended as righteous, God commending him by accepting his gifts. And through his faith, though he died, he still speaks. By faith Enoch was taken up so that he should not see death, and he was not found, because God had taken him. Now before he was taken he was commended as having pleased God. ...

Luke 10:27
And he answered, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind, and your neighbor as yourself.”

Proverbs 3:5
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.

Romans 8:32
He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things?

Isaiah 26:3
You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you.

Philippians 4:13
I can do all things through him who strengthens me.

John 14:1
“Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me.

We need to embrace our sadness. Our mourning for the world that wasn't. Hope that our God (as far as we know Him) will help us keep integrity (whatever that might look like) whatever we go through. Our grief for the grief, and the lack of grief, of many others.