That is an outrageous perversion of the plain and simple text and you know it.
The letter is initially aimed at the assembly (you) but changes to an individual person (He) at v20, as the Greek Text also make obvious.
Again you pervert the simple text.
Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and dine with him, and he with Me.
Jesus wants entry into the man's heart, but it is entirely conditional on the man's choice whether to open up to him.
The free choice the man has to open the door, or not to, is contained in the simple word "if". Here's what Strong's Concordance says about "if".
1437 eán (a conjunction, derived from 1487 /ei, "if" and 302 /án, a particle showing a statement is conditional) â if, referring to a condition extending to its "spin-off" possibilities â i.e. that happen if the condition is actualized or is valid.
It was intended to be offensive, offensive to the false doctrines you preach. Your theology has Jesus kicking doors down and forcing people to become believers against their will.
Let's search for the word "heart" in the passage:
"To the angel of the assembly in Laodicea write: The Amen, the faithful and true Witness, the Beginning of the creation of God, says this:
15 'I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot; I wish that you were cold or hot.
16 'So because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of My mouth.
17 'Because you say, "I am rich, and have become wealthy, and have need of nothing," and you do not know that you are wretched and miserable and poor and blind and naked,
18 I advise you to buy from Me gold refined by fire so that you may become rich, and white garments so that you may clothe yourself, and [that] the shame of your nakedness will not be revealed; and eye salve to anoint your eyes so that you may see.
19 'Those whom I love, I reprove and discipline; therefore be zealous and repent.
20 'Behold, I stand at the door and knock; if anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and will dine with him, and he with Me.
21 'He who overcomes, I will grant to him to sit down with Me on My throne, as I also overcame and sat down with My Father on His throne.
22 'He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to the assemblies.'"
(Revelation 3:14-22)
The word "heart" is not there, Francis Drake. Lord Jesus says "if anyone hears My voice and opens the door" (Revelation 3:20) and Lord Jesus opens the ears of the deaf (Matthew 11:5, Mark 7:32); therefore, for a person to hear the voice of the Lord, the Lord must open the ears, and the phrase "if anyone hears My voice" occurs first in the sentence.
A conditional is normally an IF/THEN construct.
IF you_do_this THEN that_will_happen
Thus, the conditional expresses an action in the condition (you_do_this), and the effectual result in the predicate (that_will_happen).
A conditional does not inherently convey ability to the recipient of the conditional.
Even the definition of "if" that you posts shows that if demonstrates possibilities not abilities per se.
Now, search for "choose" or it's conjugates in Revelation 3:14-22, and the verb "choose" or it's conjugates are absent, but you add "choose" or it's conjugates to the passage.
As I wrote previously, this is to an assembly, Laodicea to be precise (Revelation 3:14). and the conclusion of the passage states "He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to the assemblies" (Revelation 3:22), and Lord Jesus opens the ears of the deaf (Matthew 11:5, Mark 7:32).
It is clear that Jesus narrows down to "him" and "he", but Jesus restrains the context to the Assembly of God which means that the Spirit of God is already there for the "him" and "he" in Revelation 3:14-22.
Your metaphoraical "just kick the door down" is offensive to God Almighty, for when Jesus comes to His friends, He says things like this to His loved ones "Peace [be] with you." (John 20:19) and "Receive the Holy Spirit" (John 20:22) - to His own sheep who "the doors were shut where the disciples were" (John 20:19) when He said these things!
Since you have added "heart" into the text by way of your writings, Francis Drake, and you have added "choose" or it's conjugates for man to choose God, these actions of your's shows that your heart longs to add to Revelation, and the Apostle John wrote of dire consequences for adding to and subtracting from the book "I testify to everyone who hears the words of the prophecy of this book: if anyone adds to them, God will add to him the plagues which are written in this book; and if anyone takes away from the words of the book of this prophecy, God will take away his part from the tree of life and from the holy city, which are written in this book" (Revelation 22:18-19).