Men attend less singles events than women

[ThisIsMe123]

If she's not attracted to the attendees and that's her reason for going and she isn't willing to compromise why bother? She's going to say no. Do you think she's alone in that? People do it all the time.

If she stuck around long enough, then someone she's attracted to would show up in the future, until then, she can just enjoy the activity.

 

[Lost4words]

I never go to single dating events anymore.

What put me off is I was always ridiculed because of my short legs and the fact that my belly touches the floor!

 

[bèlla]

If she stuck around long enough, then someone she's attracted to would show up in the future, until then, she can just enjoy the activity.

If the goal is connection why would she hangout with men she's not attracted to and keep coming in the hope he appears? It doesn't make sense.

~bella

 

[Sketcher]

I had heard quite a few women in the group mention that they aren't this particular group to date, just to "make friends", but are exclusive to doing online dating. And I'm like "Really? You're compartmentalizing dating?"

I've only heard that a few thousand times at coed Christian events. Honestly, why would I want to do that again? None of the women being interested in most of the guys (again). The difference is this time, they're older. Woohoo.

One of the men threw up a link to a rather mysogonistic YouTubers stated that men stopped going to these events because they get rejected by most of the women there, and go for the small percentage of Henry Cavill look-a-likes.

Putting it as gracefully as possible, I can see this as a concern. Who would be there - women who I have already asked out and rejected me? Exes or friends of exes? Women who are still using dating apps but won't date the guys who gave up on the dating apps?

 

[ThisIsMe123]

I've only heard that a few thousand times at coed Christian events. Honestly, why would I want to do that again? None of the women being interested in most of the guys (again). The difference is this time, they're older. Woohoo.


Putting it as gracefully as possible, I can see this as a concern. Who would be there - women who I have already asked out and rejected me? Exes or friends of exes? Women who are still using dating apps but won't date the guys who gave up on the dating apps?

I could only imagine the single gents in church, doing dagger eyes at the woman of their dreams bringing their "date" to church for the first time, wondering what rock did she dig him up from under?

 

[Sketcher]

I could only imagine the single gents in church, doing dagger eyes at the woman of their dreams bringing their "date" to church for the first time, wondering what rock did she dig him up from under?

If she's still the woman of his dreams after she rejected him, he hasn't let her go yet and it doesn't really matter where the other guy is from.

 

[exitstageright]

I obviously can't speak for other men, but I don't do speed dating because having to speak to a new person every few minutes just doesn't work for me. It takes me time to warm up and be comfortable with someone, by which time you have to move onto the next person.

If events were structured with fewer people and the opportunities for longer conversations then I might consider it, and my introversion would definitely handle that better than short conversations with lots of people. But the typical speed dating set up isn't for me.

I understand that some folks are uncomfortable talking to strangers. But remember,every friend that you now have,was a one time........a stranger.

 

[Citanul]

I understand that some folks are uncomfortable talking to strangers. But remember,every friend that you now have,was a one time........a stranger.

True, but they didn't come out of a speed dating type scenario. Every friendship I've had was the result of prolonged contact with the person, not talking to them only for a few minutes and then moving onto a conversation with someone else.

 

[exitstageright]

True, but they didn't come out of a speed dating type scenario. Every friendship I've had was the result of prolonged contact with the person, not talking to them only for a few minutes and then moving onto a conversation with someone else.

Well,.....what I really meant to say is, if one is friendly in meetings, for example smiling, one would be attractive. Just like the lyrics say in the Eagles song,"Lyinin' Eyes" Those lyrics are, "City girls just seem to find out early, how to open doors with just a smile. "I guess that is the problem I have with women. Most people are afraid of public speaking. But I can quote Shakespeare in front of 500 or 1,000 people in a theater and not be afraid. But,I am not comfortable asking ONE WOMAN out to dinner or lunch. Because I might say the wrong thing to her. Or ,I do not know what to say to her in order for her to get interested in me. I am not one of those "pretty boys". Therefore,I have to find other ways to get a woman interested in me.
Women complain to me many times, saying their man is either a jailbird, alcoholic, drug abuser and /or very irresponsible. I have never drank,smoked,took illeagal drugs,been arrested,or spent time in jail. But all of my attributes are not good enough.

 

[bèlla]

But,I am not comfortable asking ONE WOMAN out to dinner or lunch. Because I might say the wrong thing to her. Or ,I do not know what to say to her in order for her to get interested in me. I am not one of those "pretty boys". Therefore,I have to find other ways to get a woman interested in me.

That sounds like more of an issue of confidence than the other. Your experiences have made you hesitant and you aren’t putting your best foot forward. An image consultant might help. They assist with your appearance, presentation, body language and confidence.

~bella

 

[exitstageright]

That sounds like more of an issue of confidence than the other. Your experiences have made you hesitant and you aren’t putting your best foot forward. An image consultant might help. They assist with your appearance, presentation, body language and confidence.

~bella

Well ,all far as appearances are concerned, that is why I love Formal Nights on cruises. Those Formal Nights are the only time that women pay attention to me. When I wear my black tux pants and white Dinner Jacket, some women ask ME to dance. I very rarely get turned down for a dance on Formal Nights. But, I cannot wear my white Dinner Jacket when I go grocery shopping.

 

[bèlla]

Well ,all far as appearances are concerned, that is why I love Formal Nights on cruises. Those Formal Nights are the only time that women pay attention to me. When I wear my black tux pants and white Dinner Jacket, some women ask ME to dance. I very rarely get turned down for a dance on Formal Nights. But, I cannot wear my white Dinner Jacket when I go grocery shopping.

That’s why I suggested her. She’ll help you be equally attractive in less formal attire. You’ll learn your best colors, silhouettes and get a seasonal guide for your wardrobe.

~bella

 

[exitstageright]

That’s why I suggested her. She’ll help you equally attractive in less formal attire. You’ll learn your best colors, silhouettes and get a seasonal guide for your wardrobe.

~bella

Thanks for your encouragement.

 

[d taylor]

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If they are talking about men in their 20's, 30's and even 40"s they are probably too busy playing computer games to get off of their computer, to socialize.