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So i am 34 and feel like i never had a life or got to expeirence the life i wanted. i feel like most of my life was wasted...i am really struggling terribly. i dont have a car anymore and no money to buy one anytime soon so its hard to go places and do things i want. i just sit in my room all day depressed and i am tired of doing that. it gets old. God has also kinda abandon me and is angry with me because of my rebellion towards him so i feel entirely spiritually dead and alone...i dont know how to turn back to him without feeling guilt fear and stuff like my shamefulness with that is consuming me. i dont really have anyone to talk to but my mom and sometimes she doesnt understand me. i also have been very sick (kidney issues) and the doctors dont know whats wrong with me so im really frustrated with that...all these things are just making me really stressful and i dont know what to do anymore. i just want to cry. i am not sure what kind of advice i am looking for but i needed to vent this out.......i guess you can pray for me?
 
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So i am 34 and feel like i never had a life or got to expeirence the life i wanted. i feel like most of my life was wasted...i am really struggling terribly. i dont have a car anymore and no money to buy one anytime soon so its hard to go places and do things i want. i just sit in my room all day depressed and i am tired of doing that. it gets old. God has also kinda abandon me and is angry with me because of my rebellion towards him so i feel entirely spiritually dead and alone...i dont know how to turn back to him without feeling guilt and stuff like my shamefulness with that is consuming me. i dont really have anyone to talk to but my mom and sometimes she doesnt understand me. i also have been very sick (kidney issues) and the doctors dont know whats wrong with me so im really frustrated with that...all these things are just making me really stressful and i dont know what to do anymore. i just want to cry. i am not sure what kind of advice i am looking for but i needed to vent this out.......i guess you can pray for me?

Jennifer, I have prayed for you and will keep praying. You turn back to God by...well, turning back to Him. I know that sounds too simple, but, you sound very sorry. What makes you think God is not ready to forgive you if you're ready to repent? Do you know a parent who would give their child a stone if she asked for bread? Do you think God will do that to you?

Your life has not been a waste. Whatever it has been, God can use you. Believe that! You can be forgiven! I am praying for you.
 
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Please be encouraged. I don't believe God has abandoned you. Sometimes it can feel that way, especially if you are depressed or stressed, and things aren't going well. We tend to base God's pleasure or unhappiness with us on our circumstances, but it really is not a measuring tool at all. Life is full of hardships and suffering for many, and it has nothing to do with how God feels about us.

The Bible says that he will never leave us or forsake us. It does not promise he will take away all our problems, but it does say that he will stay with us while we go through it and give grace.

34 is still young. There is potentially of a lot of time that can be redeemed.
 
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Jennifer, I have prayed for you and will keep praying. You turn back to God by...well, turning back to Him. I know that sounds too simple, but, you sound very sorry. What makes you think God is not ready to forgive you if you're ready to repent? Do you know a parent who would give their child a stone if she asked for bread? Do you think God will do that to you?

Your life has not been a waste. Whatever it has been, God can use you. Believe that! You can be forgiven! I am praying for you.
i feel like i wasted most of my life by sinning being a fool and doing foolish things...and i didnt grow to be the person i like to be...so i feel all awkward and cant function in my life, in my being now.....i feel unborn..i have so much regret and sorrows...thank you for praying for me..
 
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i feel like i wasted most of my life by sinning being a fool and doing foolish things...and i didnt grow to be the person i like to be...so i feel all awkward and cant function in my life, in my being now.....i feel unborn...thank you for praying for me..

Who on this forum is the person they would like to be? Raise your hand.

Not me. Sadly. I'll be first in line to tell you my mess ups, foibles, sin, bad habits and just other gunk. Or, you can just read the Bible and find out the cast of misfortunate characters there. ;)

Jesus came to save awkward people just like us. Believe that.
 
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Who on this forum is the person they would like to be? Raise your hand.

Not me. Sadly. I'll be first in line to tell you my mess ups, foibles, sin, bad habits and just other gunk. Or, you can just read the Bible and find out the cast of misfortunate characters there. ;)

Jesus came to save awkward people just like us. Believe that.
yeah i guess...
 
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yeah i guess...

Do not guess. Know. Amen and amen! From 1 Corinthians 1:

Brothers and sisters, think of what you were when you were called. Not many of you were wise by human standards; not many were influential; not many were of noble birth. 27But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong. 28 God chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things—and the things that are not—to nullify the things that are, 29so that no one may boast before him. 30It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus, who has become for us wisdom from God—that is, our righteousness, holiness and redemption. 31Therefore, as it is written: “Let the one who boasts boast in the Lord.”d
 
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Do not guess. Know. Amen and amen! From 1 Corinthians 1:

Brothers and sisters, think of what you were when you were called. Not many of you were wise by human standards; not many were influential; not many were of noble birth. 27But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong. 28 God chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things—and the things that are not—to nullify the things that are, 29so that no one may boast before him. 30It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus, who has become for us wisdom from God—that is, our righteousness, holiness and redemption. 31Therefore, as it is written: “Let the one who boasts boast in the Lord.”d
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Do not guess. Know. Amen and amen! From 1 Corinthians 1:

Brothers and sisters, think of what you were when you were called. Not many of you were wise by human standards; not many were influential; not many were of noble birth. 27But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong. 28 God chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things—and the things that are not—to nullify the things that are, 29so that no one may boast before him. 30It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus, who has become for us wisdom from God—that is, our righteousness, holiness and redemption. 31Therefore, as it is written: “Let the one who boasts boast in the Lord.”d

So awesome is this scripture. Its the perfect fit for this struggle.
 
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So i am 34 and feel like i never had a life or got to expeirence the life i wanted.

You should find other people who need your help.
Then you should focus on helping them.
Provide the life for others that you would have wanted for yourself.
It may turn out even better than what you had wished for.
 
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You should find other people who need your help.
Then you should focus on helping them.
Provide the life for others that you would have wanted for yourself.
It may turn out even better than what you had wished for.
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ministering in a church or something....i have a desire to preach..but i feel unfit for many reasons...like i didnt grow in that area...i didnt learn...i know some things but not enough..i feel great when i talk about God...i feel a lot of energy and good things when i do it.....but we also must practice what we preach and i feel i dont live up to Gods standards enough sometimes..i dont want to be out there telling others what to do when i am not doing it myself..but i feel passion when i do it..but i dont feel perfect enough....but when i see others do it..im like i want to do that so much..im so inspired by Jesus...and the way he teaches..its so beautiful..


i tried taking singing lessons but that didnt work out because i never could get it right..because i like to sing...but i found out i had no talent there..lol

i used to play the clairnet...

i took ballet because i like to dance but that didnt work out either..


i like to write sometimes...i always wanted to write a book but thats really hard to do..and get by
 
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