Thank you. God bless!
Yep, that Chinese curse: "May you live in interesting times." The Book of Revelation is certainly one of the most interesting books of The Holy Bible, eh?
Ah yes, the Chinese blessing that doubles as a curse, because apparently no one does passive aggression like ancient China xD
And of course, the second half of that blessing: "may you find what you're looking for..."
I wonder why God doesn't want me to date. What does he know I don't?
that there's far worse things than being single. That if you want to have a success relationship, you must be okay on your own first.
I'm 31, and I've been in basically two relationships that honestly, hardly even count, and a few "almosts".
First relationship was "online", we had been friends for almost 3 years, she confessed having feelings first, she opened the door to being more than friends, and I so liked her- so I agreed to give the long distance thing a shot, told my family I had an online girlfriend, which was the most painfully awkward experience of my life-- until like a few days later that she took it all back, blamed God, and started preaching at me. Strangest experience ever. And I can hardly count it as a relationship. And a mutual friend unwittingly confirmed my suspicion that there was another guy involved in the mix, and even though we were only "committed" for a few days, she'd already been cheating on me xD
My second relationship ended in much the same way-- though it wasn't online, and I actually went on one official date that time. 48 hours after our first date, she dumped me, said she had only been pretending to have feelings for me all along, and we'd been friends for 2 years, and hanging out multiple times a week for a year. Can hardly count that either.
And the "almost"- met a girl at work, she liked me, but I wanted to get to know her first. She liked me right up until she transferred to a new department with the "cool kids", and then I was just the dork weighing her down, and she reverted to middle school and started bullying me in front of everyone to prove to her cool coworkers that she wasn't dorky like me. Which only made them think she liked me more than they already did, which only made her escalate further and further, and eventually she got fired for stalking me at work, coming in on her days off, coming in early, staying late, to watch me, and "document" if I made mistakes, or broke policies, and sending me threatening text messages etc, etc.
Moral of the long and too much info story:
There's worse things than being single. Just being in a relationship is not going to make you happy. It's better to be single, and work on yourself, and do the things you want, and wait for the Lord to open a door-- than it is to just desperately search at the wrong time, and force the wrong door open with the wrong person.