I think you make some good points. I always try to keep in mind what Paul said in Romans 7 about the struggle between the Law in our mind (conscience) and the law in the flesh (carnal desires that go against Yahweh.)
Romans 7:
22 For I delight in the law of God after the inward man:
23 But I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members.
And that we should often study the written Law to understand the Spirit behind it:
Romans 7:
7 What shall we say then? Is the law sin? God forbid. Nay, I had not known sin, but by the law: for I had not known lust, except the law had said, Thou shalt not covet.
So I believe that the Law becomes something we love over time, and not something entirely instantaneous.
I also believe that there are sinful influences working against us, trying to convince us that something is or isn't Lawful, like when Yahushua Christ said to the scribes and pharisees:
Mark 7:
8 For laying aside the commandment of God, ye hold the tradition of men, as the washing of pots and cups: and many other such like things ye do.
9 ..Full well ye reject the commandment of God, that ye may keep your own tradition.
Just some thoughts.
If you start in Romans 1 you see that Paul is talking about the law BEFORE Christ. Chapter 7 is actually the culmination of this teaching on the law. What the Holy Spirit does for us is writes the law on our conscience. It becomes a part of us. We also now have the power of the Holy Spirit so that we are not in the flesh but in the Spirit.
Chapter seven shows us that the law was holy, but it was sin that was the problem. What the Holy Spirit does is kills sin in us. He killed the desires to sin. We love what God loves and hate what God hates. You see the Jews didn't have this power when they were under the law. Because sin is dead in us, we no longer are under the law. That is why Paul said if you walk in the Spirit you are not under the law. That is in Galatians 5. Many believe grace just covers the sins we keep on committing. No! Grace is the power of God to no longer sin.
See the Semitic parallelism in Acts 4:33. You will see that grace and power are the same. (Great power/Great grace).
This doctrine may be new to you. But John taught it too. Read 1 John 3
3 Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God! Therefore the world does not know us, because it did not know Him. 2 Beloved, now we are children of God; and it has not yet been revealed what we shall be, but we know that when He is revealed, we shall be like Him, for we shall see Him as He is. 3 And everyone who has this hope in Him purifies himself, just as He is pure.
Sin and the Child of God
4 Whoever commits sin also commits lawlessness, and sin is lawlessness. 5 And you know that He was manifested to take away our sins, and in Him there is no sin. 6 Whoever abides in Him does not sin. Whoever sins has neither seen Him nor known Him.
7 Little children, let no one deceive you. He who practices righteousness is righteous, just as He is righteous. 8 He who sins is of the devil, for the devil has sinned from the beginning. For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that He might destroy the works of the devil.
9 Whoever has been born of God does not sin, for His seed remains in him; and he cannot sin, because he has been born of God.
The Imperative of Love
10 In this the children of God and the children of the devil are manifest: Whoever does not practice righteousness is not of God, nor
is he who does not love his brother. 11 For this is the message that you heard from the beginning, that we should love one another, 12 not as Cain
who was of the wicked one and murdered his brother. And why did he murder him? Because his works were evil and his brother’s righteous.
13 Do not marvel, my brethren, if the world hates you. 14 We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love the brethren. He who does not love
his brother abides in death. 15 Whoever hates his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life abiding in him.
The Outworking of Love
16 By this we know love, because He laid down His life for us. And we also ought to lay down
our lives for the brethren. 17 But whoever has this world’s goods, and sees his brother in need, and shuts up his heart from him, how does the love of God abide in him?
18 My little children, let us not love in word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth. 19 And by this we know that we are of the truth, and shall assure our hearts before Him. 20 For if our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart, and knows all things. 21 Beloved, if our heart does not condemn us, we have confidence toward God. 22 And whatever we ask we receive from Him, because we keep His commandments and do those things that are pleasing in His sight. 23 And this is His commandment: that we should believe on the name of His Son Jesus Christ and love one another, as He gave us commandment.
The Spirit of Truth and the Spirit of Error
24 Now he who keeps His commandments abides in Him, and He in him. And by this we know that He abides in us, by the Spirit whom He has given us.