I was told by a non believer that I should not be "so meek"

[Larniavc]

she should have seen I am far capable of standing up for myself,

‘Should’ is a really tricky word. It’s possible to so fixated on the way things ‘should’ be that we become unable to deal with the way things ‘are’.

 

[Larniavc]

Never think of myself first it has always been that way.

Maybe that is part of the problem? For psychology health we need to devote as much time and effort for ourselves as we do for others.

 

[trophy33]

Maybe that is part of the problem? For psychology health we need to devote as much time and effort for ourselves as we do for others.

"Love your neighbor as yourself".

But it would still technically mean we should not think about us "first". Only "equally".

 

[Larniavc]

"Love your neighbor as yourself".

But it would still technically mean we should not think about us "first". Only "equally".

Not a small number of my patients doing therapy have an unhealthy fixation on putting other people first.

 

[Godcrazy]

Maybe that is part of the problem? For psychology health we need to devote as much time and effort for ourselves as we do for others.

That was not what I meant. It did not meant I do not take care of myself. Many people have that prejudice generally speaking(not specificially refering to you) but that is not what it means. But, it becomes just another example how easy we judge each other without knowing not asking

 

[Godcrazy]

"Love your neighbor as yourself".

But it would still technically mean we should not think about us "first". Only "equally".

I meant it with that I have a big heart

 

[Godcrazy]

‘Should’ is a really tricky word. It’s possible to so fixated on the way things ‘should’ be that we become unable to deal with the way things ‘are’.

well that is clear as she obviously tried to push it. Did obviously think I would resist. I am not the follow type

 

[Godcrazy]

well that is clear as she obviously tried to push it. Did obviously think I would resist. I am not the follow type

Unless it is God of course

 

[Godcrazy]

Unless it is God of course

I mean I don`t just bend over just because she tried to push, it the last I would do. Neither do I stay silent about it without being assertive, and I am not a type that is dependent as a personality style. I am nice and all that and treat everyone with respect and in for human rights. Everything that God says goes. But all that no. I had a deeper think about the issue, she was in the new age, I was not. We connected over shared past. However much different in how we healed as described earlier. She tuned it more and more into "trying to awaken me to new age". I know, because I have been in it. However it was not the way it started and the purpose at all. It was general healing and support. I`m an introspective person that always look to grow. So that`s why. But it end up being all about you tube videos trying to "awaken me". Well those videos were all about it, and everything she suggested, and I did not look at it. My whole spirit just refused. Not even an attraction. But I had not asked for it either! She pushed and pushed with it demand I did it. I can`t tell you how much push it was. A rush too. I was hoping we could have taken an amiccable route where we were talking about other things but it ended up she went way over my boundaries that I set early on directly. I am very straight forward scandi`s are like that. But in a healthy way. A nice way. So I just said hey... but oh no. So when she pushed it despite me saying no, nothing you can do. Especially when hard boundaries. And nothing to do with God, at all.
I always try to love people even if they don`t think or believe like me. But.. unfortunately.

 

[Godcrazy]

SO the whole meek thing she really did say totally independent of anything else and randomly which I found so strange.

 

[com7fy8]

really used force despite me had asked her never to push me

Jesus does not force us. He wants cheerful obedience. And so . . . to follow His example . . . I am to never try to force anyone to do what I say or want.

"nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock." (1 Peter 5:3)

I know someone who is a legally certified healer. She can act so loving with ones who come for treatment. And she can be a vodka bottle, and very dictatorial about how she is the one to help people and not be told what to do.

There are ones, I am told, who can claim they have problems but they are so high above others that they can help people but they are beyond others being able to help them. However, we in Jesus can help anyone, no matter what they claim. Because by means of God we are able, and God is able to help any person out of any problem.

"The things which are impossible with men are possible with God." (in Luke 18:27)

 

[Godcrazy]

Jesus does not force us. He wants cheerful obedience. And so . . . to follow His example . . . I am to never try to force anyone to do what I say or want.

"nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock." (1 Peter 5:3)

I know someone who is a legally certified healer. She can act so loving with ones who come for treatment. And she can be a vodka bottle, and very dictatorial about how she is the one to help people and not be told what to do.

There are ones, I am told, who can claim they have problems but they are so high above others that they can help people but they are beyond others being able to help them. However, we in Jesus can help anyone, no matter what they claim. Because by means of God we are able, and God is able to help any person out of any problem.

"The things which are impossible with men are possible with God." (in Luke 18:27)

Obvlously the line goes where they try to push you or directly force you to go against God as in doing new age. And she did

 

[Godcrazy]

As well, being non christian having other beliefs moral guidelines etc when they cross what God wants you to do the line clearly is there.
But also that plus trying to push and force what is not from God, that is obvious..
If things are a matter of doing what God wants it is one thing, but this was not. It was in direct opposition.
I am not a do as I say person follow anyone person, give me Gods laws no problem outside of that forget it

 

[Earthbear]

I was told by a non believer that I should not be "so meek".
Someone I was talking to like a friend, that we shared issues with, trying to assist another.
End up as someone trying to control and I stood up setting boundaries to which they did NOT like.
Ended there. But she said early on " I shouldn`t be so meek" not explaining, but I am in the understanding how Jesus wants us to be, as one that does not flare up but patience in God and a gentle soul.
It just shocked me that she said that I was like what how can you speak against the Lord how He wants me to be

The meek are blessed for they will inherit the earth. The non believer does not want you to inherit the earth so they are trying to control and alter your behavior to have you conform to a way that is less advantageous to yourself.

One of your posts also mentions attachment styles. In these worldly teachings people are victim to circumstances of how they were raised to either be securely attached or anxious/avoidant who are victims of abuse or neglect.

If you want to heal from trauma to have the secure attachment you would have to essentially be born again, you would have to start life over to have a good life and the secure upbringing. I believe this is why God has believers become born again or at least partly why. I believe that God will never abandon people and this is how I have a secure attachment (Deuteronomy 31:8)

I was abandoned as a child and often left to fend for myself there was a lot of cruelty, I also had seen others who had been adandoned even being left in a dumpster as a newborn child. Before knowing God I would always be so angry at being abandoned but God never abandons.

If God is your primary source of care then it would mean that you will have a secure attachment because you have 0% chance of ever being abandoned, God will never abandon us, only we abandon God.

 

[FireDragon76]

As others have said, don't take it too seriously. Meekness is simply basic sanity in this world. This isn't about self-abasement, it's about staying out of the way of pettiness and foolish pretensions.