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Why do christian women only want tall guys?

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It took some searching, but I managed to find one as an example of the sort of thing we used to do.

The YOU Thread #101
That’s exactly what I was thinking when she said that. I remember that thread (I did post in it!). That was fun answering those! Thanks for digging that up. Maybe I can find a new list of random fun questions?? (I'm not good at thinking them off the top of my head unfortunately :( )

BTW, it may just be people’s perception it’s negative here. I looked on the thread list, I believe there were only 1 or 2 threads designed for negativity, so like 1 or 2 out of 20? But when I clicked page 2 of the threads, there were a lot more, so maybe it’s not perception but a sad reality. LOL I'm being too analytical, sorry. :/
 
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That’s exactly what I was thinking when she said that. I remember that thread (I did post in it!). That was fun answering those! Thanks for digging that up. Maybe I can find a new list of random fun questions?? (I'm not good at thinking them off the top of my head unfortunately :( )

BTW, it may just be people’s perception it’s negative here. I looked on the thread list, I believe there were only 1 or 2 threads designed for negativity, so like 1 or 2 out of 20? But when I clicked page 2 of the threads, there were a lot more, so maybe it’s not perception but a sad reality. LOL I'm being too analytical, sorry. :/
It's definitely negative lol.
 
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I'm onboard with fun threads as long as they don't culminate in a "CF Awards" thread. From what I've seen over the years, those end in awkwardness with regulars leaving shortly after. This is a public forum, after all, and ideally it should be a welcoming place.
 
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This thread has gotten completely and utterly off topic, lol.
We can get back on track if you prefer.

:p


Personally, I welcome tangents on threads like this!
 
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This thread has gotten completely and utterly off topic, lol.
Sorry, I like to keep things interesting. We can go back to complaining why Christian women won't date a man who's not at least 6'2 ;)
 
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It took some searching, but I managed to find one as an example of the sort of thing we used to do.

The YOU Thread #101
Ha ha, I'm reviewing everyone's answers again.

Meh says he associates Orange w/ Reese. Of course! Duh! Why did no one else think of that!!! @MehGuy you're a genius!

Also, why did so many people not know the characters to Clue? I mean, we owned it growing up but only played it like once or twice, & I still rememember the characters pretty well & they're in pop culture a lot. Shame on CF posters!

Edit: ha ha, I see someone else brought that up to, why are so many CFers unfamilar w/ Clue characters????
 
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I have an online dating subscription and I have a <1% response rate. I feel invisible. I'm also not the only man who feels like that.

When I was working in Saudi Arabia, my free app had "okay" rate. A few here and there and I was able to choose but had to be super-picky because it's incredibly dangerous to have a date in Saudi Arabia. I ended up having zero dates at all because of too afraid of getting caught by their "religious police". I heard it's not as strict in Saudi now as it was before and they've relaxed many of their religious laws.

Perhaps the immigrants and Arabs have way easier / attainable standards than western women? Not just in dating apps but some are relatively aggressive out in public especially in public places where they "allow" men and women to talk to each other who are not necessarily married to each other.

I'm unable to pull off such "success" rate in a more westernized dating environment. The huge irony right? Just when things are supposed to be a lot easier, women are asking for a lot. Their dating profile when you start looking at the section "what they look for in a man". It looks more like a job advertisement for one of those S&P 500 companies!!! ^_^

Why not try your luck with immigrants? And why not trying to get a date by meeting people live and face to face, not behind an app....

I know, apps, online dating should probably make things easier to get a date but unless you look like a celebrity and you can say with absolute certainty and honestly, you travel all over the world very often, then things might end up worse for you.

I'm not saying you should do this but if it's not the truth then don't do it.... But if you can put in your profile, you travel all over the world as a hobby, or as a way for you to make some money......That profile is sure to catch a lot of attention from women!^_^
 
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And why not trying to get a date by meeting people live and face to face, not behind an app....
Unfortunately, for some people that's easier said than done. I would love to meet someone through some other means other than an app, but it hasn't happened. Not at church, through friends, or the various hobby/interest groups that I've been part of over the years. So for me, apps currently seem to be the most likely way I'll meet someone, even though I've had limited success with them.
 
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When I was working in Saudi Arabia, my free app had "okay" rate. A few here and there and I was able to choose but had to be super-picky because it's incredibly dangerous to have a date in Saudi Arabia. I ended up having zero dates at all because of too afraid of getting caught by their "religious police". I heard it's not as strict in Saudi now as it was before and they've relaxed many of their religious laws.

Perhaps the immigrants and Arabs have way easier / attainable standards than western women? Not just in dating apps but some are relatively aggressive out in public especially in public places where they "allow" men and women to talk to each other who are not necessarily married to each other.

I'm unable to pull off such "success" rate in a more westernized dating environment. The huge irony right? Just when things are supposed to be a lot easier, women are asking for a lot. Their dating profile when you start looking at the section "what they look for in a man". It looks more like a job advertisement for one of those S&P 500 companies!!! ^_^

Why not try your luck with immigrants? And why not trying to get a date by meeting people live and face to face, not behind an app....

I know, apps, online dating should probably make things easier to get a date but unless you look like a celebrity and you can say with absolute certainty and honestly, you travel all over the world very often, then things might end up worse for you.

I'm not saying you should do this but if it's not the truth then don't do it.... But if you can put in your profile, you travel all over the world as a hobby, or as a way for you to make some money......That profile is sure to catch a lot of attention from women!^_^
I like beautiful immigrant women too but I mostly have a thing for Western/European women so I still have a dilemma there. I especially like the Germanic, Slavic, and Scandinavian women looks-wise. It's like men having a harder time dating their own women in their own country and are forced to look anywhere else but them or have to make the commitment to moving abroad to be happy. Not everybody has or can get the entry requirements for living abroad anyway.

When I hear somebody say "we are living in the most prosperous and technologically advanced time in human existence today" I have to roll my eyes, at best that assessment is superficial. We are also living in arguably the most if not one of the hyper "progressive" "liberal", socially and biologically fallen, anti-straight white male and anti-family time in history especially in the West but because of the apparent fallen nature of humanity, it will eventually spread to every corner of the world.
 
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I like beautiful immigrant women too but I mostly have a thing for Western/European women so I still have a dilemma there. I especially like the Germanic, Slavic, and Scandinavian women looks-wise. It's like men having a harder time dating their own women in their own country and are forced to look anywhere else but them or have to make the commitment to moving abroad to be happy. Not everybody has or can get the entry requirements for living abroad anyway.

When I hear somebody say "we are living in the most prosperous and technologically advanced time in human existence today" I have to roll my eyes, at best that assessment is superficial. We are also living in arguably the most if not one of the hyper "progressive" "liberal", socially and biologically fallen, anti-straight white male and anti-family time in history especially in the West but because of the apparent fallen nature of humanity, it will eventually spread to every corner of the world.

You haven't seen them all.:pray:

There are many Arabs with pale skin, blue eyes (or any light shaded color), and blonde / red hair.

The Arabs who are certifiably Caucasians in genetics have Eastern European, Latin, and Jewish looks to them.

About the immigrants, I'm talking about the ones who are already living in USA. Many from Arab countries can easily get entry VISAS to USA and Europe. In fact, they have it way easier than say Eastern Europeans.

Why move abroad? Many Arabs would probably prefer living in the USA if they could. Trust me when I say, they really don't like wearing their traditional clothing as required by their laws and prefers to wear pretty vulgar western clothing under the privacy of their home and they absolutely hate the blistering hot climate most time of the year. Nobody likes the heat and nobody gets used to it. It's a limitation of the human body, no way around it. Sure they have A/C but if they want to take a jog outdoors, there is no A/C outdoors and temperatures usually get above 110F most time of the year!

They don't like the sand either... And with the generous stipend from their governments, they usually end up traveling quite extensively, mostly in Europe at least twice a year for about two months of vacation.

At least in Saudi Arabia, they almost seem to hate living in their country even if they can get a decent life in there even if they don't hold a job. If one member of the family goes to USA, they eventually bring the whole family to live in USA. In many ways, their culture is similar to Eastern Europeans, Italians, even the Jews. Close knit family. Makes them a little old-fashioned in values, gives more respect and care to their elders. Could be a nice thing depending on how you look at it.

Besides, why force yourself upon people who hates you? You'll just end up hating yourself after the constant rejections.
 
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Unfortunately, for some people that's easier said than done. I would love to meet someone through some other means other than an app, but it hasn't happened. Not at church, through friends, or the various hobby/interest groups that I've been part of over the years. So for me, apps currently seem to be the most likely way I'll meet someone, even though I've had limited success with them.

Not even through friends? Tough luck. I've had a few dates from friends. All great ladies. It just wasn't a good time. I never had a good moment. When I thought I found the right person, something terrible will happen in my life and I can't pursue it any further. Like God wants to keep me single and would wreak havoc in my life, sabotage things just to stop me even if I didn't want to at least back then.
 
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I have an online dating subscription and I have a <1% response rate. I feel invisible. I'm also not the only man who feels like that.
Hey, I'm a woman, and I'm in the same boat. Well, unless we want to count random "winks" from guys in Indonesia or Guatemala. And I don't. I think there's a bit of a fallacy that "women always get attention easier and more often than men". It's not true. PRETTY women do. Plain women? We're just as invisible. But that's nothing to complain about, really. Do you really want someone shallow, who's only interested in contacting you if you're gorgeous? I don't.

Is there something else, possibly, in your dating profile that could be a deterrent?
 
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I'm unable to pull off such "success" rate in a more westernized dating environment. The huge irony right? Just when things are supposed to be a lot easier, women are asking for a lot. Their dating profile when you start looking at the section "what they look for in a man". It looks more like a job advertisement for one of those S&P 500 companies!!! ^_^
You're looking at the wrong women. Why complain about what an entitled, shallow woman demands in a man? Are you interested in entitled, shallow women?

Think about the type of woman you'd want to marry. What would SHE put in that section? That's what you should focus on.

I don't put anything in a dating profile about how much money a man should make.
 
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I like beautiful immigrant women too but I mostly have a thing for Western/European women so I still have a dilemma there. I especially like the Germanic, Slavic, and Scandinavian women looks-wise. It's like men having a harder time dating their own women in their own country and are forced to look anywhere else but them or have to make the commitment to moving abroad to be happy. Not everybody has or can get the entry requirements for living abroad anyway.

When I hear somebody say "we are living in the most prosperous and technologically advanced time in human existence today" I have to roll my eyes, at best that assessment is superficial. We are also living in arguably the most if not one of the hyper "progressive" "liberal", socially and biologically fallen, anti-straight white male and anti-family time in history especially in the West but because of the apparent fallen nature of humanity, it will eventually spread to every corner of the world.

Immigeant women make great wives if you can find them young enough to still have some spirit and some heart. I found a 17 year old Polish immigrant girl and she had such an amazing spirit! She was so humble and kind to everyone. It was magnetic. And that little girl grew up on nothing and the farm. So she could cook dinner out of the gravel from the driveway! Lol, no joke, that girl can cook! So I did what any intelligent man would do. Married that little girl.

I managed to keep her for about 26 years before she got americanized and materialistic. It's my fault too, She had such a humble spirit at first that I wanted to give her everything she has not had. And I went too far and spoiled her. Then when the economy slowed down, it was, bye. But the fact remains that she was a great Wife and an excellant Mother. So if you marry an immagrant wife, don't spoil her or else you will spoil her. :(
 
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Think about the type of woman you'd want to marry. What would SHE put in that section? That's what you should focus on.

I found some who isn't shallow with more realistic expectations. Problem now is I can't be in a relationship anymore. Circumstances in life have made it impossible and I don't think it will ever be fixed. After a very long time of healing maybe, if the time of healing ever comes. I'd be a very old man after that!
 
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Immigeant women make great wives if you can find them young enough to still have some spirit and some heart. I found a 17 year old Polish immigrant girl and she had such an amazing spirit! She was so humble and kind to everyone. It was magnetic. And that little girl grew up on nothing and the farm. So she could cook dinner out of the gravel from the driveway! Lol, no joke, that girl can cook! So I did what any intelligent man would do. Married that little girl.

I managed to keep her for about 26 years before she got americanized and materialistic. It's my fault too, She had such a humble spirit at first that I wanted to give her everything she has not had. And I went too far and spoiled her. Then when the economy slowed down, it was, bye. But the fact remains that she was a great Wife and an excellant Mother. So if you marry an immagrant wife, don't spoil her or else you will spoil her. :(

Sorry for your loss.

Problem with young people, is they can be quite "malleable" in character. You still remember don't you? Someone quite young, their heart is not yet set. Society can still change it.

Someone who is 17 may not be the same person in their thirties. Have seen plenty who did and often times, they got worse. They became conceited, materialistic, and adulterous.

With so many getting corrupted by the modern society, perhaps, it's not entirely your fault. We simply live in an evil world.
 
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I like beautiful immigrant women too but I mostly have a thing for Western/European women so I still have a dilemma there. I especially like the Germanic, Slavic, and Scandinavian women looks-wise. It's like men having a harder time dating their own women in their own country and are forced to look anywhere else but them or have to make the commitment to moving abroad to be happy. Not everybody has or can get the entry requirements for living abroad anyway.

When I hear somebody say "we are living in the most prosperous and technologically advanced time in human existence today" I have to roll my eyes, at best that assessment is superficial. We are also living in arguably the most if not one of the hyper "progressive" "liberal", socially and biologically fallen, anti-straight white male and anti-family time in history especially in the West but because of the apparent fallen nature of humanity, it will eventually spread to every corner of the world.
VCR, what are you doing to try to change your situation other than seeking opinions on CF?

You post here regularly but I don't really know much about you other than you'd like a woman (would you like to get married too? I'm not sure, a lot of men just want girlfriends, they don't want to settle down for marriage -> honestly if that's all you want, you need to learn to be satisified with that you have b/c just girlfriends isn't as good as you think it is, or you need to learn why marriage is better than that.) We want to try to help you, & we need so much more information from you. Did you ever get into Bible reading, praying, reading "self-help" books by Christian authors, like I believe I've suggested to you in the past? If not, why not? Let us know some of this information -> some of your background, if you're doing the stuff I've asked you, etc. Open up some more about yourself to us. A girl would want you to do that. Get some practice w/ us. :)

I'll help you out w/ some questions:
What was high school like for you?
What do you do now?
What's your social life look like?
What does your interactions w/ single women look like? Older women outside your dating age range (married & non)? Married women in your dating age range?
You seem attracted to the Christian conservative culture: what's attracting you to it? Are you living like it? Why aren't you fully committing to it if that's what you think you want?
If you started Bible reading, praying, etc. like I asked, what are you learning from it?

I believe we will have a better understanding of you as a person & where you are in life & this will help so much.

:)
 
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