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When someone figures out this puzzle in the Western World please let me know. It is a definite challenge of being Orthodox in America.
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Hahah, I’d say keep approaching people just to get to know them. That’s what I’ve been doing recently and it’s been more care-free. Just approaching with no expectations and living each day in the present moment. But, I’m only saying this from experience right now, that may change.When someone figures out this puzzle in the Western World please let me know. It is a definite challenge of being Orthodox in America.
Hahah, I’d say keep approaching people just to get to know them. That’s what I’ve been doing recently and it’s been more care-free. Just approaching with no expectations and living each day in the present moment. But, I’m only saying this from experience right now, that may change.
Any advice on how to accomplish that?
I'm actually being really serious this is something Ive struggled with and been on my mind a lot lately.
Are you having trouble communicating, meeting prospects or both?
Do you mean advice in meeting Orthodox women? I don’t fully get your question.Any advice on how to accomplish that?
I'm actually being really serious this is something Ive struggled with and been on my mind a lot lately.
Do you mean advice in meeting Orthodox women? I don’t fully get your question.
Let me put it this way. In the 3+ years since I started attending an orthodox church. In that time Ive actually encountered 3 women who meet the basic criteria of being 1) in their 20's, 2) Orthodox, 3) unmarried.
Meeting eligible women. Its a problem.
But I don't know how to show romantic interest, or anything like that. I kinda just make it up as I go.
I'm "different". I don't know how to put it into words, its not something that is apparent if you met me on the street or even if you became friends with me.
Trust in the Providence of God (Read “The Sunflower” by St. John of Tobolsk) and just approach women you find attractive. It’s easier said than done, but practice makes the process easier as time goes on.I mean being more care free and having less expectations in life in general.
T. She may not be an EO at present. But her love and trust in you can lead her there.
My Ex was not a christian (long story how that came about) and I kept hoping eventually she might come around to it. She didn't, and that among other reasons lead to us breaking up which is still something that pains me to think about.
At this point I'll do almost anything just to MEET a woman who meets the basic criteria of being 1)orthodox, 2) Single, 3) between ages 21 and 29. Forget marriage, I just want to know that a woman who meets those 3 things exist.
That is a different issue altogether. The woman who agrees to be your bride will have put her trust in God of her own volition. And she’d be keenly aware of your regard for EO. The question of joining you on that path may be a minor compromise for what she gains in return.
There are things I felt I couldn’t do but time and maturity have shown me otherwise. I don’t have the liberty of asking for aid and trying to micromanage the result. Either I trust Him to bring it forth or I don’t.
You need to pray for this and prepare yourself to meet her. Also, be aware that perhaps she won't be as you imagined in your dreams.
You can't hurry love, you'll just have to wait.....
Seriously, I didn't get married until I was 40, and alas, my Hub is not Orthodox, but I love him with all my heart - even when he's driving me nuts.
I found my now wife when I stopped actively looking.
I'm not sure what your getting at with the "in your dreams" comment. It just comes across as condescending.
I'm not looking for someone who is a runway model, or perfect bastion of christian virtue. I'm just looking for someone who is pursuing God and who I can pursue God with.
I'm firmly against going into a relationship knowing that the other person is going to have to change some key part of themselves in order for it to work.