Tips/suggestions to attract the opposite gender

[Applekrate]

How is that for a name?
Perhaps this has been done before, if it has not, it should have been.
So, am starting this thread looking for real suggestions and tips to help attract the opposite gender for all of us. This would especially apply to a Bible believing Christian opposite gender.

Am looking more serious, meaningful replies that may help all of us.

As a guy, here are some of mine to the gals-

1. show that you take care of yourself but, not overdue it.
Expensive clothes are great for special occasions but, can turn off men as you may look too "expensive" or what others call "high maintence"
2 Make eye contact with someone you have interest in. Of course, it has to be appropriate, do not stare.
3. When you go to church, carry a real Bible with you
4. Look your best. I know, the majority of women are not Barbie dolls. Most women seem to hate and despise women that are thinner than they are. If you are overweight, why not loose some weight? You will be healthier, feel better about yourself and be more attractive to men. Most women I see can easily loose 5-10 pounds and look nicer and it probably cost nothing to do.
5. Don't drees like a tramp. that is unless that is the type of man you wish to attract. do not show too much skin in the wrong places. It gives the impression of being promiscuous.

Again, this thread is thought to make suggestions from Bible believers to the opposite gender in a effort to help us all. Not to attack or unsult anyone..
Am hoping to hear a lot from the women here in this adult section.
blessings.

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

1. Show up
2. Let your amazing personality shine.
3. Repeat 2 till you get the digits.

 

[Hall]

I've noticed that the Holy Spirit in us attracts Christians automatically, so I would say to try to reflect it by being filled with it as much as possible. And that's the way God picks someone for us.

 

[PropheticTimes]

1. Be yourself. I don't want you to impress me, I want you to be genuine.
2. Always put God before me.
3. Have a sense of humor. If you can't laugh at yourself we won't get along.
4. Numbers 1-3 become more important the older you become.

It's not about looks, gravity and life stresses take its toll on everyone over time.
What is in the heart is of utmost importance.

 

[( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)]

I've noticed that the Holy Spirit in us attracts Christians automatically, so I would say to try to reflect it by being filled with it as much as possible. And that's the way God picks someone for us.

I agree. I would wonder how many couples were attracted to their partner spiritually before becoming involved.

 

[Hall]

I agree. I would wonder how many couples were attracted to their partner spiritually before becoming involved.

I'm one of them, I was attracted more by her spirit than by the superficial, although looks are kind of an important part too.

 

[Hall]

@ Applekrate- Don't ever mention #4 to a woman

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

@ Applekrate- Don't ever mention #4 to a woman

So how do you suggest a woman to lose a few pounds then?

 

[( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)]

So how do you suggest a woman to lose a few pounds then?

LOL. Are you kidding?

 

[-Luca]

Apart from the usual things such as hygiene and how you compose yourself, I feel like that the most you can do is to be yourself.

You either find a person attractive or you don't, you can't force yourself to like someone. And for me at least, I subconsciously "rate" someone and once I do there is little left for me to do, I like them or I don't.

 

[Hall]

So how do you suggest a woman to lose a few pounds then?

I'll let the women answer that one

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

I'll let the women answer that one

Well lets hope they have some good advice. Cause applekrate is right, if a woman could just lose like 10-20 pounds I mean it would do a world of difference. And thats all most women need to lose amirite fellas???

 

[Hall]

Well lets hope they have some good advice. Cause applekrate is right, if a woman could just lose like 10-20 pounds I mean it would do a world of difference. And thats all most women need to lose amirite fellas???

As far as I know, most women are very sensitive about that subject and usually are very aware if they need to lose weight, so unless you want to get slapped in the face or hurt someone I wouldn't say anything lol

 

[-Luca]

As far as I know, most women are very sensitive about that subject and usually are very aware if they need to lose weight, so unless you want to get slapped in the face or hurt someone I wouldn't say anything lol

More cushion for the pushin?

 

[Hall]

More cushion for the pushin?

Oh boy what am I doing on this thread...slowly walking out of here ...

 

[Cearbhall]

I would rather people just be themselves and act/dress according to what's important to them, and then they'll attract the people who are a good match for them.

For example, I'm not going to stop wearing pricey clothes just so that I can attract a guy who doesn't like when women wear pricey clothes. What would be the point of that? And if a guy likes wearing t-shirts pretty much all the time, I wouldn't want him to change that just to attract me.

 

[Paulie079]

How is that for a name?
Perhaps this has been done before, if it has not, it should have been.
So, am starting this thread looking for real suggestions and tips to help attract the opposite gender for all of us. This would especially apply to a Bible believing Christian opposite gender.

Am looking more serious, meaningful replies that may help all of us.

As a guy, here are some of mine to the gals-

1. show that you take care of yourself but, not overdue it.
Expensive clothes are great for special occasions but, can turn off men as you may look too "expensive" or what others call "high maintence"
2 Make eye contact with someone you have interest in. Of course, it has to be appropriate, do not stare.
3. When you go to church, carry a real Bible with you
4. Look your best. I know, the majority of women are not Barbie dolls. Most women seem to hate and despise women that are thinner than they are. If you are overweight, why not loose some weight? You will be healthier, feel better about yourself and be more attractive to men. Most women I see can easily loose 5-10 pounds and look nicer and it probably cost nothing to do.
5. Don't drees like a tramp. that is unless that is the type of man you wish to attract. do not show too much skin in the wrong places. It gives the impression of being promiscuous.

Again, this thread is thought to make suggestions from Bible believers to the opposite gender in a effort to help us all. Not to attack or unsult anyone..
Am hoping to hear a lot from the women here in this adult section.
blessings.

Okay, I'm going to try to be nice about this. First of all, it's one thing if you want to give other guys tips on how to attract a lady, but let's not make this about people telling the opposite gender basically how to be attractive. You said you don't desire for anyone to be insulted, but I guarantee that you have already broken your own rule, especially with #4. There is already an immense amount of pressure on women to look thinner and conform to the culture's standards of beauty. Let's not perpetuate it. If this is about how other women could attract you personally, that's one thing, but the title of the thread is about how to attract the "opposite gender."

Second, your OP basically assumes that women on this forum want to know how they can be attractive for you and other guys. That's an awfully big assumption to make, and you know what happens when you assume.

Third, I am going to offer you some advice on how to be more attractive. Treat women with the same amount of respect you would like to be treated with. Your list basically assumes that women have to somehow strike a balance between looking too high maintenance and too casual in order to be attractive, that they don't make an effort to look their best, that they are too heavy, and that they dress like tramps. Your list is all about appearances and it is entirely shallow. There is enough hate in Singles being shown toward women. I have had it communicated to me personally how shallow, insulting, and belittling the men in Singles have been as far as things they have said about women. Let's not add to it. Yes, physical attraction is necessary for a relationship, but your list does not include any requirements for a lot of guys to find a woman attractive, and I guarantee the assumptions you are making about the women here are insulting to them.
And something to keep in mind--women aren't interested in attracting shallow guys, so it's probably best to work on not being one yourself.

 

[leothelioness]

Okay, I'm going to try to be nice about this. First of all, it's one thing if you want to give other guys tips on how to attract a lady, but let's not make this about people telling the opposite gender basically how to be attractive. You said you don't desire for anyone to be insulted, but I guarantee that you have already broken your own rule, especially with #4. There is already an immense amount of pressure on women to look thinner and conform to the culture's standards of beauty. Let's not perpetuate it. If this is about how other women could attract you personally, that's one thing, but the title of the thread is about how to attract the "opposite gender."

Second, your OP basically assumes that women on this forum want to know how they can be attractive for you and other guys. That's an awfully big assumption to make, and you know what happens when you assume.

Third, I am going to offer you some advice on how to be more attractive. Treat women with the same amount of respect you would like to be treated with. Your list basically assumes that women have to somehow strike a balance between looking too high maintenance and too casual in order to be attractive, that they don't make an effort to look their best, that they are too heavy, and that they dress like tramps. Your list is all about appearances and it is entirely shallow. There is enough hate in Singles being shown toward women. I have had it communicated to me personally how shallow, insulting, and belittling the men in Singles have been as far as things they have said about women. Let's not add to it. Yes, physical attraction is necessary for a relationship, but your list does not include any requirements for a lot of guys to find a woman attractive, and I guarantee the assumptions you are making about the women here are insulting to them.
And something to keep in mind--women aren't interested in attractive shallow guys, so it's probably best to work on not being one yourself.

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

Okay, I'm going to try to be nice about this. First of all, it's one thing if you want to give other guys tips on how to attract a lady, but let's not make this about people telling the opposite gender basically how to be attractive. You said you don't desire for anyone to be insulted, but I guarantee that you have already broken your own rule, especially with #4. There is already an immense amount of pressure on women to look thinner and conform to the culture's standards of beauty. Let's not perpetuate it. If this is about how other women could attract you personally, that's one thing, but the title of the thread is about how to attract the "opposite gender."

Second, your OP basically assumes that women on this forum want to know how they can be attractive for you and other guys. That's an awfully big assumption to make, and you know what happens when you assume.

Third, I am going to offer you some advice on how to be more attractive. Treat women with the same amount of respect you would like to be treated with. Your list basically assumes that women have to somehow strike a balance between looking too high maintenance and too casual in order to be attractive, that they don't make an effort to look their best, that they are too heavy, and that they dress like tramps. Your list is all about appearances and it is entirely shallow. There is enough hate in Singles being shown toward women. I have had it communicated to me personally how shallow, insulting, and belittling the men in Singles have been as far as things they have said about women. Let's not add to it. Yes, physical attraction is necessary for a relationship, but your list does not include any requirements for a lot of guys to find a woman attractive, and I guarantee the assumptions you are making about the women here are insulting to them.
And something to keep in mind--women aren't interested in attractive shallow guys, so it's probably best to work on not being one yourself.

So much wisdom and relationship sense. How can you be single with such amazing knowledge?

 

[-Luca]

There is already an immense amount of pressure on women to look thinner and conform to the culture's standards of beauty. Let's not perpetuate it.

How is this any different with men? As a 17 year old teenage male, cultures standard of beauty is saying to be muscular and big, the opposite of woman.

A guy tells a girl to lose weight, she feels sad. But then how do you think I would feel if a girl told me I was not muscular enough?