Of course you can live life and not have sex. Sexual lust is useless if you want to live a life in Christ. "But she's my wife!" Lust is lust friend. I haven't had sex in like 4 and a half years and I'm not all that worried about it. It was also with a female I wasn't romantically attached to. She bought alcohol for the both of us and came onto me. And the only other female I had ever slept with before that was my ex girlfriend. I've slept with 2 females in my life and I'll be 24 this year. Of course going MGTOW has really helped me in not caring about sex and all that nonsense as well. But aside from all that, scripture talks about fornication being a sin, right? This includes consensual sex between a married couple. We are told to be a pure people and sexual lust gets in the way of that. Paul said something about coming together for a time but he also said to pray on it until you can STOP DOING IT. He didn't say, "have at it you crazy kids!" He said to avoid temptation and the Devil, let every man have his wife. But after that he said to pray on it and eventually find the strength to refrain from doing it altogether. It is sex for pleasure, not for reproduction. This is the issue. Fornication is fornication whether you are doing it with a spouse or a prostitute. Now I understand how some may react to this. But remember, it is not ME and MY rules you have a problem with, it is GOD's rules you have a problem with. I didn't make these rules up man, the Lord did. I'm just reciting them to you. And listen, I'm not saying that I don't EVER think about sex. I'd be lying if I were to say that. Lust is the greatest sin in all the world. I've said this many times, "not everybody drinks, gambles or does drugs, but EVERYBODY has sex". I'll be totally honest in telling you that I actually think about sex every day. I've got it bad. At one time I had over 300 inappropriate contentographic images on my tablet alone. That way I could look at it if I had to go somewhere or if I traveled. I have a bad issue with alcohol and can easily drink a case of beer to myself, but my lusting is worse. I've actually told God this more than once, "Lord, I'd rather drink every day than deal with this lust." And I mean that as an alcoholic. I often say that alcohol is cancer, but I'd rather take the bottle over my sexual desires any day. Lust is degrading, vile and insanely vulgar. I saw my first inappropriate contento at the age of 5 because a cousin left it in the VCR for me to find. I watched in wonder at what the guy and girl were doing. From that day on I've thought about girls in a "whole different way". I never could look at them quite the same after that. I often wondered what they looked like without clothes on. At 5 years old I was thinking like this man. I know how you must feel. If I had sex every time I was feeling "that way", I might have 300 children or maybe an STD. Lusting the way I do is a terrible shame to bare. I promise that I do feel shame when looking at it. It's like a little voice in my head that tells me to stop because I know that it just leaves me feeling guilty and empty and just plain vile. I don't know brother. I may just have to remember you in my prayers. Much hope and love to all those struggling with lust issues. I'm certainly no stranger to that beast myself.
Sorry, sir. Lust is not a sin.
Lust simply means desire.
You can lust after something that's not evil, and it is not sin.
Check out Deuteronomy 12:15-26, in the KJV. You will find that God says 4 times that the Israelites could buy whatever they LUSTED after, and come and feast before the Lord with it.
Fornication is a specific sin. It is sex between UNMARRIED persons.
Adultery is a different specific sin. It is sex between a MARRIED person, and someone they are NOT married to.
There is NO hint, anywhere in the Bible, that sex with your husband or wife is sinful. EVER.
Yes, it might be lustful. But lust, in English Bible translations, is a Shakespearean word. It's used in the way England used that word 400 years ago... they did not use the word lust to mean only sexual sin. They used the word lust to mean "desire."
God designed the desire for sex in a healthy human body, at Creation. And He said it was GOOD.
Then, He made a WIFE for Adam, and issued the first command ever given in Scripture. He said it to the couple He just married in the Garden of Eden:
"Be fruitful and multiply"!
In case you don't know what that means... It means... "Go have sex... often!"
