Worst Reason You Got Broken Up With

[ReesePiece23]

I wouldn't want to be someone that used God as a substitute for my lack of backbone when I met my Maker.

Pathetic.

MEOW!

Wow, someone's got their claws out tonight. Was your milk sour this morning by any chance?


Edit: to answer the thread, I always tend to have very civil break ups. I don't have a bad word to say about any of my ex's.

To be fair, I've only felt that 'connection' with my ex partner, and one other girl. And on both counts the separation or 'change of direction' was only a pleasant and consensual experience.

 

[High Fidelity]

MEOW!

Wow, someone's got their claws out tonight. Was your milk sour this morning by any chance?


Edit: to answer the thread, I always tend to have very civil break ups. I don't have a bad word to say about any of my ex's.

To be fair, I've only felt that 'connection' with my ex partner, and one other girl. And on both counts the separation or 'change of direction' was only a pleasant and consensual experience.

Would you want to stand before God and answer for not just bearing false witness, but bearing false witness and dishonouring God in the process further by stating it was His will?

I know I wouldn't!

 

[ReesePiece23]

Would you want to stand before God and answer for not just bearing false witness, but bearing false witness and dishonouring God in the process further by stating it was His will?

I know I wouldn't!

You've just stopped me in my tracks mate... You're going to have to dumb it down a bit so that I can understand.

 

[Goodbook]

Sounds like he is from a Pentecostal church. I know his lady who was dating a Pentecostal guy. After just a few months he suddenly told her that God told him to marry her. She was like uh no we just started. Then the BF bought the GF to an elder of the Pentecostal church and the elder said God told her that the BF and the GF should marry. The GF was like uh I will think about it but right now is too early. The GF even told the BF flat out that God never told her anything about that.

A few weeks later the BF told the GF that, since she refused to obey God's will, God now commends him to break up with her. And that's what he did.

Those crazy pentecostals.
God told me to tell you...its like chinese whispers.
Couldnt he tell you Himself???

Anyway. What Ive observed of baptist church couples is that they grow up both in church and they look at each other from across the pew. Then theres this whole prayer chain thing that gets people of a certain age to marry, so that the whole church can come to the wedding, otherwise its boring. Then babies get born, and they also get added to the church and they grow up to be youth pastors.

Presys dont really care which way, they will meet at youth rallies or through families and it doesnt matter if they both believe or not. My parents got married in a presy church.

 

[High Fidelity]

You've just stopped me in my tracks mate... You're going to have to dumb it down a bit so that I can understand.

Bearing false witness(lying) is a sin. So the sin of lying is one thing to answer for, but to lie about God telling you to do something is not something I'd want to answer for(or any sin, really, but I'd imagine it's probably worse lol).

 

[Goodbook]

One guy I dated claimed he was a christian and that God was giving him urges to fornicate with me. Um ok.

 

[Jack of Spades]

Sounds like he is from a Pentecostal church.

That kind of stuff is pretty normal with any Christians who are strongly Charismatic. Pentecostals are not the only Charismatic Christians, so can happen elsewhere too than with Pentecostals.

Would you want to stand before God and answer for not just bearing false witness, but bearing false witness and dishonouring God in the process further by stating it was His will?

How do you exactly know the guy was lying and wasn't honestly believing he is obeying God? You seem to know a lot about him.

 

[ReesePiece23]

Bearing false witness(lying) is a sin. So the sin of lying is one thing to answer for, but to lie about God telling you to do something is not something I'd want to answer for(or any sin, really, but I'd imagine it's probably worse lol).

Okay, yup, I'm with you now. (I'm not as smart as people seem to think.)

Yeah... Supposing he was lying, you could possibly add blasphemy to that stack as well. I'm not the guy in question, but I know that God wouldn't just come into your room like the tooth fairy, and drop a message under your pillow to tell you to end your relationship. Such things would take time, and a lot of careful thought before execution.

I think I know who it was, and I always thought he was a nugget short of a Happy Meal - and I'd tell him so as well.

(I'm honestly turning into my dad in my old age. I'm awfully blunt now.)

 

[High Fidelity]

How do you exactly know the guy was lying and wasn't honestly believing he is obeying God? You seem to know a lot about him.

Because I knew him and his character enough to know it was codswallop.

 

[High Fidelity]

a nugget short of a Happy Meal

Now there's one that I haven't heard before lol.

But yes I agree. Of all the times for Him to present Himself, it probably isn't to end a relationship.

 

[Jack of Spades]

Because I knew him and his character enough to know it was codswallop.

Alright, if you say so.

I asked because I could have said/done similar things at some point in my life (When I was Charismatic Christian, about 10-15 years ago), and most likely I would have honestly thought it was God's will.

 

[Somber]

I am so sorry what so many have had to endure in this thread! Sounds awful some of the experiences!!

 

[High Fidelity]

Alright, if you say so.

I asked because I could have said/done similar things at some point in my life (When I was Charismatic Christian, about 10-15 years ago), and most likely I would have honestly thought it was God's will.

Indeed But deceptive manifestations of the mind don't amount to truth.

I don't believe he was being honest.

 

[Swan7]

Things Christians should know is putting on His full Armor against such things because the Devil exists just as much as God. Those whispers are not always from Him.

 

[LadyOfMystery]

Things Christians should know is putting on His full Armor against such things because the Devil exists just as much as God. Those whispers are not always from Him.

Exactly, that's what I think too.

 

[CCHIPSS]

Things Christians should know is putting on His full Armor against such things because the Devil exists just as much as God. Those whispers are not always from Him.

Yeah exactly. We really have to be careful. In that GF's example, it would seem like God changed his mind. So firstly God wants that BF and GF to marry. Then then a few weeks later God now wants the BF to break up with her for disobedient?

The danger of these Pentecostal and charismatic Christian is that God "always" seems to want what they want. God wants what is convenient for them. If I am a skeptic, I would say that many of these people were just using God's name to get what they themselves wanted.

 

[SnowyMacie]

Yeah exactly. We really have to be careful. In that GF's example, it would seem like God changed his mind. So firstly God wants that BF and GF to marry. Then then a few weeks later God now wants the BF to break up with her for disobedient?

The danger of these Pentecostal and charismatic Christian is that God "always" seems to want what they want. God wants what is convenient for them. If I am a skeptic, I would say that many of these people were just using God's name to get what they themselves wanted.

I've always thought there using it because they think it's letting them down easy, sort of the Christianized version of "it's not you, it's me".

 

[Jack of Spades]

I've always thought there using it because they think it's letting them down easy, sort of the Christianized version of "it's not you, it's me".

Makes loads of sense, but it can be said in two different ways which makes a world of difference:

1) God wants me to break up with you, because you're sinner and bad influence while I'm not that way.
2) God wants me to break up with you, I think you're good person but maybe it's just not meant to be in Gods plans.

The difference between sense of mystery vs sense of superiority.

 

[William67]

I don't think I have ever had a "worst" reason. Most of the time it was that we both realized it wouldn't work. A few times I broke up with them because they lied and cheated. I did have one tell me she thought I worked too much.

 

[mojoboy31]

I am so sorry what so many have had to endure in this thread! Sounds awful some of the experiences!!

Meh, it's all a part of living. And there are valuable lessons to be learned through suffering.