You just gave me a great flashback. Twenty-some years ago, I heard a preacher say something like this: "If someone says to you, 'Brother, I want to tell you something in love,' you'd better brace yourself, 'cause what you hear next isn't going to sound anything like 'love.'"

Amen.

Flash back too!!
I had a friend that would always get in my "bubble"
(personal space) You know, a "close talker".
If I sat at the dining table across from her, she'd
never fail to come sit next to me AND scoot her
chair closer. If i went to the kitchen for something,
she'd often follow me around talking.
One time we were out on my 3 season porch, sitting
at a tall, 4 chair cafe table.
One time, I had run inside for a second, came back
out and sat across from her.
She looked at me like I was some criminal and said that
she saw "the devil" in me. Said that when I was inside
she had "blessed" the chair next to her (which i avoided
like the plague because I wanted SPACE! lol)
Never forgot her saying she saw the devil in me.
Worst thing anyone's ever said to me!!
Methinks we need better instruction in the churches.
IMo