You are free to attempt that.
Ok so there are a number of arguements and reasons given for why using Gender preferred pronouns is not necessarily the best idea. They include breaching the Rights to free speech, belief and acting in accordance with ones conscience.
Being psychologically harmful to children by undermining their intuitive sense of their bodily reality, that you can't magically change sex. THis creates a disconnection in their psyche and can lead to further disassociation and psychological harm. This can also be the case for older people especially females but kids are esspecially volnurable.
Using pronouns is part of socially transitioning which has now been deemed harmful for similar reasons above especially as up to 90% of kids grow out of gender dysphoria. It just confuses them and makes it hard for them to realign with their bodily reality, their sex and gender are aligned..
Pronouns is also said to be a gateway drug to pushing Trans ideology. By making people conform to pronouns is the first step and part of indoctrinating people into the ideology. Its underhanded and harmful as it puts people in a situation where they feel guilty and fearful of speaking their mind. This is especially the case with children who have not got the understanding and are easily influenced.
When people harrass others for not using pronouns about not being courteous or claiming that by not affirming Trans people such as not using pronouns causes Trans people harm such as mental health or even suicide they are actually using emotional blackmail to force people to conform. Rather than allowing them to speak their mind and have a reasonable debate over the issue, allowing both sides to have their say.
Then there is also the harm that forced pronuns can have on gender non conforming people themselves. By insisting we all use pronouns such as within organisations, declaring pronouns at work, on sign offs, with name tages ect its forces GNC people into a situation where they have to declare themselves when they may not be sure. This causes further dysphoria and disatress.
It also affects people without Gender issues in that some people feel uncomfortable about declaring their gender when they don't even think this way. They naturally align their gender with their sex so its not an issue. In fact by hyper emphasizing gender and sex it actually makes it a problem. Makes it an issue to contend with, creates divisions based on gender and sex. Everyones worried about gender and pronouns. This seems unfair considering GNC is a very small % which is destablishing the majority.
Anyway thats a few as theres more but I will leave that up to the following links. I know there are many links but this seems necessarily to hit home the reality of what using pronouns really represents. Its much more than a case of being polite and caring. Its about understanding what is actually going on with the ideology. Pronouns is but a tiny representation and one way of pushing the ideological thinking onto society. Each of these links relates to a different arguement.
Doctors will no longer encourage gender-curious children to use preferred pronouns or dress as opposite sex under NHS guidelines
New guidelines say it can have significant effects on a child's psychology. We don't think changing pronouns helps anyone- it creates more problems than it resolves. Health chiefs say 'social transitioning' should be no longer be viewed as a 'neutral act' due to the significant effects it may have on a child's psychology.
NHS to discourage social transitioning of gender questioning children
The Case Against Mandatory Preferred Gender Pronouns
With regard to pronouns, however, insisting that people introduce themselves with their pronouns, fill out forms with them, or append them to their Zoom names can actually harm the community it intends to support. For those who are closeted with respect to gender identity, mandatory PGPs can force people into an uncomfortable lose-lose of either outing themselves before they’re ready or lying and feeling incredibly dysphoric.
The Case Against Mandatory Preferred Gender Pronouns | Opinion | The Harvard Crimson
Gender Affirmation and the Nocebo Effect
Gender-affirmative care reduces young people’s resilience in dealing with those who don’t see them as they would like to be seen. They may then hide from the world, fearing that someone might not affirm them. This causes their loci of control (i.e., the location of ability to make change) to shift from inside them to factors external to them. One study found that an external locus of control was associated with higher levels of depression and anxiety. When someone believes they are at the mercy of outside events and don’t have the ability to make meaningful change in their lives, it leaves them feeling paralyzed.
Gender Affirmation and the Nocebo Effect — Genspect
How Preferred Pronouns Threaten Free Speech
Conceiving of pronouns as something to be specified by the individual (with a potentially infinite array of choices), rather than as words that are proper or improper to use depending on who or what is being referenced, is the first step in the activists’ attempt to redefine the relationship between sex and human identity. Words—including pronouns—have meaning. They carry a message with them. And this isn’t just the opinion of those who insist that pronouns reflect biological reality:
How Preferred Pronouns Threaten Free Speech
The problem with ‘preferred pronouns’
Criticizing trans politics and discussing the incredibly harmful impacts of trans ideology, while also going along with “preferred” pronouns, obscures the message and makes the messenger appear to either be a hypocrite or that they really do not fully understanding the implications of this big lie. It also reinforces the notion that it is controversial or offensive to use correct pronouns, which it is not. It is not a matter of politeness, it is a matter of grooming people to accept totalitarianism and abuse. The problem with 'preferred pronouns'
The liberal case against pronouns
It creates a false impression that gender identity ideology is the norm even though it is a belief system shared by relatively few. Most importantly, compelled speech is a fundamentally illiberal prospect, one that should always be resisted by all.
The liberal case against pronouns
Gender Pronouns – Understanding Their Many Hidden Problems (And how this program’s downsides may outweigh its benefits)
It creates a great deal of disruption while you are only helping a small percentage of your employees.
Gender-revealing efforts run counter to our many years of minimizing any focus on gender.
Invasion of employee privacy by collecting and revealing gender information.
You are essentially forcing “the outing” of some employees.
PGP usage will force some employees to lie – not every employee will feel comfortable revealing and distributing their actual gender status to others.
The extreme focus on gender differences may reduce support and the funding for the more traditional diversity programs that have previously focused on women, minorities, and the neurodiverse.
Gender Pronouns – Understanding Their Many Hidden Problems (And how this program’s downsides may outweigh its benefits) - Dr John Sullivan
Problems with Preferred Pronouns
Second Age is also a biological reality and not chosen. Using a pronoun that refers to a person’s chosen sexual identity is like using a number to refer to person’s chosen age. Both are illegitimate because neither age nor sex is a matter determined by choice.
Third, preferred pronouns entail compelled speech. You’re expected to use an approved set of words when speaking about a person, even when you’re not around them. This is odd. If I’m in a different building, do they dictate how I speak? What if I’m in a different city, state, or country? Do they control what I can say? There’s no precedent for such a demand.
Fourth, using preferred pronouns entails adopting a foreign worldview. They’re not merely asking you to speak different words. You’re being asked to abandon your worldview position on this topic and adopt their worldview.
Fifth, using preferred pronouns ignores the principle of reciprocity. “You can believe whatever you want. You can believe you’re a woman when you’re biologically a man. Just don’t expect the rest of us to live according to your beliefs.” That’s fair.
Sixth, using preferred pronouns participates in social transitioning, a first step in a process that can lead to self-harm.
Seventh, practicing “pronoun hospitality” is not hospitable but insincere. If you don’t believe a biological man can be a woman, but you use a female pronoun to refer to him, you’re being disingenuous. You’re saying something with your words (referring to him as a woman) that you don’t believe with your mind. Would a transgender person appreciate your pretending to affirm their chosen identity when you don’t believe it in your heart?
Problems with Preferred Pronouns
Forcing Children to Declare and Use Pronouns Risks Psychological Harm
A “disturbing trend” in schools across the country risks psychological harm to children by forcing them to identify their gender, declare their preferred pronouns, and refer to others with confusing pronouns that don’t seem to agree with reality. Pronoun discussions can usher in a more serious form of confusion, known as delirium.
It’s the practice of asking children to refer to a male as “she,” a female as “he,”or one individual as “they” that damages kids, And forcing children to use pronouns that don’t agree with the gender they observe causes “a risk of psychological harm.”That’s because most children learn early that pronouns are supposed to represent the observed sex of that person
cryptogon.com » Forcing Children to Declare and Use Pronouns Risks Psychological Harm
'This Isn't Just About a Pronoun.' Teachers and Trans Students Are Clashing Over Whose Rights Come First
A top psychotherapist has warned parents they are risking their children's wellbeing by raising them as gender neutral 'theybies'.
Chilling warning to parents raising kids as gender neutral 'theybies'
Why I’m Done with ‘Preferred Pronouns’
Why did I have to deny reality in order to be polite? “They say pronouns are a gateway drug, they open the door to these lies that lead to real harm to real females.” They’re a clever rhetorical trick that forces you to cede the argument about women’s spaces before you’ve even spoken one word of substance.
It is beyond time to stand up to the trans lobby that means to deprive women of their spaces and rights.
www.nationalreview.com
In posting this I still think as I said ealier that I would use pronouns in certain social situations as it is the polite thing to do. BUt I think it depends on the situation like if the topic came up for debate. I think then its unfair to make people deny their own beliefs and views. Also one on one situations especially in therapy its important to build raport.
But I think in the end its better to be able for both the GNC person and everyone else if we can openly discuss things as the fact is this builds resilence. Life is hard and we have to learn to live with the good and the bad. It makes for a happier and more resilent person.
But on a society wide basis, for policy, education, health care, especially for kids I am corned about how pronouns and other tactics are used to push an ideological belief that threatens the long held ideas the West has lived by such as Freedom of speech, religion and conscience. Moreso the harm it can do to children.
research.lifeway.com
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