Would you marry a woman who was a former stripper or X-rated star if she turned into a Christian ?

[timothyu]

I think, well an assumption, if one thinks of sex as a sacred act involving commitment they will always have trouble, no matter how forgiving, trying to understand how anyone could think otherwise. Would not plugging into this hub connect you with all who went before and all their connections? Friendship though is an entirely different matter.

 

[2PhiloVoid]

If an attractive women that was a former sex-worker becomes a Christian woman would you date her and consider marriage with her ?

My question is: How often do we men actually come across this sort of situational "turn" in our current, modern society?

Personally, I think these sorts of positive changes in life direction among women who are "in the industry" to be somewhat rare or scarce.

But hey! Y'know, if she's attractive.............................and she's become a bona-fide Christian.................................then the sky's the limit! And in the Sky where Jesus reigns, there is no limit to the Love, Grace and Mercy anyone can receive who turns to Him. So, there probably shouldn't be a limit, then, to the possibility of Christian marriage for any or all of the Mary Magdalene women out there who have had that "type" of past.

So? If you're a Christian man and you find yourself with a potential fiance who has a former background from "the industry," and you feel you can give her the love and grace that Christ would give her, and despite the psychological issues I'm sure she'll have and need to work through, she can do the same for you in return, then by all means, marry her!!!

 

[lanceleo]

It's not just about being forgiven, it's about the fact that in Jesus, we are born again. I respect your opinion, but I feel like you're just talking about yourself, what you seek in a partner without taking into consideration the woman's perspective? We all have a past, it can be sexual or not. Have you ever lied about something before? I'm sure you have. What if, one day, with your new spouse, you walk into a room and encounter an old friend from high school who swears you lied to him about something you can't remember? Would it bother you that your spouse no longer wants you because of that? I understand your thought process, my friend, as I am too saving myself for marriage, and I know you are probably not seeking advice, but I am telling you this with love: If Jesus is able to not only forgive your mistakes, but welcome you into his ministry to serve him despite your mistakes, then you should try to do the same to others. After all, we are called to follow Jesus and be like him. I am telling you this from the perspective of a woman who thinks sexual shame is heavily placed upon us as a gender, and it shouldn't be. Being a stripper isn't any worse than being a liar, a thief, a smoker or a selfish person

It's about personal preferences. Would you allow a repented pedophile to babysit your kids?

 

[2PhiloVoid]

It's about personal preferences. Would you allow a repented pedophile to babysit your kids?

I wouldn't conflate the psychology of "former" pedophiles with that of women formerly in "the industry." No, there's something a bit different going on in the brains of individuals in both cases. Let's not smear one with broad strokes which apply more aptly and specifically to the other. We Christians can make better discernments than that. Or, at least we should be able to.

So often we don't.

 

[camipls]

It's about personal preferences. Would you allow a repented pedophile to babysit your kids?

Jesus's teachings are not about personal preferences. A former thief born in Christ is no longer a thief. A former stripper is no longer a stripper if she gave her life to Jesus. I'd like to believe the same situation applies to a former pedophile. You and I, and everyone else, are "former somethings" before we met Jesus. Paul was a murderer, persecuted and killed christians until Jesus called him and gave him a new life, and many people still continued to judge him. Have we not learned anything from this?

 

[lanceleo]

Jesus's teachings are not about personal preferences. A former thief born in Christ is no longer a thief. A former stripper is no longer a stripper if she gave her life to Jesus. I'd like to believe the same situation applies to a former pedophile. You and I, and everyone else, are "former somethings" before we met Jesus. Paul was a murderer, persecuted and killed christians until Jesus called him and gave him a new life, and many people still continued to judge him. Have we not learned anything from this?

Judging from your response I guess you would have no problem or should not be rejecting a former pedophile for his service for the love of God. While forgiveness and acceptance is noble, wisdom is needed.

 

[trophy33]

If an attractive women that was a former sex-worker becomes a Christian woman would you date her and consider marriage with her ?

I think people with similar history and in similar condition should get together, as a general rule. Or else the relationship/marriage will not be too balanced or fair.

 

[camipls]

Judging from your response I guess you would have no problem or should not be rejecting a former pedophile for his service for the love of God. While forgiveness and acceptance is noble, wisdom is needed.

Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. 11 The Pharisee stood by himself and prayed: ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other people—robbers, evildoers, adulterers—or even like this tax collector. 12 I fast twice a week and give a tenth of all I get.’ But the tax collector stood at a distance. He would not even look up to heaven, but beat his breast and said, ‘God, have mercy on me, a sinner.’
“I tell you that this man, rather than the other, went home justified before God. For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.”
Luke 18.

We are no better than any other sinner. Jesus died for everyone, even the pedophile. I am no one to reject others based on their sin, when I am a sinner also. How can I expect Jesus to welcome me into his arms, his temple, his family — if I am not doing the same to others?

"Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners”—and I'm the biggest sinner of all (1 Timothy 1:15)

 

[Danny&Annie&theChristmas]

Generally speaking people who are in this trade have been sexually abused as children and since that trauma is very significant I would advise any young man to steer clear of that powder keg.
Childhood sexual assault greatly impacts the behavior of those who were subjected to it. This most often leads to significant internal upheavals psychologically and spiritually.

 

[QuestionQuest74]

It's about personal preferences. Would you allow a repented pedophile to babysit your kids?

Good comparison. Some people can be hypocritical on judging past sin. This is the almost the same thing. The only difference the one your putting in danger for potential mistreatment is your kid and not yourself.

 

[honey badger]

the prophet Hosea ( Hosea meaning salvation) married a harlot ...

 

[trophy33]

the prophet Hosea ( Hosea meaning salvation) married a harlot ...

...as a metaphor related to his prophecy.

 

[honey badger]

...as a metaphor related to his prophecy.

Israel/Ephriam being a cake not turned as in a son not accepted ...

 

[Hazelelponi]

She’s beautiful and have great traits you would want in a Godly women

Firstly, you have to take her looks completely out of any consideration for marriage. Even as beautiful as she is today, looks are fleeting, someday you'll be with her and she'll have none of those looks to her name. Marriage is for life, looks aren't.

It's good that you know some positive traits about her, but what are some of the negative?

Are you absolutely positive you can handle walking into a room and coming face to face with other men who have seen your wife with no clothes on? Are you certain you can deal with the potentially lewd things they might say about her? It WILL make you angry...

what if that occurred at a work-related event such as a company Christmas party?

Are you sure you can handle what might potentially happen with her in your life... ? Potentially getting passed over for promotion, people having zero respect for your wife and kids...

There's further negatives that have already been pointed out, but you also have to ask yourself several questions that will speak to her future.

how long has she been saved?

The thing about becoming Christian is a lot of people "try it", try turning their life around, start attending church etc. and they can keep it up too for a little while, but then they revert back to the sinner they used to be because they weren't really saved even though they thought they were.

So has she been saved and in regular church attendance for a couple years?

Is she well regarded in her congregation?

What kind of friends does she have? Are they connected to her past, showing that she is not living in true repentance?

for some man she will be the right woman, you just have to make sure that man is you ..

PS I'm a woman...

 

[timothyu]

I think people with similar history and in similar condition should get together, as a general rule. Or else the relationship/marriage will not be too balanced or fair.

Meaning both would be able to keep each other on track, knowing the pitfalls and being well aware of who each other are, learning as they grow?

 

[FreeinChrist]

ADVISOR HAT

This thread was moved from Requests for Christian Advice to Christian Philosopjy & Ethics as it is more of a ethics question and not a request for personal advice. ​

 

[Divide]

She’s beautiful and have great traits you would want in a Godly women

But a woman who was a sex worker seems to have traits which are not Godly also so I could love her or help her or pray for her but I think I would pass on the marriage or even dating things. Life is too short to waste time with women who were not raised right.

No offense to anyone but that is my prefrence. I was married for 26 yearsI was married for 26 years. Can anyone here top that? I bet there will be a few lol. But still, not too bad in todays world.

What's the record for sex-worker turned Christian and gets married and never defiles her marriage bed? I bet their lucky to reach 6 or 8 years.

 

[Divide]

I think people with similar history and in similar condition should get together, as a general rule. Or else the relationship/marriage will not be too balanced or fair.

I think they call it being unequally yoked.

 

[Divide]

Meaning both would be able to keep each other on track, knowing the pitfalls and being well aware of who each other are, learning as they grow?

That's pretty optimistic. How old are you anyway?

Life is too short to take chances like that.

 

[2PhiloVoid]

But a woman who was a sex worker seems to have traits which are not Godly also so I could love her or help her or pray for her but I think I would pass on the marriage or even dating things. Life is too short to waste time with women who were not raised right.

No offense to anyone but that is my prefrence. I was married for 26 yearsI was married for 26 years. Can anyone here top that? I bet there will be a few lol. But still, not too bad in todays world.

What's the record for sex-worker turned Christian and gets married and never defiles her marriage bed? I bet their lucky to reach 6 or 8 years.

I've been married for 29 1/2 years ...