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I have autism spectrum disorder and I've never had a girlfriend :(.
Same here. I don't really know how to initiate a date. I mean, I have an idea, but I don't know how to make it not seem artificial. Furthermore I feel like I need to get my own house in order first.
 
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For a good portion of the last year, I had feelings for a girl in a long-term relationship. Since I've been able to move on, there are a few girls that peak my interesting, and I'm just kind of seeing where they go.
 
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One of my neighbours has autism. He did have a girlfriend when he was younger but she moved away, and then another one but she turned out to be abusive so he dropped her snd i dont think he had another one he was serious about after that.
He does have this kind of intense obssession with judy garland though. Im friends with him but we not couple. I couldnt compete with a dead movie star anyway. Hes got picture of her all over his bedroom.
 
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Yeah, not to mention I am only attracted to a specific type of love that is more difficult to come by.

I'm pretty much aromantic in any other sense.

Which has its pluses. I don't think I can really ever feel properly jealous of normal couples. In my mind being in such a relationship would be a living heck for me, lol.
 
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It's really simple, Christian men do not generally find me attractive. Most like/love my personality but dislike my looks
Then the "Christian men" you've known were shallow and you're better off without.
 
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Single, as in...not married? Because I feel like I'm always in a relationship of some type. Just recently was engaged, and while I had my reasons for breaking it off, maybe I'm just afraid of commitment. I'm seeing someone now, and dating doesn't scare me, but...maybe ''forever'' does. People often will tell someone ''oh, this just means he wasn't the right one.'' I've dated so many ''right'' ones, but...maybe it's me. Just fear. :(
 
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Then the "Christian men" you've known were shallow and you're better off without.

It is what it is and I don't think it's just the guys I've known or been friends with. Men are visual people, as I have been told over and over, and I am sure it is true. I'm okay with it for the most part. It may not feel great some days but I can't change that. After all what woman would want to date/marry a guy who hates how she looks (no matter how much he may enjoy her personality)? I am just not most men's cup of tea and that is okay.
 
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It is what it is and I don't think it's just the guys I've known or been friends with. Men are visual people, as I have been told over and over, and I am sure it is true. I'm okay with it for the most part, after all what woman would want to date/marry a guy who hates how she looks (no matter how much he may enjoy her personality)? I am just not most men's cup of tea and that is okay.

Unless you're a burn victim I am not sure why you can't find a man who wants to be with you.

If its something you can fix, I'd try that. Currently I'm trying to improve my body and the road to that has given me more self esteem. I don't think its shallow, just a realistic approach in finding someone you want.
 
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Unless you're a burn victim I am not sure why you can't find a man who wants to be with you.

If its something you can fix, I'd try that. Currently I'm trying to improve my body and the road to that has given me more self esteem. I don't think its shallow, just a realistic approach in finding someone you want.

No, I am not a burn victim. IF I was willing to date a non-Christian I wouldn't have a problem but I won't date a guy who isn't a Christian. I am sure some Christian guy, somewhere out there would be interested.

It's not something I can completely fix, though I have tried and am trying. I have a health issue which causes the other issue....soooooo....yeah. It is okay though, it really is probably better this way. I don't want y'all to think I am throwing a pity party. I shouldn't have even posted. ^_^ It was a moment of weakness due to introvert social overload and a crazy week.

Good for you! I hope you reach your goal. :) We are rooting for you!!
 
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No, I am not a burn victim. IF I was willing to date a non-Christian I wouldn't have a problem but I won't date a guy who isn't a Christian. I am sure some Christian guy, somewhere out there would be interested.

It's not something I can completely fix, though I have tried and am trying. I have a health issue which causes the other issue....soooooo....yeah. It is okay though, it really is probably better this way. I don't want y'all to think I am throwing a pity party. I shouldn't have even posted. ^_^ It was a moment of weakness due to introvert social overload and a crazy week.

Good for you! I hope you reach your goal. :) We are rooting for you!!

Why would you have a harder time with Christians compared to non-Christians? If you don't want to get into detail, I understand.
 
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Because I am what I am.......

Always loved it.. Pee Wee always had cute women wanting him but he'd just blow them off..

Lol. The woman in that scene I believe is the same person who voiced Tommy on The Rugrats.. lol.
 
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Why would you have a harder time with Christians compared to non-Christians? If you don't want to get into detail, I understand.

I honestly have no idea but it has been the pattern of my life.
It's not that there has never been a Christian man who has been interested. Some of them just never asked and I found out about it years later. Some asked me out and I found out they were horrible (treated me badly, etc). I once had a "Christian" guy stalk me. One or two of them lead me to believe one thing while they never intended anything because I wasn't thin enough, pretty enough, too tall, etc. Anyway you get the idea.
 
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Single, as in...not married? Because I feel like I'm always in a relationship of some type. Just recently was engaged, and while I had my reasons for breaking it off, maybe I'm just afraid of commitment. I'm seeing someone now, and dating doesn't scare me, but...maybe ''forever'' does. People often will tell someone ''oh, this just means he wasn't the right one.'' I've dated so many ''right'' ones, but...maybe it's me. Just fear. :(

If you don't mind me asking, how long were you and your ex-fiancé together?
 
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It is what it is and I don't think it's just the guys I've known or been friends with. Men are visual people, as I have been told over and over, and I am sure it is true. I'm okay with it for the most part. It may not feel great some days but I can't change that. After all what woman would want to date/marry a guy who hates how she looks (no matter how much he may enjoy her personality)? I am just not most men's cup of tea and that is okay.
That can be true in some cases but not all.

My ex was not attractive. The first time I saw her, I had two thoughts: "Nose", and "Eyebrows". She had the largest nose I'd ever seen on a woman. Like, if you miss-kissed her, she'd put your eye out :p And her eyebrows were super thick and busy, and she apparently didn't know how or didn't care to pluck/trim/or whatever it is you ladies do with them :p
Other than that, she could best be described as "plain". But her personality drew me in, and then I noticed her goofy grin, and little by little as I grew attached to her as a person, I became more and more attracted to her appearance until her flaws weren't flaws, but parts of her, and since I liked her, I liked them too. I'm not saying it's easy to overcome initial impressions, but if you're not shallow, and if you love someone's personality, then their looks- your perception of them- change.
 
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