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Im 23 and have had sex maybe 8 times this year, freshly married one year. that does not sound good, am i right?
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She is but also isnt a christian
She gave her life to the Lord but she doesnt believe anymore or know where she stands.
I doubt she would want to go to a therapist or anything.
But the problem is, she only does it cause I want it whenever it does happens which makes it dumb and awkward for me.
and if she has an [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] first,she isnt in the mood to please me because she has already been off.
I just feel like were friends and it sucks. its awkward.
I want her to be fully on board and wanting to do it and be sexy and take control sometimes and its something that like never happens and i feel like it should.
What im saying is I want her to really want it and her take control of me and really enjoy it.Trust me when I tell you.. you don’t want a woman that likes sexual control...
You “think” you do... but I swear on my first failed marriage that that is a bad thing...
If she’s wired passive... then it’s on you to explore slowly and discover what makes it cook.
Her lack of concern for your release is a bad thing.
Your pain is justified.
What im saying is I want her to really want it and her take control of me and really enjoy it.
Not me taking control all the time.
I think you MAY have read that wrong
Thanks so much for your input by the way
What im saying is I want her to really want it and her take control of me and really enjoy it.
Not me taking control all the time.
I think you MAY have read that wrong
Thanks so much for your input by the way
thank you so much for your help and adviceHonestly... real life happens and Christ wants nothing but your joy in marriage...
My heart goes out to you and I can’t emphasize enough... this IS a serious matter and God bless you for seeking encouragement here!!!!
Again, not looking down on you. We all enter this arena not knowing anything about it. Even if you were like me who had sex hundreds of times before I got married and did not have the faintest notion of how to give a woman an [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] . I am trying to emphasize to you how ignorant WE really are on the matter. To prove my point: There is no such thing as a woman getting off already and now she is not in the mood. Woman are almost the opposite of men in this area. Once they have an [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] that is when they are most in the mood for penetration because their [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] will either continue or it will be far easier to have a vaginal one with you doing your thing. Young woman can easily have multiple [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]. Honestly, it sounds like your having this horrible time because you don't know what you are doing and she is not willing to work through that with you. She may not even know what is supposed to happen to her with sex and all she is getting is a little pain and messy. You really need to get yourself a book.and if she has an [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] first,she isnt in the mood to please me because she has already been off.
I did not read that on here. I thought I would have noticed it. If I missed that then my advice is worthless to a degree.I don’t think that’s the issue at all. I could be wrong... but he explained that there is medical stuff going on that complicates matters...
I did not read that on here. I thought I would have noticed it. If I missed that then my advice is worthless to a degree.
I did not read that on here. I thought I would have noticed it. If I missed that then my advice is worthless to a degree.
1 Corinthians 7:2-5
2 But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband.
3 The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband.
4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
5 Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
In the KJV, verse 5 uses the word "defraud" instead of "depriving." I think "defraud" communicates better what a husband or wife does when they withhold sexual relations entirely from their spouse. What does the word "defraud" mean? Well, synonyms of the word quickly render its meaning obvious: swindle, cheat, rob. A spouse is cheating or robbing their marriage partner when they agree to marry him/her and then deny them sexual relations. Sex is an integral part of marriage and anyone who agrees to be married agrees to a relationship that is sexual.
It doesn't sound like you and your wife are disciples of Christ. That's a big problem. God intends that He should be the Anchor or Foundation of your marriage. Without Him, your marriage is seriously crippled and wide open to destructive influences.
I'm assuming that prior to being married you had regular sexual relations? Or did you live together for nine years without having sex? If so, if you had no relations prior to marriage, why would you agree to being married? Anyone who does not want sex should not marry. If you did have sex, why has this stopped? Will your wife tell you? Have you asked her why she's suddenly off sex with you?
Meaning touching etc, no sex. we waited til marriage.we really didnt do anything for the entire 8 years prior to marriage.
first year we had sex a couple times and stopped and the remaining 7 years til marriage we fiddled VERY RARE
Meaning touching etc, no sex. we waited til marriage.
Its still not right for any sexual stuf before marriage I know that, but we did touch each other once ina while, no sex.
Seems you dont like sex much either ... lolWow! ....
Just realize you are not going to get none...then the need will go away.
You married her with this knowledge...
So let her be.
Or seek a psychologist
Theres not a "medical issue"I did not read that on here. I thought I would have noticed it. If I missed that then my advice is worthless to a degree.
I agree there is no worthless information. I genuinely appreciate all of you minus the one lady on here telling me Im never gonna get any and get used to it lolI did not read that on here. I thought I would have noticed it. If I missed that then my advice is worthless to a degree.