Please pray for my situation

Swiftbreeze · Nov 2, 2018

Hi guys. I would appreciate some prayers for a situation I'm in. I'm having some difficulties, and I'm not sure what I should do.

I used to be best friends with this girl, until eventually she started to drift apart. We went from spending all day every day together, to all of a sudden not hearing from her in weeks. I would try to reach out to her, but she wouldn't respond for weeks. Weeks turned into months, months turned into years. I was very hurt, because I never knew what happened. A few days ago I found her number and I reached out to her. We have been talking a few times here and there, but I'm afraid she doesn't like me for some reason. I always have to reach out to her first, and she doesn't seem very invested in talking to me. I tried to invite her to hang out and she declined saying she was "too lazy". At the same time I feel like I'm overreacting, because she told me she doesn't have any friends or do anything anymore so maybe it isn't me but her.

Anyways, I would like prayers for this situation. I would like to be friends with her again, but if it isn't meant to be I want to move on and get rid of this sadness. I have been sad about our friendship for years, because I always missed her so much. So if you would, please pray that I can have some guidance in this situation. Thank you.

chapmic · Nov 2, 2018

Praying for you and her, I would say keep inviting her and communicating when you can. She may be lonely or is not confident in telling you what is bothering her. But one day she may be ready to confess, be patient and stay strong regardless for your kindness and guidance may help her and you to have a closer relationship with the Lord. God bless!

Maria Billingsley · Nov 2, 2018

Swiftbreeze said:
I used to be best friends with this girl, until eventually she started to drift apart.

Are you a female or male friend?

Swiftbreeze · Nov 2, 2018

Maria Billingsley said:
Are you a female or male friend?

Female

Maria Billingsley · Nov 2, 2018

Swiftbreeze said:
Female

Did you ever watch the move Wonder?

Swiftbreeze · Nov 2, 2018

Maria Billingsley said:
Did you ever watch the move Wonder?

No, I haven't seen it. What is it about?

Maria Billingsley · Nov 2, 2018

Swiftbreeze said:
No, I haven't seen it. What is it about?

Its a really sweet movie about friendships and accepting others. There is a girl who is going through the same thing you are. It reminded me of you. It has a good ending but sometimes people change and situations change and it may not go the way you would like. But if you really want to know you may consider asking her.
Blessings.

Swiftbreeze · Nov 2, 2018

Maria Billingsley said:
Its a really sweet movie about friendships and accepting others. There is a girl who is going through the same thing you are. It reminded me of you. It has a good ending but sometimes people change and situations change and it may not go the way you would like. But if you really want to know you may consider asking her.
Blessings.

Thank you. I will have to try and check it out some time.

I have tried to talk to her about this, both then and now, but nothing seems to come from it. Before we stopped talking, I would ask her what's going on and she would just apologize but never really explain anything. She would try to engage more for about a day or two, before going right back to how she was before. Eventually she stopped even that. I have tried to talk to her a few times about it now, but she doesn't really say anything. She just says she doesn't talk to anyone anymore, and she doesn't do anything. I told her I missed how things used to be, but she never answered. I have a few suspicions as to what might be going on, but I don't want to jump to conclusions.

Maria Billingsley · Nov 2, 2018

Swiftbreeze said:
Thank you. I will have to try and check it out some time.

I have tried to talk to her about this, both then and now, but nothing seems to come from it. Before we stopped talking, I would ask her what's going on and she would just apologize but never really explain anything. She would try to engage more for about a day or two, before going right back to how she was before. Eventually she stopped even that. I have tried to talk to her a few times about it now, but she doesn't really say anything. She just says she doesn't talk to anyone anymore, and she doesn't do anything. I told her I missed how things used to be, but she never answered. I have a few suspicions as to what might be going on, but I don't want to jump to conclusions.

I don't want to jump to conclusions either but it really sounds like she had a life changing experience that has caused her to withdraw. I think your concern is not so much loosing a friend but you genuinely think there is something very wrong and you are worried about it. Is she an adult?

Swiftbreeze · Nov 2, 2018

Maria Billingsley said:
I don't want to jump to conclusions either but it really sounds like she had a life changing experience that has caused her to withdraw. I think your concern is not so much loosing a friend but you genuinely think there is something very wrong and you are worried about it. Is she an adult?

Yes, she is an adult now although we were teenagers when this first happened.

Southernscotty · Nov 3, 2018

Standing in prayer agreement with all. Bless you friend :]

LoricaLady · Nov 3, 2018

I pray you will be given guidance and insight as to what to do, and peace about that.

Maria Billingsley · Nov 3, 2018

Swiftbreeze said:
Yes, she is an adult now although we were teenagers when this first happened.

Well, only you know best in this situation. I pray our Lord give you the guidance and strength you need to overcome this situation so you are at peace.
Blessings

BookishGirl · Nov 3, 2018

Is it possible that God wants you to move on from this relationship? It is ok to pray for someone and entrust them to God's care, then move on with your life. Sometimes we hold on to things too long, when what we really need to do is move on to the next thing the Lord has for us.

Praying for you to have discernment and direction.

Swiftbreeze · Nov 3, 2018

BookishGirl said:
Is it possible that God wants you to move on from this relationship? It is ok to pray for someone and entrust them to God's care, then move on with your life. Sometimes we hold on to things too long, when what we really need to do is move on to the next thing the Lord has for us.

Praying for you to have discernment and direction.

I honestly don't know. For some reason, I have always had a really hard time letting this friendship go. Right now I don't really have any friends. Some people I had to stop being friends, others I just grew apart from as we went our own ways. But with her... she just changed one day and shut me out. We were such good friends before that this is mind boggling to me. Throughout all of the years, and all of my friendships she is the only friend I'm having a hard time letting go of and I don't know why. She wasn't my only close friend either. There were people I knew longer than her that I spent more time with, but I don't miss them like I do her.

Finding her phone number again after losing it for years makes me wonder if maybe God wants us to try and rekindle our friendship, but I really can't tell if that's true or if this is just my wishful thinking. I would really like to try one more time to be friends, because right now I really need a friend. But at the same time I don't want to get hurt if things end up the same way they were before. I just can't tell what I should do.

Thank you for the prayers though. I really appreciate it.

Swiftbreeze · Nov 3, 2018

So... quick update. I'm pretty sure I'm just not going to bother talking to her anymore. I had a discussion with her about this, and she doesn't seem interested in being friends so there is no point in trying anymore. I'm very sad, and I'm trying hard not to cry but it's really hard. I think I'm having a hard time letting go, because before this happened our friendship was great. Then all of a sudden she just changed and shut me out without warning. I don't understand what happened, and she won't give me any answers. At least with my other friends I got a definite closure, whereas here I've been left wondering for years. It is what it is, I guess. I have to just accept this and try and move on with my life.

BookishGirl · Nov 3, 2018

Swiftbreeze said:
So... quick update. I'm pretty sure I'm just not going to bother talking to her anymore. I had a discussion with her about this, and she doesn't seem interested in being friends so there is no point in trying anymore. I'm very sad, and I'm trying hard not to cry but it's really hard. I think I'm having a hard time letting go, because before this happened our friendship was great. Then all of a sudden she just changed and shut me out without warning. I don't understand what happened, and she won't give me any answers. At least with my other friends I got a definite closure, whereas here I've been left wondering for years. It is what it is, I guess. I have to just accept this and try and move on with my life.

I'm very sorry.

God has better things in store for you. Trust in His timing for you. He will bring new friends into your life.

"And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose." Romans 8:28 (NASB)

Multifavs · Nov 3, 2018

I'm sorry to hear about your situation, Swiftbreeze. I know how you feel because I've had friends mysteriously stop talking to me as well. I had to end those friendships, and sometimes it's hard not to feel sad about lost friendships. I'm praying for you and I hope you can find another friend who will be a good one. :hug:

EzekielsWheels · Nov 3, 2018

I'm sorry this friendship has ended. I pray for new friends for you!

Please pray for my situation

Member

Follower of Jesus

Well-Known Member

Member

Well-Known Member

Member

Well-Known Member

Member

Well-Known Member

Member

Well-Known Member

YHWH's

Well-Known Member

Well-Known Member

Member

Member

Well-Known Member

Daughter of God

Well-Known Member

Similar threads