My Mother is terminally ill

[Ben Collyer]

Hi all. My mum (55 years old) (non christian) has metastatic breast cancer in her bone. it is in her spine, pelvis and shoulder.

God has been gracious towards me during these emotionally tough times by giving me a great support network. But my dad who is also a christian, is miserable and struggling to cope with the reality of losing his wife and best friend. and also my mum isnt a christian. before her diagnosis she was reluctant to discuss faith saying it wasnt for her. now she does listen but still seems quite unreceptive to truth.

so not only do I face losing my mum, I also face having to live with the horror of knowing my loving and kind mum will spend eternity in hell.

what on earth can I do?

 

[JesusLovesOurLady]

Pray! Pray! Pray!

 

[Sarah G]

1 Corinthians 7:14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.

I am sure your kind, loving mother will be given a chance to repent and accept Lord Jesus Christ as her Saviour and she won't hesitate once in His holy presence!

I am so sorry to hear that your mother is so ill. May the Holy Spirit be with you all. May you all feel the presence of Lord Jesus Christ strongly in your lives.

 

[Hieronymus]

1st off: There is no eternal life in hell, there is eternal life in Christ.

As said: PRAY. But i bet you already do that.

Why does your mom think it's not for her?
Why is she "not receptive for truth"?
Could evidence like 'the case for Christ' help?

Another thing though:
Paul taught that a member of a Christian household / family is also saved even if they don't believe.
He did say he said that on his own authority though, but the Apostles were given the right / capacity to "bind and loose".

For what it's worth, my father did 2 years ago, he was not a Christian.
So i prayed hard when he was dying, praying that God will take care of him.
Again, for what it's worth, i have a good feeling about it, i believe God will / did take care of him.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Very sorry youre going through this, all I can say is be in a state of continual prayer.

 

[Sketcher]

Pray for her and do things that she will be proud of.

 

[Winken]

Hi all. My mum (55 years old) (non christian) has metastatic breast cancer in her bone. it is in her spine, pelvis and shoulder.

God has been gracious towards me during these emotionally tough times by giving me a great support network. But my dad who is also a christian, is miserable and struggling to cope with the reality of losing his wife and best friend. and also my mum isnt a christian. before her diagnosis she was reluctant to discuss faith saying it wasnt for her. now she does listen but still seems quite unreceptive to truth.

so not only do I face losing my mum, I also face having to live with the horror of knowing my loving and kind mum will spend eternity in hell.

what on earth can I do?

Find your Bible. Read to her Genesis 1:1. Then show her this ancient copy of the Book of Matthew, where the birth of Jesus is recorded.

Share with her that the birth of Jesus is found in the Gospel according to Matthew; He was Spiritually conceived by the Holy Spirit in the virgin Mary, in the village of Bethlehem, in the province known as Judea. The Hebrew Bible, or Old Testament, mentioned that He would one day be Spiritually birthed.

Show her this photo:

Read to her from the Book of John, John 1:1-10. It points back to Genesis 1, then provides the wonderful description of just who Jesus is: The LIGHT of the world, blessed revelation of God.

Jesus brought to the attention of those in that day, and through the writings of John and the Apostle Paul, the reality of our Savior.

The Apostle Paul was chosen to reveal to everyone, everywhere, Jew, non-Jew, everyone, God's plan to redeem us, to unite us with Him. Paul indicates the "plan" in two passages:

Romans 10:8-13, and the additional assurance in Romans 8:1. That assurance is repeated in John 5:24, and in Ephesians 2:8-9. Anyone who confesses Jesus as Savior is born again, Spiritually birthed, and will pass from death in this life to eternal life in the Presence of our Savior.

Father, add your blessing to the reading of your Word.

"Open our eyes, Lord, we want to see Jesus, to reach out and touch Him, to say that we love Him." Open our ears Lord, we want to listen, calmly and securely, to the Holy Spirit.

We give you all Honor, all Glory, all Praise.

 

[Poppyseed78]

I'm so sorry. I wish peace and comfort to your mother, you, and your family. I encourage you to keep talking to your mom about Christ, and keep praying that she opens up her heart.

 

[Hieronymus]

I'm wondering though..
I think you wouldn't want to preach and preach to her till the end.
I really think Love is more important.
Preach out of Love, not out of fear.
Maybe leave it up to God.
I don't know..
Just wanted to point out that although it's painful, these terrible things in life bond people, which may be more important than evangelizing.


I forgot to say i'm sorry you have to go through this, and i wish you strength in mind and in Faith.

 

[disciple1]

Hi all. My mum (55 years old) (non christian) has metastatic breast cancer in her bone. it is in her spine, pelvis and shoulder.

God has been gracious towards me during these emotionally tough times by giving me a great support network. But my dad who is also a christian, is miserable and struggling to cope with the reality of losing his wife and best friend. and also my mum isnt a christian. before her diagnosis she was reluctant to discuss faith saying it wasnt for her. now she does listen but still seems quite unreceptive to truth.

so not only do I face losing my mum, I also face having to live with the horror of knowing my loving and kind mum will spend eternity in hell.

what on earth can I do?

First of all about you mother going to hell, God judges the heart we don't know what he sees.
James chapter 4 verse 12
There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who is able to save and destroy. But you--who are you to judge your neighbor?


And about your mother dying, you could pray, here's a verse about a king God told he was going to die he prayed and God added 15 years to his life.


2 Kings chapter 20 verse 6
I will add fifteen years to your life. And I will deliver you and this city from the hand of the king of Assyria. I will defend this city for my sake and for the sake of my servant David.'"

 

[chilehed]

Hi all. My mum (55 years old) (non christian) has metastatic breast cancer in her bone. it is in her spine, pelvis and shoulder.

I'm so very sorry. My mother died of cancer ten years ago.

so not only do I face losing my mum, I also face having to live with the horror of knowing my loving and kind mum will spend eternity in hell.

You don't know that. Pray, and leave her judgement up to God, who is merciful and who knows her heart much better than you ever can.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Please go elsewhere.
You have been reported.

Good

 

[Rescued One]

Hi all. My mum (55 years old) (non christian) has metastatic breast cancer in her bone. it is in her spine, pelvis and shoulder.

God has been gracious towards me during these emotionally tough times by giving me a great support network. But my dad who is also a christian, is miserable and struggling to cope with the reality of losing his wife and best friend. and also my mum isnt a christian. before her diagnosis she was reluctant to discuss faith saying it wasnt for her. now she does listen but still seems quite unreceptive to truth.

so not only do I face losing my mum, I also face having to live with the horror of knowing my loving and kind mum will spend eternity in hell.

what on earth can I do?

Oh, Ben! I feel your pain and I have tears in my eyes! My sister died of cancer at age forty-five. Her creepy husband wouldn't let me witness to her. My husband died of cancer, too.

You know I'm praying for you.

Isaiah 41:10
10 Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.

 

[Rescued One]

I'm so sorry. I wish peace and comfort to your mother, you, and your family. I encourage you to keep talking to your mom about Christ, and keep praying that she opens up her heart.

Your words are beautiful.
My ninety-three-year-old mother will probably die as a non-Christian. We tried to teach her.

 

[Rescued One]

I'm wondering though..
I think you wouldn't want to preach and preach to her till the end.
I really think Love is more important.
Preach out of Love, not out of fear.
Maybe leave it up to God.
I don't know..
Just wanted to point out that although it's painful, these terrible things in life bond people, which may be more important than evangelizing.


I forgot to say i'm sorry you have to go through this, and i wish you strength in mind and in Faith.

Love and sharing the gospel go together.

 

[Hearingheart]

Praying for you and your family during this time.

Love her during the time she has left, shower her with kindness, mercy and patience. God knows her heart and if she has heard the message of the gospel, allow God's Spirit to speak through your love.

 

[RC1970]

Hi all. My mum (55 years old) (non christian) has metastatic breast cancer in her bone. it is in her spine, pelvis and shoulder.

God has been gracious towards me during these emotionally tough times by giving me a great support network. But my dad who is also a christian, is miserable and struggling to cope with the reality of losing his wife and best friend. and also my mum isnt a christian. before her diagnosis she was reluctant to discuss faith saying it wasnt for her. now she does listen but still seems quite unreceptive to truth.

so not only do I face losing my mum, I also face having to live with the horror of knowing my loving and kind mum will spend eternity in hell.

what on earth can I do?

"And this is the confidence that we have toward Him, that if we ask anything according to His will He hears us." ~ 1 John 5:14

 

[joshua 1 9]

what on earth can I do?

You can pray and ask God to comfort you with the Peace that surpasses all understanding.

Phil 4:7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

 

[MyrtleBlossom]

It is absolutely heart wrenching to know a family member who has elected to not follow Jesus. You can as suggested keep praying, Trust in God that He will not 'accidently' forget that He Created and Formed your mother with a purpose. Demonstrate the love of God as you care for her and be gentle and ask if you are okay to pray for her if she will accept that, otherwise pray and cry in your own space.

 

[Brian Mcnamee]

Hi all. My mum (55 years old) (non christian) has metastatic breast cancer in her bone. it is in her spine, pelvis and shoulder.

God has been gracious towards me during these emotionally tough times by giving me a great support network. But my dad who is also a christian, is miserable and struggling to cope with the reality of losing his wife and best friend. and also my mum isnt a christian. before her diagnosis she was reluctant to discuss faith saying it wasnt for her. now she does listen but still seems quite unreceptive to truth.

so not only do I face losing my mum, I also face having to live with the horror of knowing my loving and kind mum will spend eternity in hell.

what on earth can I do?

Hi all. My mum (55 years old) (non christian) has metastatic breast cancer in her bone. it is in her spine, pelvis and shoulder.

God has been gracious towards me during these emotionally tough times by giving me a great support network. But my dad who is also a christian, is miserable and struggling to cope with the reality of losing his wife and best friend. and also my mum isnt a christian. before her diagnosis she was reluctant to discuss faith saying it wasnt for her. now she does listen but still seems quite unreceptive to truth.

so not only do I face losing my mum, I also face having to live with the horror of knowing my loving and kind mum will spend eternity in hell.

what on earth can I do?

HI a friend of mine was a neighbor of someone in the same situation the 1st thing he did was get a prayer chain going and then he made a visit to the dying neighbor. He asked them what they believed would happen after they died. This is key to find out what she is standing on. Many put off thinking about this their whole lives. Well this person said they did not know. My friend asked if they were scared and they admitted they were. Now my friend was able to tell them that he no longer was in fear of death and was able to present the gospel as a law like gravity that either you have Jesus or you don't. He asked the man if he wanted to receive Christ and he did. Your moms greater need is not healing but the gospel adn sometimes preaching in a frontal assault drives people away. But if you can get them to admit they have no idea then your ideas are presentable. Ill be praying for you.