Eloping anxiety

Aaron V said:

I think I'm starting to understand now
I just always thought you'd had to be married by the law or church to be actually married and 2 people being together engaging in sexual intercourse was a sin even if they loved each other and planned to be together for their lives

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yes having sex before marriage, living together before marriage is sin. However if you are eloped it is not sin, because now you are in covenant marriage. Even if you didn't have a wedding, there was an official there that witnessed the eloping. Also in many states eloping means you can get a marriage certificate. So check your state laws. But make it official. You don't have to have an expensive wedding, but I would at least get the license if it's practical to do so. It's not required in God's eyes, but that way you both are sole heirs of each other, and it's official for insurance reasons etc.

Aaron V said:

Hello
I'm having some anxiety about eloping with my wife,we eloped last Friday
However I'm having anxiety about if it's true in god's eyes
I read that legal marriage counts to god however I'm not sure if the government here counts because in Darwin Australia we have same sex marriage
I read that as long as the government follows god's greater laws it's fine
Is my marriage still good in god's eyes?

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Was it just the two of you?

Aaron V said:

Also I thought some sort of marriage had to take part for it to count?

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You need witnesses. Did you have any?

Sabertooth said:

A wedding is a public ceremony to announce your marriage, but it is not required.

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I disagree respectfully. There needs to be witnesses and accountability. The wedding is part of this process.

Aaron V said:

Only reason I thought it wasn't valid was because the government who witnessed it is the same government that allowed same sex marriage

We did tell people about the elope and had parents we still talk to give us their blessing

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Ok more clarity. SO your parents have not given their blessings?

That is two different things. The Government sees you as legally married because you had your licence, you had witnesses and signed the paperwork. God sees you as married if you are one man and one woman who got legally married in front of witnesses and made vows to each other. It's those going against God law for marriage who are not married in God's sight.

It's not the government that marries you. You marry each other by making your vows; the government is only an official witness.

Aaron V said:

Oooh I see even if the magistrate says the words and such?

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Sure, the celebrant will say something that affirms that you are now married; but that's not what makes the marriage.

Aaron V said:

So the government is just another "witness"?

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Correct. (As would be a priest or pastor if you had chosen to go that way).

Aaron V said:

Oooh I see even if the magistrate says the words and such?

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That was the legal side of it, not the spiritual.

If the law requires you to sin, don't.

Since your marriage is not a sin, it's not an issue in this case.