My Christian husband just started drinking...

[bekkilyn]

At least I don't have the view that he's abusing the whole household for having a single drink. Just because she's uncomfortable doesn't mean he's abusing anyone. I never said she should be happy, and even said she had every right to voice her concerns. But he's a grown man. Why do you think he can't be the head of the household, as described in the bible, but she has every right to tell him no and he has to obey? Sounds hypocritical to me.

The correct interpretation of marriage relationship in the bible is that the husband and wife are to mutually put each others' needs before their own, and we're not talking about him having just a single drink and then suddenly there is a huge uproar over it. He's been having very regular drinks in order to "relax"...in other words, he's started making a habit of it, and he started taking up this drinking habit *after* they were married for *years* without drinking, and he is no longer his own person but in a covenant relationship where he and his wife are "one flesh".

 

[Saucy]

The correct interpretation of marriage relationship in the bible is that the husband and wife are to mutually put each others' needs before their own, and we're not talking about him having just a single drink and then suddenly there is a huge uproar over it. He's been having very regular drinks in order to "relax"...in other words, he's started making a habit of it, and he started taking up this drinking habit *after* they were married for *years* without drinking, and he is no longer his own person but in a covenant relationship where he and his wife are "one flesh".

This isn't a need that she has. It's a need he feels he has and she can certainly put his need before what she thinks about him drinking. Again, it seems obvious things are probably tough at work. He wants to relax and alcohol lets him do that. She very specifically said that he doesn't even get buzzed. He's not coming home drunk. He's not out with the boys every night. He's not being abusive. The only problem is she doesn't like it, for whatever reason...she even admitted she doesn't know other than it makes her uncomfortable. He doesn't have to obey his wife. This isn't a 'need' on her end. At all.

 

[bekkilyn]

This isn't a need that she has. It's a need he feels he has and she can certainly put his need before what she thinks about him drinking. Again, it seems obvious things are probably tough at work. He wants to relax and alcohol lets him do that. She very specifically said that he doesn't even get buzzed. He's not coming home drunk. He's not out with the boys every night. He's not being abusive. The only problem is she doesn't like it, for whatever reason...she even admitted she doesn't know other than it makes her uncomfortable. He doesn't have to obey his wife. This isn't a 'need' on her end. At all.

If he's dealing with things being tough at work by a "need" to take a drug in order to relax, then that is a big problem. She knows its a problem even if she is having trouble expressing why it is a problem. The man is taking a controlled substance and if it is a "need" for him to do so, then he's addicted to it in some way. It doesn't matter what other people are doing or not doing, and it doesn't matter what other things he is not doing. What matters is what is most important to him in his relationship with his wife, and apparently, drinking has more value to him than she does. It's not like he's taken up knitting...he's started doing something that has regularly been the cause of a huge amount of harm to a huge number of people, and every addict thinks that they can control it. Until they can't.

 

[mmksparbud]

My only concern is... by the time it becomes a problem it would be so much more difficult to quit. I see it as nipping it in the bud.

You can do as some here suggest---just wait and if it becomes a problem then do something. By then it will be too late. Once it becomes an obvious problem, it has become one a long time before, often secretly. They cover it real well. My friend knew her husband was drinking too often, but said nothing. One day her son asked for something, she said it was in the bedroom. He came back white as a sheet and asked her to come up and see something---under the bed were dozens and dozens of empty bottles of all kinds of alcohol. She looked up the credit cards and the checks and was stunned---they had been broke for sometime--he was drinking everything away and the credit cards were almost maxed out. They had both not drank when they 1st married. He took it up 8 years later. They have since divorced.

10 Warning Signs of Addiction

It’s hard to be objective when it comes to figuring out whether you or your loved one has a problem with drinking. Emotions run high, rationalizations and denials lead to confusion and it can seem hard to draw the line between what’s acceptable and what’s going too far. Although the boundaries are fuzzy, issues with drinking are either classed as problem drinking or alcohol dependence. Problem drinkers don’t have a full-fledged addiction to alcohol, but their drinking may be starting to take its toll on their everyday lives and they are at greatly increased risk for becoming dependent later. So while some of the warning signs of alcoholism are technically signs of problem drinking, there is a lot of overlap, and identifying either one is cause for concern. Here are 10 of the most important things to look out for in yourself or your loved one:

1. Lying About or Hiding Your Drinking – Denial is common with people having problems with alcohol, so both problem drinkers and alcoholics might drink secretively or lie about how much they drink to make it seem like less of an issue. This can be hard to spot for anybody but the individual, due to its very nature, but it’s an important sign of a more serious problem.

1. Drinking to Relax or Feel Better – Almost all people struggling with addiction abuse their substance of choice for emotional reasons. Whether it’s stress, depression, anxiety or anything else, using alcohol as a method of easing negative feelings is a risky habit—the “relief” it provides is only temporary and it ordinarily makes things worse in the long run. If you drink more when you’ve had a stressful day or need a drink to feel like you can really relax, it’s a big sign that you’re using alcohol as an emotional crutch.

1. “Blacking Out” Regularly – Drinking so much that you have no memory of what happened is another red flag for a problem with alcohol. Simply put, it means you drank way too much. If you find this happening to you (or notice it happening to someone else), you have to ask what is driving you to drink so excessively? You don’t need to black out to have fun, so what’s the real reason?

1. Being Unable to Stop Once You Start – If you always finish a bottle of wine once it’s opened or drink all the beer in the house once you’ve had one, it’s another sign you aren’t in full control of your drinking and you may have a problem.

1. Drinking in Dangerous Situations – Drinking when you really shouldn’t—like before work, before you have to drive somewhere or drinking against your doctor’s orders when you’re on medication—is an important sign of problem drinking. Even if something hasn’t gone wrong yet, every time you do something like this you run the risk of serious consequences. Regularly taking those risks strongly implies that alcohol is the main priority in your life.

1. Neglecting Your Responsibilities – If you’re having problems at work, school or with your household responsibilities because of your drinking, you have a problem. Alcohol has crossed the line from an occasional indulgence to something that seriously impacts your day-to-day functioning.

1. Having Trouble in Your Relationships – This is closely related to the last point, but it’s in many ways more important. If your drinking is causing problems with your closest friends, your significant other or your family, it’s an indication that alcohol is a bigger priority than even the most important people in your life. These last two symptoms are general signs of any addiction, and might mean that your issues are going beyond the problem-drinker stage.

1. Being Able to Drink More Than You Used To – Tolerance is another key sign of addiction, so if you can drink more than you used to and need to drink more than you did before in order to get drunk, it’s a strong indicator that you’re becoming an alcoholic. It means your body is exposed to alcohol regularly enough that it has adapted to cope with it better.

1. Experiencing Withdrawal – Withdrawal is different from a hangover; it’s the reaction to the lack of alcohol rather than too much alcohol. If you start to feel irritable, tired, depressed, nauseous or anxious when you haven’t had a drink, there’s a possibility you’re going through withdrawal. Other signs include having trouble sleeping, losing your appetite and experiencing shakiness or trembling.

1. Trying to Quit but Being Unable to – If you have realized your drinking is becoming a problem (or someone who cares about you has) and tried to make a change but have been unsuccessful, you should seriously consider finding additional help. Deciding to quit drinking shows that you understand the impacts it’s having on your life, but the fact that you’re unable to means there’s a big chance you’re struggling with alcohol addiction.

It’s important to note that experiencing just one of these signs doesn’t necessarily mean you’re a problem drinker or an alcoholic, but if you’re experiencing a few of them (or you see numerous signs in a loved one), there is a very strong possibility your drinking has gone too far. The latter five symptoms in particular are signs of addiction rather than problem drinking.


You need to discuss this with a professional. it is not wise to get your advice from those who drink. You don't know if they might have a problem themselves that they do not want to admit to.

 

[Saucy]

Why are you framing it that it's either her or the drink? That's not an option before him. And if she decides to leave him over having a single drink, then that says more about her inability to compromise than it does him.

Again, as I stated before, there's a lot of cultural and social aspects to drinking that have NOTHING to do with it being some kind of controlled substance, which it's not really. You can go to any store right now and buy whatever type of alcohol you want. You don't need a prescription.

He is not causing ANY harm in his marriage, to his wife, to his family, or to himself. The vast majority of people can drink with no problem at all, because they are responsible adults with self control. By all accounts, this is one of those situations where he's not abusing anything. He's not hurting anyone.

 

[bekkilyn]

Why are you framing it that it's either her or the drink? That's not an option before him. And if she decides to leave him over having a single drink, then that says more about her inability to compromise than it does him.

Again, as I stated before, there's a lot of cultural and social aspects to drinking that have NOTHING to do with it being some kind of controlled substance, which it's not really. You can go to any store right now and buy whatever type of alcohol you want. You don't need a prescription.

He is not causing ANY harm in his marriage, to his wife, to his family, or to himself. The vast majority of people can drink with no problem at all, because they are responsible adults with self control. By all accounts, this is one of those situations where he's not abusing anything. He's not hurting anyone.

He's having more than a single drink, and his drinking *is* causing harm in his marriage and to his wife, or she wouldn't be here on this forum attempting to find support.

We're not discussing whether alcohol is legal. Plenty of people abuse prescription drugs too, so something doesn't have to be illegal to be harmful. Again, it doesn't matter what other people are doing or not doing. Christians don't need to go along with everything the world decides is acceptable. Everyone else is doing is not a good excuse.

 

[Landon Caeli]

Her yoke is a very heavy one.

 

[mollym8505]

I went to bed last night... Prayed and cried. My husband is 5000 miles away (again, with our 10 year old son on vacation) so it's really hard to handle this.

A few things to touch on:

I am not a controlling person. If anything, he is. It's genetic - his father is extremely controlling and gets really upset if something doesn't go as planned or go his way. Our son has inherited this. Thankfully, in the years of marrying me he's been able to relax about life a lot. I'm a very fun-loving and relaxed, bubbly person.

I just thought of an example that I only realized a few years ago. When we were discussing engagement, I told him exactly what I wanted in an engagement ring. (to note: I really didn't care if I got one, but he wanted to "do it right") He didn't have much money - a college student - and I told him it could be fake, I didn't care! But he did a lot of research into what he thought was the perfect diamond. He bought it ($670, which was a lot for him at the time), proposed and of course I said "yes". I have NEVER been upset about my engagement ring. I cherish it. But he went completely the opposite of what I wanted. He got what HE wanted. And it was only a few years ago that I realized what a reflection of his personality this was.

Another thing that maybe people didn't read. I am a VERY fun wife. He will tell you this if you ask him. He says I am perfect. I don't mean to toot my own horn but I just want people to understand that we have a fun and wonderful marriage. We love to be with each other, we have a great bedroom relationship, our marriage is fantastic - we are best friends. We have been through a lot in our marriage and it's finally in a really good place.

I have relented on A LOT of things for his pleasure. He gets his way A LOT because, honestly, I don't care enough to be worth the effort of an argument. For me to find reason to stand my ground on something, it has to be important. And this is important to me - and again, I can't explain why... Other than I don't want to see it get out of hand. And I have no guarantee that it will... but I also have no guarantee that it won't. It's not a chance I want to take. And I'm surprised he wants to.

We were talking marriage 2 months into dating (at a young age). We knew we were "the ones". A few weeks into dating we were on the phone and he told me about his one night a few years prior where he drank, passed out, poisoned himself (literally... he drank way too much for his body weight) and threw up so much, felt so awful, that he swore it off. Even then - and I have told them this in the past - I felt SO disappointed that this perfect guy (in my eyes) even went there - even for one night. I was questioning whether or not he was the man for me. Just briefly... before I came to the conclusion that he did indeed swear it off.

And he never drank after that. He always made a point to be different around his co-workers and friends. He even asked my permission to go out to a bar with his co-workers after work, what I thought about it, etc (of course he wasn't going to drink) We both agreed that at that point it might not be a good idea to be seen in a bar.

In other words, we have taken this unspoken promise to each other very seriously.

The first time he drank was at a wedding on October 2017 (so 9 months ago). He had two glasses of wine. I was uncomfortable with it and told him later that night "I don't want you to be that person". He said Okay, no big deal.

And then we were on vacation together in May and he had a complimentary glass of wine in the hotel lobby. Maybe two nights? Again, I didn't forbid him... I just said that I really didn't like it.

Then he's on vacation now with our son (which really makes me uncomfortable) and I'm seeing glasses here and there. I can only assume he's been having one at every meal (they ARE in Italy, it is common). So I asked him about it... He said, "I thought you would be okay with it since we're on vacation".

So I put my foot down and asked him to respect me. And then it went all sideways. He's very angry with me. He says I don't understand it. I don't know what I'm talking about because I have no experience. That he's not getting drunk, etc. Why is he getting so upset over something that, he has said, "Isn't a big deal".

So here we are... he's 5,000 miles away and we can't really deal with this because of the distance.

Here's my real question though... I understand that the drink itself may not be a sin. But what if it's a gateway to sin? To a problem? With everything we've been through, why does he want to risk that?

 

[MoneyGuy]

I think this is your problem, not his. There is nothing wrong with having a beer or glass of wine, in my opinion. You say you grew up in a home without alcohol. So did my wife and she has the odd drink - usually with me. If he starts drinking excessively then there is a problem. Right now that’s not the case.

 

[Landon Caeli]

I went to bed last night... Prayed and cried. My husband is 5000 miles away (again, with our 10 year old son on vacation) so it's really hard to handle this.

A few things to touch on:

I am not a controlling person. If anything, he is. It's genetic - his father is extremely controlling and gets really upset if something doesn't go as planned or go his way. Our son has inherited this. Thankfully, in the years of marrying me he's been able to relax about life a lot. I'm a very fun-loving and relaxed, bubbly person.

I just thought of an example that I only realized a few years ago. When we were discussing engagement, I told him exactly what I wanted in an engagement ring. (to note: I really didn't care if I got one, but he wanted to "do it right") He didn't have much money - a college student - and I told him it could be fake, I didn't care! But he did a lot of research into what he thought was the perfect diamond. He bought it ($670, which was a lot for him at the time), proposed and of course I said "yes". I have NEVER been upset about my engagement ring. I cherish it. But he went completely the opposite of what I wanted. He got what HE wanted. And it was only a few years ago that I realized what a reflection of his personality this was.

Another thing that maybe people didn't read. I am a VERY fun wife. He will tell you this if you ask him. He says I am perfect. I don't mean to toot my own horn but I just want people to understand that we have a fun and wonderful marriage. We love to be with each other, we have a great bedroom relationship, our marriage is fantastic - we are best friends. We have been through a lot in our marriage and it's finally in a really good place.

I have relented on A LOT of things for his pleasure. He gets his way A LOT because, honestly, I don't care enough to be worth the effort of an argument. For me to find reason to stand my ground on something, it has to be important. And this is important to me - and again, I can't explain why... Other than I don't want to see it get out of hand. And I have no guarantee that it will... but I also have no guarantee that it won't. It's not a chance I want to take. And I'm surprised he wants to.

We were talking marriage 2 months into dating (at a young age). We knew we were "the ones". A few weeks into dating we were on the phone and he told me about his one night a few years prior where he drank, passed out, poisoned himself (literally... he drank way too much for his body weight) and threw up so much, felt so awful, that he swore it off. Even then - and I have told them this in the past - I felt SO disappointed that this perfect guy (in my eyes) even went there - even for one night. I was questioning whether or not he was the man for me. Just briefly... before I came to the conclusion that he did indeed swear it off.

And he never drank after that. He always made a point to be different around his co-workers and friends. He even asked my permission to go out to a bar with his co-workers after work, what I thought about it, etc (of course he wasn't going to drink) We both agreed that at that point it might not be a good idea to be seen in a bar.

In other words, we have taken this unspoken promise to each other very seriously.

The first time he drank was at a wedding on October 2017 (so 9 months ago). He had two glasses of wine. I was uncomfortable with it and told him later that night "I don't want you to be that person". He said Okay, no big deal.

And then we were on vacation together in May and he had a complimentary glass of wine in the hotel lobby. Maybe two nights? Again, I didn't forbid him... I just said that I really didn't like it.

Then he's on vacation now with our son (which really makes me uncomfortable) and I'm seeing glasses here and there. I can only assume he's been having one at every meal (they ARE in Italy, it is common). So I asked him about it... He said, "I thought you would be okay with it since we're on vacation".

So I put my foot down and asked him to respect me. And then it went all sideways. He's very angry with me. He says I don't understand it. I don't know what I'm talking about because I have no experience. That he's not getting drunk, etc. Why is he getting so upset over something that, he has said, "Isn't a big deal".

So here we are... he's 5,000 miles away and we can't really deal with this because of the distance.

Here's my real question though... I understand that the drink itself may not be a sin. But what if it's a gateway to sin? To a problem? With everything we've been through, why does he want to risk that?

You'll just have to be prepared for whatever twists and turns life takes. You won't be able to dodge everything -some you'll have to ride out.

 

[Landon Caeli]

You can do as some here suggest---just wait and if it becomes a problem then do something. By then it will be too late. Once it becomes an obvious problem, it has become one a long time before, often secretly. They cover it real well. My friend knew her husband was drinking too often, but said nothing. One day her son asked for something, she said it was in the bedroom. He came back white as a sheet and asked her to come up and see something---under the bed were dozens and dozens of empty bottles of all kinds of alcohol. She looked up the credit cards and the checks and was stunned---they had been broke for sometime--he was drinking everything away and the credit cards were almost maxed out. They had both not drank when they 1st married. He took it up 8 years later. They have since divorced.

10 Warning Signs of Addiction

It’s hard to be objective when it comes to figuring out whether you or your loved one has a problem with drinking. Emotions run high, rationalizations and denials lead to confusion and it can seem hard to draw the line between what’s acceptable and what’s going too far. Although the boundaries are fuzzy, issues with drinking are either classed as problem drinking or alcohol dependence. Problem drinkers don’t have a full-fledged addiction to alcohol, but their drinking may be starting to take its toll on their everyday lives and they are at greatly increased risk for becoming dependent later. So while some of the warning signs of alcoholism are technically signs of problem drinking, there is a lot of overlap, and identifying either one is cause for concern. Here are 10 of the most important things to look out for in yourself or your loved one:

1. Lying About or Hiding Your Drinking – Denial is common with people having problems with alcohol, so both problem drinkers and alcoholics might drink secretively or lie about how much they drink to make it seem like less of an issue. This can be hard to spot for anybody but the individual, due to its very nature, but it’s an important sign of a more serious problem.

1. Drinking to Relax or Feel Better – Almost all people struggling with addiction abuse their substance of choice for emotional reasons. Whether it’s stress, depression, anxiety or anything else, using alcohol as a method of easing negative feelings is a risky habit—the “relief” it provides is only temporary and it ordinarily makes things worse in the long run. If you drink more when you’ve had a stressful day or need a drink to feel like you can really relax, it’s a big sign that you’re using alcohol as an emotional crutch.

1. “Blacking Out” Regularly – Drinking so much that you have no memory of what happened is another red flag for a problem with alcohol. Simply put, it means you drank way too much. If you find this happening to you (or notice it happening to someone else), you have to ask what is driving you to drink so excessively? You don’t need to black out to have fun, so what’s the real reason?

1. Being Unable to Stop Once You Start – If you always finish a bottle of wine once it’s opened or drink all the beer in the house once you’ve had one, it’s another sign you aren’t in full control of your drinking and you may have a problem.

1. Drinking in Dangerous Situations – Drinking when you really shouldn’t—like before work, before you have to drive somewhere or drinking against your doctor’s orders when you’re on medication—is an important sign of problem drinking. Even if something hasn’t gone wrong yet, every time you do something like this you run the risk of serious consequences. Regularly taking those risks strongly implies that alcohol is the main priority in your life.

1. Neglecting Your Responsibilities – If you’re having problems at work, school or with your household responsibilities because of your drinking, you have a problem. Alcohol has crossed the line from an occasional indulgence to something that seriously impacts your day-to-day functioning.

1. Having Trouble in Your Relationships – This is closely related to the last point, but it’s in many ways more important. If your drinking is causing problems with your closest friends, your significant other or your family, it’s an indication that alcohol is a bigger priority than even the most important people in your life. These last two symptoms are general signs of any addiction, and might mean that your issues are going beyond the problem-drinker stage.

1. Being Able to Drink More Than You Used To – Tolerance is another key sign of addiction, so if you can drink more than you used to and need to drink more than you did before in order to get drunk, it’s a strong indicator that you’re becoming an alcoholic. It means your body is exposed to alcohol regularly enough that it has adapted to cope with it better.

1. Experiencing Withdrawal – Withdrawal is different from a hangover; it’s the reaction to the lack of alcohol rather than too much alcohol. If you start to feel irritable, tired, depressed, nauseous or anxious when you haven’t had a drink, there’s a possibility you’re going through withdrawal. Other signs include having trouble sleeping, losing your appetite and experiencing shakiness or trembling.

1. Trying to Quit but Being Unable to – If you have realized your drinking is becoming a problem (or someone who cares about you has) and tried to make a change but have been unsuccessful, you should seriously consider finding additional help. Deciding to quit drinking shows that you understand the impacts it’s having on your life, but the fact that you’re unable to means there’s a big chance you’re struggling with alcohol addiction.

It’s important to note that experiencing just one of these signs doesn’t necessarily mean you’re a problem drinker or an alcoholic, but if you’re experiencing a few of them (or you see numerous signs in a loved one), there is a very strong possibility your drinking has gone too far. The latter five symptoms in particular are signs of addiction rather than problem drinking.


You need to discuss this with a professional. it is not wise to get your advice from those who drink. You don't know if they might have a problem themselves that they do not want to admit to.

Sounds familiar.

A lot of times I come home from work and my wife is out with the girls. When they return, they're carrying leftovers from expensive restaurants, shopping bags, etc.

 

[High Fidelity]

Acceptance is a two-way street. Your husband isn't drinking excessively or to the point of sin(drunkenness). You're making it sound like the only right solution is for him to make the concession with no give from you at all.

Wine tasting is interesting. There's a whole host of different wines, types of wines and variety even within specific categories. If he enjoys it, I really can't see why he must stop. He works and provides for himself, his wife and his children. I would be pretty darn frustrated if I was in his shoes and I was told I couldn't do something harmless to unwind or whatever.

Your husband isn't an alcoholic and there's nothing to suggest he will be.

I feel this is your problem and something you need to accept. If you love your husband and the tremendous effort he makes to support you and your children all off his own back, try to accept that having a drink here or there isn't an issue and it certainly isn't an unrealistic concession to make on your behalf.

That said, I can imagine it's difficult given your history together suggesting this may not become a reality, but it is now and you're married, so you work through it

Good luck

 

[Landon Caeli]

Honestly, OP. If this is the worst curve ball life has thrown you, then please, Don't complain.

It sounds like you live a storybook life.

Other people have real problems. That's not fair.

 

[FireDragon76]

... There is nothing anywhere in scripture that mentions Jesus or any of the disciples drinking alcohol in order to "relax" and there are some pretty good arguments that what they were drinking wasn't even fermented to begin with and so it would have been impossible for them to get drunk or misuse it in any way. If the husband has so much need to drink to the point where he is willing to make it into a dividing issue with his wife, then he already has a drinking problem.

All wine back then was fermented. Grace juice ferments naturally into wine within days. People regularly drank wine back then, and the idea of wine being forbidden merely because it was pleasurable wouldn't have factored into their thinking.

I myself tend to avoid alcohol now days because of my health (I have mild alpha antitrypsin deficiency, which is something that typically makes drinking alcohol problematic for the liver) but I don't think drinking wine is sinful and its actually very unhelpful to treat alcohol consumption in such a moralistic fashion. Drinking alcohol in moderation is at best a private decision that only becomes a problem if people are drinking and driving or it causes actual harms to ones health. Drinking a glass of wine a day is not considered abusive consumption by any recognized medical authority.

It's alot better to drink alcohol with meals, it's less connected to abusive patterns of drinking (because it isn't as rapidly absorbed and the liver has more time to perform metabolism).

Most liver failure in the US isn't even caused by alcohol, it's caused by fatty liver related to obesity and the American diet.

 

[bekkilyn]

It's also a problem if a husband is unwilling to do even *one* thing that his wife requests of him, regardless of what it is. If he always has to get his own way no matter what, then there is an issue there even without the drinking.

 

[Landon Caeli]

It's also a problem if a husband is unwilling to do even *one* thing that his wife requests of him, regardless of what it is. If he always has to get his own way no matter what, then there is an issue there even without the drinking.

Baloney.

 

[Landon Caeli]

I just realized how much I don't like women.

I'm tapping out before I start raising hell again.

 

[bekkilyn]

Baloney.

So a husband should *never* do anything his wife asks him to do or to ever compromise on anything in a marriage?

 

[Landon Caeli]

So a husband should *never* do anything his wife asks him to do or to ever compromise on anything in a marriage?

Her husband has offered little princess a storybook life. Now she throws a baby fit because he has a sip of wine.

Meanwhile other people have actual problems in this world. I Don't want to hear it. Get a life people. You've been sheltered.

 

[bekkilyn]

Her husband has offered little princess a storybook life. Now she throws a baby fit because he has a sip of wine.

Meanwhile real people have actual problems in this world. I Don't want to hear it. Get a life people. You've been sheltered.

Have you considered that maybe she's the one who offered *him* a storybook life? They have been married for 13 years and it is only *now* that she's asked him for something?

I'm sorry if you're having problems of your own, and maybe yours are even worse by comparison, but it doesn't diminish the real pain people feel even if theirs are different from yours or seem trivial to you.