Well every man aught to be convinced in his own heart should be our final answer..EDIT: ** My goodness, people! Read the post before answering!**
There have been a few threads regarding marriage and divorce recently that really got me worked up with the theme of “one and done or you’re going to hell.”
So this got me thinking about a few married couples in loveless/sexless marriages that I know. The older you get, you may know some also.
Two couples that I know sleep in separate bedrooms and take separate vacations. They are nothing but roommates with kids. Another couple has been separated for about 5 years but won’t divorce because “it’s a sin”.
At what point do you believe that a marriage, while still legally valid, is no longer meeting Gods idea of marriage?
I believe that staying in an emotionally or physically abusive marriage or in one devoid of love and respect solely because “God hates divorce” is pure legalism. I think that God hates divorce because of what it does to his people. Aren’t loveless marriages contrary to his desire as well?
**I am not including anyone in a marriage that is physically or psychologically unable to have sex, only those who choose not to be intimate.
If a person chooses to stay....cannot God save Him also through the believer??
So no one can truly tell what God is saying to this individual that suffers hardship.
So I would never tell anyone to divorce for let no man put asunder....right?
However, look at the condition in which Moses allowed....Because the heart was hard. With a HARD HEART the effect is mistreatment.
With that said, legalism in my mind is when one is more concerned about appearance than the transformation of the human spirit.
If the Goal is the human heart...so that the outside would be clean also then I believe it is possible for one that remains in an abusive marriage strictly for appearance only to be legalism.
So depending on circumstances consult God if one decides to separate.
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