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So I'm in an interesting situation:
I have a crush on a girl at work. We've worked together for over a year, and over that time we've become friends. She just got out of a three-year relationship a few weeks ago and the kicker is her ex is both a coworker of ours, and a friend of mine.
It's a tricky situation to navigate, because I'm definitely not the kind of guy to "swoop in" on anyone—I like and respect both of them too much for that and I think that's boorish behavior to boot.
Nevertheless she and I have been talking a lot the past week or so and just having these compelling conversations throughout he course of an afternoon at work, and we've talked about getting Indian food for dinner this Friday to celebrate the end of a gnarly week. We have a lot in common and all that, but I definitely don't want to get in the way of the healing process—which after a three year relationship might be a while.
That being said, there could also be the possibility that she'd be available sooner than I expect because maybe the prior relationship was deteriorating and she had begun to move on before they actually split. I don't know, I can't say for sure.
If you guys were in my shoes, how would you go about this (if at all)? Or would I be too much of a scumbag to pursue this?
Thanks in advance.
I have a crush on a girl at work. We've worked together for over a year, and over that time we've become friends. She just got out of a three-year relationship a few weeks ago and the kicker is her ex is both a coworker of ours, and a friend of mine.
It's a tricky situation to navigate, because I'm definitely not the kind of guy to "swoop in" on anyone—I like and respect both of them too much for that and I think that's boorish behavior to boot.
Nevertheless she and I have been talking a lot the past week or so and just having these compelling conversations throughout he course of an afternoon at work, and we've talked about getting Indian food for dinner this Friday to celebrate the end of a gnarly week. We have a lot in common and all that, but I definitely don't want to get in the way of the healing process—which after a three year relationship might be a while.
That being said, there could also be the possibility that she'd be available sooner than I expect because maybe the prior relationship was deteriorating and she had begun to move on before they actually split. I don't know, I can't say for sure.
If you guys were in my shoes, how would you go about this (if at all)? Or would I be too much of a scumbag to pursue this?
Thanks in advance.