I think that just because one has certain "feelings" sometimes with say, the same sex, in this case, I think it's wrong of us and society to automatically assume that to mean, or that, "that", has to mean, or must mean only one thing, and that is wrong I think...
It's certainly not the truth, that's for sure...
Now if you having sexual thoughts about say, the same sex in this case, associated with those "feelings" or whatever, then OK, maybe your gay... But, if your not, it could be "something else"... I think we panic cause we do not fully understand it, and the fact that society is basically lying to us telling us that it must mean "only one thing" also, just makes it, or just makes things worse, especially for those of us who know that it's something else entirely...
I wonder if it goes all the way back to when we first began to relate to one another, as a species, and formed social orders and structures, and lived together, before we even ever had a language, ect, and the basic challenge and/or fight or flight response, the fear, adrenaline, anxiety, panic, ect, all those feelings, a rush of them all at once... It is our basic primal instincts being triggered, which is why we do not sometimes fully understand it sometimes, because we do not fully understand that, a lot of the time...
Anyway, just some thoughts...
God Bless!