Why do christian women only want tall guys?

[Citanul]

I agree with you 1,000%!

I agree with both of you.

But only 100% because I'm too pedantic and mathematically you can't go above 100%.

 

[DragonFox91]

@TheLastGeek
I actually have a comment from a man’s perspective on one of those things you experienced on a bad date you shared. I definitely understand where you’re coming from, so therefore don’t want to upset you, but I think a man’s perspective could be helpful. I will do it in a way I hope you will find tender. But I won’t share without first receiving your permission first.

 

[Divide]

Sorry for your loss.

Problem with young people, is they can be quite "malleable" in character. You still remember don't you? Someone quite young, their heart is not yet set. Society can still change it.

Someone who is 17 may not be the same person in their thirties. Have seen plenty who did and often times, they got worse. They became conceited, materialistic, and adulterous.

With so many getting corrupted by the modern society, perhaps, it's not entirely your fault. We simply live in an evil world.

Well I had to stop myself from going insane when she left. The best I could come up with was to make it a learning experience. I couldn't have been that bad because she stayed for close to 25 years...But! I couldn't really be that good or she would have stayed, right? So I had made mistakes. Things that I thought were good but turned out bad for me in the long run.

I gave her too many words of affirmation to lift her in spirit, but she became conceited over time and believed everything. I gave her too much money. I paid all the bills and told her that if she ever chose to work outside the home that she could keep all her money because her working doesn't effect my responsibilities. I stuck to it too. It spoiled her rotten. Sounded like a good idea at the time, lol!

 

[TheLastGeek]

My dad used to be a video/photographer and I sometimes assisted for him.

He had rich clients and often saw politicians and celebrities in concerts and parties. I noticed a curious habit of rich men. They love to fart loudly in front of the production and catering crew. People who are probably paid minimum wage.

The rich men just love to be rude in front of the min wage workers. The richer they came, the worse it got. The politicians are the worst at it.

Unfortunately, I acquired the rich men's habit of farting loudly in public. Ironically, I do it in "reverse" that is I fart loudly in front of people who seem rich or well-to-do.

I never did it on dates though, not even by accident. I always go into "stealth" farting mode when on dates. In our small apartment, I always get out of the room to fart.

In the church, we have plenty of rude men. Even many wives who complain of infidelity and their husbands just being evil, even though the whole family attends church!

It's a fact. People are getting colder and more evil these days perhaps from increased material prosperity, especially in countries with high income gaps where the rich are favored and getting tax breaks, etc like in USA.

Okay, I have to laugh a bit, as most of this post is about farts I honestly wouldn't freak out if a guy had to fart on a date - sometimes you just have to! But it'd be nice if he'd step away first, or at least gently warn me lol.

 

[TheLastGeek]

@TheLastGeek
I actually have a comment from a man’s perspective on one of those things you experienced on a bad date you shared. I definitely understand where you’re coming from, so therefore don’t want to upset you, but I think a man’s perspective could be helpful. I will do it in a way I hope you will find tender. But I won’t share without first receiving your permission first.

Could you just send me a private message then?

 

[TheLastGeek]

Now, Geek, so you seem convinced you can just meet someone going about your routine just being friendly like my friend thinks. So: how do you expect to consistently run into someone so you both build the repoirtoir (that's what he calls it, IDK how to spell it) to where you'd be going on a date? Again, like my last post, I don't disagree it can't happen, just seems too unlikely or too many variables involved. Wouldn't it seem creepy or almost stalker-ish?

I guess I do know a couple that met just talking at a pool b/c he learned her routine she would go there & sit. She did think it was creepy & stalker-ish at first......but learned to like him. It was at a pool tho so that changes the game a bit

Sometimes you consistently run into the person just by going about your normal routine (work, church, hanging out with mutual friends, shopping at the same store, visiting the same restaurant).

I don't see anything wrong with making an excuse to visit a place where the person is known to be, as long as you don't stand and leer at them from afar like a creeper. Go up to them and strike up a conversation. It's not creepy and stalkerish unless you're creeping and stalking, AKA watching or following them without actually interacting, or persisting with such behaviors after they've expressed that they aren't interested.

 

[TheLastGeek]

Agreed. There can be a lot of benefits from working from home, and I definitely prefer it, but avoiding being hit on wouldn't to my mind be one of them.

And while I'm not a woman, so have no idea about this, is being hit on at work actually a problem? I though one of the functions of HR was to prevent (or at least minimise) that sort of thing.

I actually hated working from home, which surprised me. I thought I'd enjoy it. But I quickly found that I felt bored, restless, and too isolated from the outside world. I found that I liked having a reason to get up in the morning and shower and dress and leave the house and go somewhere. I missed having an office (I HATED having my workspace in my home, it made my home feel it wasn't MINE anymore). And even though I'm introverted, I missed having other people around to interact with. There was no more looking forward to the end of the work day, looking forward to going home, walking in the door, and relaxing. I was just spending 90% of my life in my bedroom, and I hated it.

I've never had an issue with being hit on at work. Rarely have I ever had someone flirt with me on the job. Maybe it's more of a problem for extremely beautiful women, or those who dress provocatively.

 

[DragonFox91]

Sometimes you consistently run into the person just by going about your normal routine (work, church, hanging out with mutual friends, shopping at the same store, visiting the same restaurant).

I don't see anything wrong with making an excuse to visit a place where the person is known to be, as long as you don't stand and leer at them from afar like a creeper. Go up to them and strike up a conversation. It's not creepy and stalkerish unless you're creeping and stalking, AKA watching or following them without actually interacting, or persisting with such behaviors after they've expressed that they aren't interested.

Totally makes sense. I'm always reminded of the quote from Hitch: 'Basic principle: no woman wakes up thinking "wow, I hope I don't get swept off my feet today."' Yes, definitely, I have spoken with women & heard women say they don't mind stuff like that, they just don't like when it becomes 'no' & he's persistent. Hmm.........

Could you just send me a private message then?

Now I'm having second doubts. Never mind. Maybe later

 

[Citanul]

I actually hated working from home, which surprised me. I thought I'd enjoy it. But I quickly found that I felt bored, restless, and too isolated from the outside world. I found that I liked having a reason to get up in the morning and shower and dress and leave the house and go somewhere. I missed having an office (I HATED having my workspace in my home, it made my home feel it wasn't MINE anymore). And even though I'm introverted, I missed having other people around to interact with. There was no more looking forward to the end of the work day, looking forward to going home, walking in the door, and relaxing. I was just spending 90% of my life in my bedroom, and I hated it.

Not being able to interact in person is the one downside I've found to working from home. We do still communicate a lot amongst each other using email and Teams, but it is less convenient. You also don't get the general chat, although sometimes that can be a distraction, so there is a bit of a trade-off there.

But I do get what you're saying about blurring the lines between home and work. I have a separate room where I work which doesn't get used for much else other than storage, and I do try to keep to office hours (so no logging on to check emails at night for example). So I've managed to keep a distinction, which I think is important.

 

[timewerx]

Well I had to stop myself from going insane when she left. The best I could come up with was to make it a learning experience. I couldn't have been that bad because she stayed for close to 25 years...But! I couldn't really be that good or she would have stayed, right? So I had made mistakes. Things that I thought were good but turned out bad for me in the long run.

I gave her too many words of affirmation to lift her in spirit, but she became conceited over time and believed everything. I gave her too much money. I paid all the bills and told her that if she ever chose to work outside the home that she could keep all her money because her working doesn't effect my responsibilities. I stuck to it too. It spoiled her rotten. Sounded like a good idea at the time, lol!

You can spoil anyone at any age. Although it's going to be harder to spoil older people even if you're trying.

I suppose it's a learning experience if you're going to marry someone young again, careful not to spoil them this time!

 

[timewerx]

Okay, I have to laugh a bit, as most of this post is about farts I honestly wouldn't freak out if a guy had to fart on a date - sometimes you just have to! But it'd be nice if he'd step away first, or at least gently warn me lol.

I can do it quietly. If I have to eat outside, I always do in cheap fast food restaurants. People with less conservative behavior. If your fart was that bad, people will talk and you'll hear them! I've had a few bad ones but not in recent years.

 

[Divide]

You can spoil anyone at any age. Although it's going to be harder to spoil older people even if you're trying.

I suppose it's a learning experience if you're going to marry someone young again, careful not to spoil them this time!

Yeah I better not get maried again.

 

[aNewMan]

I think height only really gained more significance because of the internet and social media presence, so gals want a man to be tall to show him off on Instagram. It’s like that high school mentality of popularity has now blessed us to become a 24/7 365 day a year phenomenon. No wonder people are super depressed these days.

 

[DragonFox91]

It's not about what ‘they’ want. It's about what she needs! (the one God wants you to be with if he does want you to be with one) & it's not worth worrying about b/c God's given you the ability to give her what she needs

 

[aNewMan]

so how are guys that are under 190cm gonna get married?

If this man can do it, any other guys should be fine.

 

[DragonFox91]

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If this man can do it, any other guys should be fine.

See his smile? That's what's attractive. That's what he gives her. Not his height. He was smiling before her. I can tell. He probably had to deal w/ a lot of negativity due to his height. Could've faced work discrimination. Cut from sports. Who knows. His smile is not because of her.

Also: don't confuse smile & positive attitude w/ arrogance!! Be humble!

 

[aNewMan]

It's not about what ‘they’ want. It's about what she needs! (the one God wants you to be with if he does want you to be with one) & it's not worth worrying about b/c God's given you the ability to give her what she needs

Everybody feels the pressure now because of social media. The pressure to measure up in every way with looks, or height and money. It’s so awful because social media really amplifies all the superficial things and the most important things are largely ignored. I’ve been learning how to tune out all the noise lately and quit following that crowd.

 

[DragonFox91]

Everybody feels the pressure now because of social media. The pressure to measure up in every way with looks, or height and money. It’s so awful because social media really amplifies all the superficial things and the most important things are largely ignored. I’ve been learning how to tune out all the noise lately and quit following that crowd.

It's doubting God. It's the clay saying to the potter this is no good. No! The clay is being molded exactly the way it needs to be.

 

[aNewMan]

There’s an overemphasis on height for Men though when it should be on fitness and weight loss. NFL quarterback Baker Mayfield is 6 foot 1 but I remember a few years ago they had pictures of him looking fat and overweight and I thought he was a lot shorter than he actually was. Guys should strive to get as lean as possible.

 

[DragonFox91]

There’s an overemphasis on height for Men though when it should be on fitness and weight loss. NFL quarterback Baker Mayfield is 6 foot 1 but I remember a few years ago they had pictures of him looking fat and overweight and I thought he was a lot shorter than he actually was. Guys should strive to get as lean as possible.

Yes b/c:
1 . God gives people healthy bodies & so using them properly is a way to glorify him
2. It’s healthy for your spirit
3. It’s healthy for your body (bones, muscles, organs)
4. A lot of exercise can be done outside so it’s enjoying the creation

Being naturally on the thinner side, I used to think weight was purely genetic. I don’t think that anymore. Overweight wasn’t a problem until very recently. Look at pictures from even 30-40 years ago, everyone’s pretty thin. Graphs prove this. Something changed. Diets got unhealthier. They changed how they make food. Eating for comfort increased. Lack of exercise. It’s part of the Curse. Or a curse. It’s God telling people they need to change their habits.

But why was someone like me able to eat so much & not gain weight? I have my theories. One theory is: In a world where overweight is the norm, it’s hard being thin. ‘you don’t eat.’ ‘you’re a skeleton.’ Teaches you to trust God. As I've trusted him more, I've gained weight. I've also always exercised & ate right.