- Jun 2, 2017
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Hey guys. So I did something that I wasn't intending on doing again, but my suspicions were heightening and I wanted to know for sure. I read my wife's journal again. Her recent journaling proved what I was suspecting which was that she is completely preoccupied with feelings of "love" for this other man form her job, and hasn't been thinking about us or our marriage. I didn't mention anything and am remaining quiet. I would speak up about certain things before, but it would always end with me looking pathetic, neurotic, and anxious. I'm not those things; not anymore. I'm a man who was blinded by theology and mistreated his wife because of our differences through verbal arguments. After realizing what I did to her, I've been fighting to save our marriage ever since. However, she's been looking outside our marriage and has stapled me as who I was instead of who I've become.
As a result, I'm intent on making myself appear independent and as a man who isn't revolving around his wife. I intend to go to the gym after work as usual, but after I get home, I'm going to shower, get dressed up, and go to a local/classy lounge that we've gone to in our past. I'm going to just be alone and rest my mind. If she asks where I'm going I'm only going to say, "I'm going out." If she asks with you, I'm only going to say, "Just me." Your spouse needs to see reasons to find you attractive again, especially in circumstances like this. I know I'm a good looking man, I know I've wronged my wife, have taken responsibility for my wrongs, and that my heart is fully invested in repairing our marriage, but I also know my worth, and am not going to live as a pathetic doormat. I intend to do more things like this, and hopefully it will bring her to look my way again, because right now, she's too comfortable knowing that she can explore her feelings while I stand by loyally. I'm still going to stand by as a loyal and faithful husband, but I am also going to stand as an independent, confident man. Please pray that God would open her eyes and heart to me again. Thanks guys.
As a result, I'm intent on making myself appear independent and as a man who isn't revolving around his wife. I intend to go to the gym after work as usual, but after I get home, I'm going to shower, get dressed up, and go to a local/classy lounge that we've gone to in our past. I'm going to just be alone and rest my mind. If she asks where I'm going I'm only going to say, "I'm going out." If she asks with you, I'm only going to say, "Just me." Your spouse needs to see reasons to find you attractive again, especially in circumstances like this. I know I'm a good looking man, I know I've wronged my wife, have taken responsibility for my wrongs, and that my heart is fully invested in repairing our marriage, but I also know my worth, and am not going to live as a pathetic doormat. I intend to do more things like this, and hopefully it will bring her to look my way again, because right now, she's too comfortable knowing that she can explore her feelings while I stand by loyally. I'm still going to stand by as a loyal and faithful husband, but I am also going to stand as an independent, confident man. Please pray that God would open her eyes and heart to me again. Thanks guys.