I want a girl to love... but I don’t think it’ll ever happen

Church singles groups (recommended).

Pray and be in no hurry.

M-Bob

One thing is certain. You have to go to places and events where there are unmarried women, which is along the lines of what Mountainmanbob just wrote. And you have to be comfortable making small talk.

you'll need to begin the work of bettering yourself. work on your self-esteem as women tend to not like guys who have no confidence.

Wrong approach, that you think your confidence is in you. And that you make yourself believe it won't ever happen. Start today believing it not only can but will. That's just a choice matter.

Anything is possible in Christ Jesus ( God), put your trust and confidence in Him and you will be surprised what spills out of you in the overflow.

Read Psalm 37, then read it again. Trust in God with prayer and thanksgiving, make your request known to Him and watch it happen in due time. But you will have to show up. There is a woman out there for you. Roughly half the worlds population is female, you only need one.

THE W said:

women tend to not like guys who have no confidence.

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You hit on a big one there.

Round the time in which I met my wife there was another gentleman interest it in her but, she mentioned that she dropped him because he was lacking in self confidence.

The poor guy actually told her that if she did not want to date him he totally understood.

Overcoming public speaking can also be of help.
There are classes.

Many blessings sent,
from
M-Bob

Your Bible has plenty to help you with this. Any scripture can help you, however God blesses. Trust God.

And you need to have good sermons; any Biblical sermon can help you, somehow.

And you do well to share with mature Christian couples, so you can see how they relate; and talk with them, about this. There is scripture about how to relate as God's family > Ephesians 5:21, 1 Peter 5:3, Ephesians 4:31-5:2 < as you grow in this with various Christians, not only some one favorite girl, this will prepare you to share with a really Christian lady.

And as you find out how to love any and all people like they do, now you will be able to get with a lady who is humble and caring for any and all people the way Jesus has us loving. And she wants to be humble; so she will not put demands on you to make her feel special. But you can enjoy loving with one another. God's way of loving "without complaining and disputing" (Philippians 2:13-16) is special So, learn how to love the way the Bible says.

You need to humble yourself and trust Jesus, and do not make a big thing about how you might see yourself, now. How you see yourself negatively can be just a trick to keep your attention away from seeking God and esteeming Him.

JackSimms said:

New user here. Please excuse my writing skills. Sometimes I have a hard time writing out my thoughts.

To start things out, I'm a 23 year old guy who's a Christian. I believe in the Lord Jesus and want to be a man of God. I have social issues so I've never been on a date or talked to a girl that I liked.

Lately I've been feeling sad because I wish that I was married. And, no, not just for sex. For the most part, I want somebody to share life's joys and heartaches with. I want to make her feel special and loved. I want somebody to just have fun with and to cuddle and share my faith with. And I'd really like to have kids too. As for the responsibility part of all that, I welcome it. I think God made humans, especially men, to have a desire to take on responsibility.

I just don't think I'll ever find a woman that would even want to be with me. I don't think much of myself, and I don't see why any woman would either. I don't even know how to meet a quality girl let alone end up marrying one. I do feel sad because I think I'll be alone forever. I makes me very sad sometimes. I'm completely losing hope. Any advice?

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Wish I had words of comfort to offer. But unfortunately, you're at a point where women your age want to "have fun" and "live life to the fullest". Another fifteen years of this will find quite a few of them whining and pouting in the break room at their work. "Where are all the good men?!"

That's the bad news. The good news is they're not all like that. And you only need to find one good one. Piece of cake!

First, get mad. At yourself, for openers. You're intelligent enough to write a lengthy post as you express yourself in a coherent and relatable way. Contrary to whatever you may think, that skill isn't very common.

So you have above average brains going for you. You're also a Christian, which is another plus.

I recommend exercise. Do some pushups everyday. As many as you can. When you are ready, get a gym membership and do cardio and lift weights. You'll be astounded at how fast you'll make big gains.

There's a spillover effect from that to the other parts of your life. Get in physical shape, work hard at your job, get raises, make investments. Be alive.

Get your act together and you'll be amazed at how quality women will seek you out.

Good luck!

Albion said:

And you have to be comfortable making small talk.

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Doesn't the Bible speaks very negatively of this type of activity?

You can still meet women other than with small talk. It's harder but opportunities still come.

THE W said:

women tend to not like guys who have no confidence.

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And I don't like women who doesn't like guys with no confidence!

Solves the problem!

JackSimms said:

And, no, not just for sex. For the most part, I want somebody to share life’s joys and heartaches with.

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What life's joys???

It's it what you see in the TV, in the magazines, ads, billboards, movies? Is it what everyone talks about?

Do you trust what everyone has been wanting, thinking for the last couple decades to be the truth?

Is what everyone thinks is fun and joyful for them would also be fun and joyful for you?

Do make that assumption? Do you believe it? Is it the Truth?

timewerx said:

Doesn't the Bible speaks very negatively of this type of activity?

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I don't think so.

timewerx said:

And I don't like women who doesn't like guys with no confidence!

Solves the problem!

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So you don't like women then?

JackSimms said:

New user here. Please excuse my writing skills. Sometimes I have a hard time writing out my thoughts.

To start things out, I’m a 23 year old guy who’s a Christian. I believe in the Lord Jesus and want to be a man of God. I have social issues so I’ve never been on a date or talked to a girl that I liked.

Lately I’ve been feeling sad because I wish that I was married. And, no, not just for sex. For the most part, I want somebody to share life’s joys and heartaches with. I want to make her feel special and loved. I want somebody to just have fun with and to cuddle and share my faith with. And I’d really like to have kids too. As for the responsibility part of all that, I welcome it. I think God made humans, especially men, to have a desire to take on responsibility.

I just don’t think I’ll ever find a woman that would even want to be with me. I don’t think much of myself, and I don’t see why any woman would either. I don’t even know how to meet a quality girl let alone end up marrying one. I do feel sad because I think I’ll be alone forever. I makes me very sad sometimes. I’m completely losing hope. Any advice?

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[/QUOTE] never been on a date or talked to a girl that I liked.
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Don't look at every girl .. or any girl as a possible "date" prospective and certainly not a life mate prospective ... talk to a lot of girls and make friends.

Activities and interests? What do you like to do? Then go search out organized clubs, groups etc that offer those things preferably those within the christian sector.

Just be you ... concentrate and pursue on becoming friends and don't "dismiss" someone if you've only just met them and really haven't gotten to know them, nor them you. Most people are very awkward when first meeting someone.

Again ... activities of some sort helps a lot because of doing something and not just leaving all time spent together in just conversing.

THE W said:

So you don't like women then?

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I've met women who doesn't care if a guy is confident or not.

In fact, they are the ones who walked up to me and started the conversation while I'm in a corner with my usual poker face and in my cheap work suit doing absolutely nothing.

They exist!

timewerx said:

I've met women who doesn't care if a guy is confident or not.

In fact, they are the ones who walked up to me and started the conversation while I'm in a corner with my usual poker face and in my cheap work suit doing absolutely nothing.

They exist!

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Oh yeah, the feminists.

I'm not into role reversals though.

JackSimms said:

New user here. Please excuse my writing skills. Sometimes I have a hard time writing out my thoughts.

To start things out, I’m a 23 year old guy who’s a Christian. I believe in the Lord Jesus and want to be a man of God. I have social issues so I’ve never been on a date or talked to a girl that I liked.

Lately I’ve been feeling sad because I wish that I was married. And, no, not just for sex. For the most part, I want somebody to share life’s joys and heartaches with. I want to make her feel special and loved. I want somebody to just have fun with and to cuddle and share my faith with. And I’d really like to have kids too. As for the responsibility part of all that, I welcome it. I think God made humans, especially men, to have a desire to take on responsibility.

Any advice?

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Hey, Jack, tell the devil to shut up.

Whose voice is this: "I just don’t think I’ll ever find a woman that would even want to be with me. I don’t think much of myself, and I don’t see why any woman would either. I don’t even know how to meet a quality girl let alone end up marrying one. I do feel sad because I think I’ll be alone forever. I makes me very sad sometimes. I’m completely losing hope."?

Does this sound like it is from the Lord? NO!

Here is what HE says: Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things." Phil 4:8

You are God's creation and He loves you. He doesn't castigate you. Stop doing it to yourself!

The Lord says other things about you, and if you doubt him, that's where your problem lies. Your unbelief.

“I am fearfully and wonderfully made." Psalm 139:14

And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. Phillipians 4:19

If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. James 1:5

Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4

But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint. Isaiah 40:31

It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.” Deut 31:8

I can do all things through him who strengthens me. Phil 4:13

Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6

You are 23. She will come at the right time. Be a good, strong, and true man of God, ready for and worthy of her.

When I was about your age, I had made a lot of relationship mistakes and finally realized that the Lord's way was the only way. I told the Lord I would never date until he brought me the right person, the one HE had for me. And this is what I wanted: I literally made a list of 25 things, from the shallow ones (eye color) to the most important ones, like shared my values and my faith. I got EVERY SINGLE THING on that list, except one (an unimportant one), and ironically, I'm getting that too, as I age. The Lord loves me and gave me the desires of my heart. He doesn't love me any more than He loves YOU. You have not because you ask not. Ask him, and wait patiently. Get to know Him while you are waiting, by spending time with Him and in the Word of God. It won't be wasted on your future family.

Believe.

JackSimms said:

New user here. Please excuse my writing skills. Sometimes I have a hard time writing out my thoughts.

To start things out, I’m a 23 year old guy who’s a Christian. I believe in the Lord Jesus and want to be a man of God. I have social issues so I’ve never been on a date or talked to a girl that I liked.

Lately I’ve been feeling sad because I wish that I was married. And, no, not just for sex. For the most part, I want somebody to share life’s joys and heartaches with. I want to make her feel special and loved. I want somebody to just have fun with and to cuddle and share my faith with. And I’d really like to have kids too. As for the responsibility part of all that, I welcome it. I think God made humans, especially men, to have a desire to take on responsibility.

I just don’t think I’ll ever find a woman that would even want to be with me. I don’t think much of myself, and I don’t see why any woman would either. I don’t even know how to meet a quality girl let alone end up marrying one. I do feel sad because I think I’ll be alone forever. I makes me very sad sometimes. I’m completely losing hope. Any advice?

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Not a bad desire to have, but have you weigh truly what that means to marry? It is a binding covenant until one of you dies. Just like walking with Christ, it’s easy to romanticize until you are called to make sacrifices. It’s not only a taking on of more things, it’s also a shedding of some of ones own desires.

Have you prepared yourself for whichever lady is out there financially, spiritually? Have you consider how the foundation would look like? When you prepare the nest, the girl will come.But hope not doubt is a strategy. Put a game plan in place!